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Ladies: Would You Tell Your Man How Much You Earn Or Are Worth?

I believe women are more secretive. what would you ladies do? would you disclose your true worth to your man. I have a friend that his mother built a house and the husband does not know even till today. They are both happily married and the husband is not even aware of this fact. What do you think is the best thing to do? So share your opinions on this thread. thanx

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@lightest

that is so wrong!!!

@siena

splendid answer!!!

@topic

why not? especially if she is my wife. if she doesn't know what I earn then, like has been rightly said, she has no business being my wife. gbam!!!

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Would you care to expand upon that?

Not being critical, just curious to understand your reasoning.

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i will never agree with the poster above me. because at times keeping ones mouth shut is the secret of been successfull

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I WILL share personal information with my wife, that includes how much I bring home.

I'd expect the same from her too.

The only thing that would prevent a married couple in sharing info on their earnings, is greed and distrust.

As far as I'm concerned, if a couple are not comfortable sharing financial issues / disclosing their earnings, then they don't belong together.

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yes !men need to know that all they are needed for is sex ( in some case love, maybe) how ever from experience men usually run away from a woman who  earns more than they do.

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well i'll tell my boyfriend how much i earn,if he dosent earn as much as i earn,it will only motivate him to up his game,

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i tend not to tell my b.f how much am worth cos they tend to get jealous so i lie about what i actually get. his behaviour changes when he knows this and when we argue he goes like its not ur fault when u know u can do , get , and all sorts of rubbish

so i tend to just keep it to myself

it even got to a point he started telling me that by now u should have $, in your account and since then i cannot and will not tell my b.f

but for my hussy, hmmm i dont know yet till then

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It’s amazing how greed has destroyed our moral instinct in this generation. I don’t understand what people think of marriage. Please don’t venture into marriage if you are not prepared for it. I cannot imagine having a wife that can’t tell me everything she’s worth because I will do same and with good reasons too. If she decides to kill me after knowing how I am worth who lost? Firstly I want you to understand that I am not a low life, I earn salary in the six digit region with gratuity and pension amongst other benefit but what is marriage without trust? I have read threads here bothering on these issues and I feel absolutely disgusted. Take the story of the woman for instance, the question is; does anyone else know about her owning a house? If yes then what’s the husband’s position in her heart? Seems to me like he’s just her bed shearer or at best, her kids father if they have any. If my wife treasures anybody (mother, father relations, friends etc) above me, she had better married such person(s). I [i]understand that I am just silly in this generation but I am enjoying it nonetheless and except I[/i][b][/b] find such silly person, there aren’t going to be any marriage for me. My girlfriend knows exactly how much I earn, she has seen my employment letter and vice versa. She has my ATM card when I am at work and can't reach the city but she dares not make any withdrawal without my permission. She even had it before she got a job and I can’t imagine her now hiding things for me.

The truth is that; I have a seemingly different understanding of how relationship should look like, maybe I am still living in utopia so I pray that I wake up soon. The facts remains that I have been through and around this babes issue, I have laid babes in multiples of ten or even 3 digits, I have loved and been loved but I still know what I want from my woman and I am ready to give as much. If anyone is going into relationship with the hope of what you can get out of it, then brace up for all that poo because it’s all coming back to you.

From my experience, you will always get what you give. It may not be in your current relationship but it will ultimately come around and most times when you least expect it. If your spouse does not and should not know your worth then, drop the relationship because you are most likely to be dating/married to a gold digger.

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Where is Accountability in the relationship.

I believe we are supposed to be accountable to one another.

I cant see myself hiding such info from my husband,best friend and accountability partner.

Who else will I tell?

I believe a marital relationship should be based on 100% sincerity.

That is why you need to be careful who you marry.

Shalom.

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Where is Accountability in the relationship.

I believ we are supposed to be accountable to one another.

I cant see myself hiding such info from my husband,best friend and accountability partner.

Who else will I tell?

I believe a marital relationship should be based on 100% sincerity.

That is why you need to be careful who you marry.

Shalom.

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@osegwa & freelance

if its MY husband then its okay to let him know how much i earn.but if its a boyfriend then its no business of his knowing how much i earn.

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So the fact is that you can not trust your man 100%.

It also means that even when you are married you would still be secretive and hide things from your man.

Haba women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Well well well. You ladies should not forget

that what ever you have rightfully belongs

to your husband and no secret shall you keep from him

Thus says the Holy Bible

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It's not his business so of course I won't tell him. I do believe that there are just some things you keep to yourself. I won't even let my husband (if I decide on getting married) know how much I pocket,

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