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Ladies: Your Love Life Or Your Career. Must We Choose?

When i was still studying engineering in school, one cynical lecturer told me engineering was practically a waste on women because we never have what it takes to work as engineers. I was soo mad!! So i set out to prove him wrong. i left school in August and i got a job in October in Abuja without having served. the salary on my appointment letter was 63k. i knew it was too good 2 b true because they just told me they made a mistake and it shld be 35k. Its still good since i have no experience to offer.

my problem is, now my fiance believes that i'm worth more than that and he wants me to come back to ph where he is and get certifications before my service next yr february. i believe he just wants me near him since Abuja is no place for a young single lady on her ownabi? i really like the job here but i also want to be where he is.

Although living in Abj i tend to spend almost the 35k in a month i'm wondering whether i should give up such a job that is really what i want to do to go back to Ph because 'His royal Highness' wants me with him. Yes i miss him, yes i want to be with him but do i really have to sacrifice my career for that??

i'm so confused.

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A man who loves his woman, should support her at home

and in her career. at least he knew she was a career woman

when he met her. its a cheap goal, when he starts to complain.

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Uncle, u got me wrong there, If u've not yet gone to serve its hard for u to get a 63k job, cos i'm in dat shoessomehow i feel the guy's telling her to come over must be a selfish interest thingy. If not that'll be hard to believe.

Saying distance kills relationship, is something i agree to, but i'm sure she had to deal with dat when she was in school, & she's still going to deal with it when she goes to serve. So why the trouble. This is an easy thing, if i were her, i will maintain my job, & see him every weekend if that is how i can save my relationship. But really a relationship meant to be will be no matter the hindrance or obstacle.

place ur, YIM

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This is a discision you'll have to make yourself.

You must find a way to balance your career with your relationship. It is very important that you don't let either of them suffer for the other.

If your fiance is asking you to move to Port harcourt and get professional certifications, I'm of the opinion that he's willing to sponsor the programs.

I really don't see anything wrong here, you don't have anything to loose. Remember, if you have to go and serve, you're bound to leave this job which you're doing now, but you don't need to leave your fiance.

The only area am not comfortable with is weather you're going to be living with him in PH or you'll have your accomadation. If he expects you to live with him, then, you might have to think twice. If not, please use this opportunity to get that really well deserved and useful certifications. You definitely won't regret it after service. Then, you'll have very good job opportunities.

Good luck. Let's know what your final descision is.

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AND Jkpretty, ill say you went overboard in this your advice. Her hubby feeling insecured??

Do you believe in LDR? (LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP). The best way to scatter a relationship is when you guys are far from each other.

You talking about seeing better guys in Abuja. Im laffing at you. What if what looks like a better guy turns out to be sham? she will lose in both ways.

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How much is 63k?arent you a corper? are u thinking you cant get a better offer? to me 63k is slavetrade. Im sure entry levels in a good organisation should be twice that amount.

Get your Bottom off to where your hubby is and be happy with what God gave to you. Remember, keep what you have and turn what you have to the best. Thats always the best way to live.

Better guys, better gurls are not just der. Dont even think in that line.

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how far? i still dont have your ID or better still, how do i reach ya?

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Your guy may be feeling in secured because u now have a job, & can do certain things on your own. And i'm sure he as well knows its an avenue for u to meet perhaps beta guys than him which he is thinking could become problems for u guys.

I'm sure u do know that if u move down to P.H u may not get another job & if u do, its God's grace. If u are comfortable with that, u could go & meet your love. But, if are so much in love with this job, & it can serve as a bright prospect for u, I'lld say remain there & sort out how u'll deal with visiting each other & bridging the gap. After all when u were in school u had ways u saw each other.

I'lld say work on the two & pray.

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Life and relationship is all about compromise.

What if u got a career but no man to call urs and all u do is work and work and when its time to settle down, u have no man becos u choose ur career over him and by the time u make ur money from ur career, some men might feel intimidated to date u while some might wanna date u for ur money

on the other hand, u got a man but no career. U end up being a house wife and have to wait for ur husband or man to give u some money before u can cater to ur needs.

ur call girl------which would u go with?

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dearie, its ur call, yu gotta choose which one you want most.

ur job or ur guy,

u can always get a new job remember, afta all yu r a graduate but if ur man falls into d hands of another gal,

u might regret it for life,

I THINK U R LUCKY HE IS TELLING YU TO COME BE WITH HIM

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