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Live-in Lover.what U Think?

hiya,

Just thought to find out what you think bout a boy and his girl living together. Some people think it brings "C FINISH".

Please lemme know what u guys think

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What I think about live-in lovers?

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@welli Thanks

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I've always wanted to experience a live-in before gettin married and i still do, but i have to admit the thot of over-familiarity, taking each otha for granted and eventual disrespect has crept into my mind

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C FINISH means disrespect,not placing value on someone,over familiarity, and so on,

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Abeg make una pardon my lil unknowledgable self. wetin be C FINISH?

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since u're smiling, means u're . . .

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u ever done that?

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watever

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yea!i belong to d skul of tot dat says it brings C FINISH.spending anite at his place is preferrable

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i think its a good idea,soo many things that was the norm in the old days are no more now,its a good idea so as to allow u both to know more about each other,with the cost of a wedding its also a good way to save up both for the wedding and the marriage,theres no use pretending that sex doesnt go on in relationships because even couples that dont live together might veryy well have more sex and get up to crazier sturvs than the live-in lovers

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Tottally agree iice, people seem to fickle and impatient. I say never to move into gether without real marriage. Make the guy have something to look forward to.

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Considering the 3 seconds love i see around, it's not advisable for most people

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Definitely a no - no. Its not a good idea. It does not mean both parties will really get to know each other as deeply as they should. And, the pretence can still be there on the part of either party. Since the real marriage is yet to be contracted traditionally, in court, church or even in a local council wedding office.

Until you 'contract' the marriage, you never really get to know each other. Also, its not in the best intrest of the woman. Because they she wont have the protection she is expected to have in law (moreso in Nigeria where marital law is yet to be fully tested). Or, what damages/ claims will the woman have recourse to after spending so much time, emotion etc and she eventually gets kicked out by the man - will you just expect her to walk and not look back?

Evenin marriages, with the backing of law, worse things have been known to happen. Life, they say, has no duplicate. And, if it is not panadol it cant be the same thing as panadol.

Marriage is a play, where no amount of rehearsal can prepare you for all the eventualities you will meet on stage.

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well like many said depends on a lot of stuffs.its a two sided case

1)true see finish will enter

2)u can get choked up at times and feel caged,cos its not marraige but cohabitation!

3)u WILL take each oda for granted!!!!!trust me

but sha, there's this oda side to it!U WILL LEARN TO DEAL AND MANAGE THE SPECIE CALLED WOMAN,they can be annoying at times but they are still the best dat can happen to a man!!!its only terrible for the lady if it doesnt lead to marriage

too much talk sef!!!bin there,don dat and i can say, avoid it cos u might not be able to handle it!!!!

better redipe is this,come once in a while,spend a couple of days and GAWA!!!!i mean WAKA!!make him BEG u to come!!! :Dhope i made small sense

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hmm my sis na true u talk,by d time both live together what does d man want to propose to again,afterall they are already doing wetin husband and wife they do?

girls should really make men hunger for them d more by doing wats right,by d time d guy begs d girl to spend d night at his place and she refuses by telling him its not decent,im very sure it will make d guy run to d girls family and do what is decent

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[some people get tired of each other after living together as boyfriend and girlfriend]

In my opinion, if one is nt mature enough to live wit a partner as friends prior to marriage den one is simply nt mature enough to marry.

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It depends on the level of maturity involved and the circonstances on which the persons involved decided to move in wit each other. There is not wrong wit it. But if ur faith and religion re to be brought in den one shud probably nt get involved cos like someone said 'it ll affect ur spirituality'

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some will live together,born 3 pikins sef and they are still considering marriage.

Putting the cart before the horse.

some ladies really need to wake up!!

How can a woman move in,cook ,clean,satisfy his manly desires,even bear his son and he's yet to knock on the door and ask for her hand properly?

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it actually depends on both parties

but im not really in support of it,u could go visiting maybe during d weekends but not living as man and wife,some people get tired of each other after living together as boyfriend and girlfriend

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It depend on:

1. both of you

2. The foundation of your relationship.

3. How long is the relaitonship.

I know the reason while some people said is not good (BECAUSE OF SEX) Good But can you tell me that SEX can't happen during the two hours you spent together, Don't let us deceive ourself again that is why i said it depend on those three things. THANKS

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live-in lovers is not a sure bet to the alter, like they say not all relationships lead to marriage. one can only live in only if that person is married from my own prospective live in lovers do not render much respect for them selves, etc.

to be cont'd

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for me its not ideal for both to live as husband and wife when  they are not married. I don't think most parents will allow their  children especially the females to illegally live with a guy; there is a price that has to be paid otherwise they will lose their dignity.

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i don't think so fluffy, it depends on wht stage d r/ship is,

my boyfriend wnts me to move in so much but i'm not sure sha but i'm not ready 4 dat anyway besides wht wld people say?

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In my opinion living together before marriage is A RECIPE FOR DISASTER!!!

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Since I started this post, I think i shld write down wat i think,

moving it with ur man is a BIG BIG step n u need 2 consider a whole lotta factors. In my opinion, I think it's cooler 4 d guy 2 ask u 2 move in b4 u actually do. u also need 2 consider h close u both r 2 each other. I am ok with being a live-in if he is ok with it.

I am not gonna leave my hairbrush 2day and my thong 2morow and my shirt d next day n my weekend bag d next n , silently move in. Sistas u know what i am talkin bout

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I dont think its adviceable.Only if u were about say two months to get married.

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which one be C finish? isn't that the main idea anyway. you want to get to know the person for who they are and not what they pretend to be when you go visit or they come to your place. i don't think it brings see finish O! You only get to know the person better and if you are not compatible, at least you'll know before you make the mistake of tying the knot.

However, this depends on the stage of the relationship sha o.

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it depends on the stage but it brings c finish so

dont venture at all

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was only passing by

l will talk write more on this topic

next l come on line but it's not a sure bet

l can assure u

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