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Love, Attraction or Infatuation: Which Comes First?

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Which one did you feel at first, when you meet your girlfriend .

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omo na attraction first ya chemistry,

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well one gets attract to a person then with the person falls in love or get infatuated with the person

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well u guys are just mentioning Attraction, Infatuation, love, okay can someone here tell us what infatuation means and what love means, then we can now say which should come first,

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i guess the topic shud av been

attraction,lust and infatuation which one comes first

cuz in this world today love hardly exists

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love ist followed by infatuation then sex lol

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attraction then love infatuation is out of the way

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You wouldn't like to date or kiss or sleep with someone you're not attracted to would you?

If you think someone is grose you wont really fall in love with them, not likely.

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Thanks, Ocho...we share the thought!

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yeah. it is very hot (steamy) just that u need to find a way to make it last long. supposed love is boring and tiring jare... i need some action!

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what is love sef? is infatuation not enuff?

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attraction comes first

and will always come first....

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wow! think thats romantic!

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dislike-attraction-love.

that was the order in which it happened for me.

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Thx, sexydoll.  In order to love someone I have to be attracted to him first.  Then I fall in love with him.  Of course then infatuation.  But all the same, this year is just me, myself and I. 

Regards,

I.B.

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Attraction, Love then infatuation.

I.B.

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hmmm...... trust nairalanders, this dicussion will not end here o!

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The discussion can now end since we all agree.

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this is the path....

Attraction------------->infatuation-------------->love

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yup itz true attraction do come first then the others follow

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welll Love is above all

but on first basis... I'd say attraction

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Atrraction gives birth to the rest.

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Definitely attraction.

Infatuation? Well, no. Infatuation doesn't happen with me.

As I get to know the person, over time, I either start to like, or dislike the person, based on personality.

If nothing works out, I forget about it and move on.

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attraction then infatuation. stop! who says love comes after?

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I agree with what you just said. It is possible to Love someone at the first sight of seeing the person. Maybe you've been hearing so much about the person like @ynot said. That will make eager to meet him/her. And with that said You've already have the feeling "LOVE" before you meet the person. What do you think?

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The truth of the matter is that there is actually nothing like LOVE. All that u can ever have is either attraction or infatuation.

This is because before two get close there must be something will attract one or both of them to want to know more about one another. which mean attraction come first. But in the course of d relationship, should anything remove that thing that attracted one to the other, every other thing ever talked about (love affection etc 0 starts loosing value

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Yes, you are alright, it is first, attraction and infatuation or love afterwards.

@Ynot

I also agreed with u. A cousin of mine saw this lady's picture in a family friend's house and right after then, they got communicating thru phone and before u say Jack Robbinson my cousin was already talking about love and that he would make sure he gets married to the lady in question. 3 months after, they met themselves at the Village and they remain the best love birds I have ever seen. The wedding bell rings May this year.

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for me, ATTRACTION comes first and then maybe infatuation and then comes the LOVE word!

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I never said anything about sex!! I'm just being realistic about love. Nna, I think you misunderstood me. I'm one of the biggest advocates of love. I just don't think it's immediate upon seeing someone.

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@naijacutie

Maybe to you. Maybe your definition of love is just having plain old sex, sex and more sex. IMHO, love is way more than that. Sex should be one of the benefits/ingredients of love. Pity, hollywood and western culture has been telling us otherwise.

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Attraction...then infatuation....and if it lasts long enough after that..love...

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I think attraction comes first cos no matter what,one thing must attract u to the other person before u start feeling infatuation/love as the case maybe.

So ATTRACTION comes first.

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What if you've heard so much good stuff about this person before you even met him/her. Isn't it possible to fall in love with the painted image on your mind? Or do you wanna tell me our unfortunate blind brothers/sisters don't fall in love? And whatever happened to 'love at first sight'.

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attraction sets it off for me, n then it could b infatuation depending on his personality!

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attraction comes first,as one need to be attracted to the "object"then imagines what could happen next,here we then talk of infatuation,love might come if...

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Attraction!!! .... my man.

it all starts from what the eye sees and the signal goes on to the next organ and from there it goes on and on and on.

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Attraction comes first. You just feel the "ohh.. i wanna know him more".

Whoever choose love needs therapy.

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