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Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?

Hmm, this is kinda, getting confusing, please how do u differentiate love or Infatutaion., in a relationship? before it leads to marriage.

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To Hannibal, I don't know you but I think that you need to grow up. A real man isn't one that can sleep with the most women or pull the most beautiful girls, any dog could do that. A real man is one that can find a woman he loves (the right one for him which requires wisdom) and can love her for as long as she lives, and take good care of her for a lifetime.

Man whores like you are so common, they lack self control, commitment and I would argue self respect- and that isn't something to brag about.

My take on marriage is that the bible says a woman should respect and serve her husband. That is the wife's role. The man's role is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Which means enough to die for her.

If a man doesn't love his wife as Christ loved the Church then how can they expect his wife to have dinner waiting and ready for him when he comes home? The bible also states that we love Christ because he first loved the us. Therefore, the wife serves her husband because he first loved her.

When you love and respect someone it is easy to do things for them, you find yourself trying to please them.

To answer the poster's question, another difference with infatuation is that unlike love, it doesn't usually come with respect. For example, if you love your girlfriend and she isn't ready for sex, you will respect her till she's ready. However, if you're just infatuated with her, once you realise that you aren't getting any, the attraction will eventually dissapear (like stillwater mentioned earlier).

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I think in order to differentiate, u have to have experienced different dilemas or issues with the person u claim u love.

You must have had a few squibbles, had lots of experiences that will draw you closer to each other or certain things must have happened in ur relationsip and u pull through it, then u know that this partner is worth considering.

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ok oo, Mr Noble pat , looks like ur an author and experienced professional,

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The different between the two is a matter of time.The truth is if u infactuate someone all u like is the physical thing, the body, the shape n everything physical or in short u want to do the koko below thing after that nothing, but when u love, I tell u,u will know.Nobody need tell u that u are in love. It is just a matter of time,

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Material goods bawo? me i no understand this love thing ooo, just simple question these people are making it complicated, shoooooooooooo

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Love is now material goods?

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There are no contradictions here.

I was speaking generally. . . . .Because some men in general fear commitment doesn't mean they are homosexuals.

Jeeeeez. . . . . .Where did that come from??

The main reason why men won't commit is because they don't wanna sacrifice their sexual variety.

They wanna keep playing. How is that gay??

Surely, Isi ewu is making u hallucinate.

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Mufasa, there is no way you is serious with this jive. No way.

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Why the hell would i wanna put someone's best interest before mine??

Even God said. . . . .Love your Neighbour AS yourself. . .

Not love your Neighbour MORE than yourself. . . . . .Savvy?

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It is one thing for you to wish her well and do your best to ensure that she stays out of harm's way, it is quite another to want to die for her.

Every once in a while, a man comes across a woman that simply robs him of any sense of logic and common sense but willing to die for a woman is just top draw obsession and beyond any sense of normalcy.

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Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?

« #30 on: Today at 01:55:09 AM »

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You get over the euphoria associated with infatuation over a limited period of time. The attraction dies, boredom seeps in and you keep wondering what you saw in the person in the first place.

@still water, i like ur advice, seems like the closest to what i expected, cheers mate

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@ topic

You get over the euphoria associated with infatuation over a limited period of time. The attraction dies, boredom seeps in and you keep wondering what you saw in the person in the first place.

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What are u prepared to do for the man u LOVE?

He is not LYING cos i don't see maself breaking a strand of hair for any woman.

The men that take out a special life insurance in case their women leave them are wussies.

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that guy tooo lie, we catch onyiye no be so, amke anyone no con dey lie for here ooo,

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U can say that again, bro!!!

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No matter how i love someone. . . . .even though i utterly detest the word love

I can never risk a scratch on my nail for her. . . . . Its only silly!!

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yawa don dey gas for my blog oo, abeg take am easy ooo

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Where did it get him??

The lady he so much loved remarried when she got to New York and Jack was forgotten for 84 years.

Real men don't get down like that.

Relationships are all about compromise, no doubt. But compromising is one thing and selling out is another.

Some men tell their chics "I will kill myself if you leave me".

Come on. . . . . . Is that not insanity??

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Love itself is healthy. . . . . Infatuation is not.

When a man calls a woman 100 times a day then thatz bordering on obsession.

Some men would say. . . .I'D DIE for u and reh reh reh(classic example on infatuation)

I say. . . .Stop it right there and drop whatever you are doing, now!

No woman is ever worth dying for. Hell, I am not even sure if any woman alone is even worth living for.

All jokes aside, people should realise they are no longer in junior high and life is a revolving door of women.

If one leaves, another one is itching to take her place.

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haha, oga oo, no one really knows the answer, i fink

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When your closeness to your woman is bordering on obsession then it's infatuation.

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What is? It is better to tackle the complications because they would surely resurface and be ten times magnified once you get married.

But then again, you can opt and settle for the selfish, easy route, no winners, no losers, everyman for himself, anything goes, marriage of convenience with plenty lashings of infatuation.

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omo busy body, this is getting complicated abeg,

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Very simple.

Be honest with yourself about physical attraction, mannerism, financial aspect, love,communication, dependability, etc and search yourself and ask yourself why you are with him/her and whether she is someone you see yourself with a few years down the line.

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no one knows? its like gambling ;d ;d ;d ;d

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ouch busybody u need a knock on ur head, innit!

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