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Marriage Failure. What Are The Causes?

In Nigeria, we have a great marriage culture. But of recent, the marriages are breaking apart especially here in Naija. Recently my guy 28 just got married to one "miss have it all" and the marriage laste only 4 months. What do u think re the causes of maraige crashes in Nigeria? Is there a way to go about them?. Can we share experiences and better practices here.

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Problem is lack of commitment to the institution of marriage.

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This guy dealth extensively with it, I assure u it is very comprehensive. I read it some yrs back, this topic made me go and dig it out again.

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-145207.0.html

I addmit, it is a long write-up, if u r interested in making ur marriage or a loved ones marriage work, u shud print it out and probably one of the best gift u can give anyone in a wedding ceremony.

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i totally agree with Tega, "falling in love is easy, staying in love is work" Real work most people dont understand this, especially women. We have a large role to play in our marriages we are expected to be submissive to our husbands, doesn't mean we dont have a say in the marriage. Married couples need to learn how to make sacrifices for their marriages to work and most importantly allowing God to work for us by going to him for wisdom. (Prayer is the key). It solves all problems. The moment we fail to realise that God is bigger than the circumstances we find ourselves, thats when we give up.

Most times couples allow inlaws to interfare in marriages, this is really detrimental . Our families dont really understand when it comes to marriages, it always has to be their own way, not minding that their childrens' happiness is at stake

Some couples dont stay in coutship long enough to really get to know themselves, when they get married they start seeing traits that are new to them and nearly impossible to deal with.

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first of all marriage is the coming together of two different individuals, of different background, character, belief, etc; coming together to form a union and become one.  Therefore they require a lot of grace, tolerance ,patience, understanding and endurance to make the institution work.

they must try as much as possible to shun vices like greed, selfishness, i dont care attitude and above all gossips.

Above all; GOD FIRST.

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@ sweet T, This person is seeking for advice and not abusive word. if you dont have any advice for him. why not leave him. it is not proper.

@ topic. I think some people are so blinded by love when they are still courting to the extent that they overlook some things and when they get marry, they begin to see where their faults lies.

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Thank u all for ur contributions. It been great learning from graet people like u. i think the above are applicable to relationships.

More views are welcome.

@Sweet T : I hope u can see how ur irresponsibility is made clear in this thread. This is a thread for reasonable and solution minded individuals not a south bronx brainless newspaper tout like u.

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I think marriage failure is a cause of unwillingness to give in and compromise.

As in when couples get married, they fail to understand that they are now one individual and not 2 individuals in one marriage.

Also, people get married for the wrong reasons such as pressure or biological clock crap. They are not patient enough to find what they deserve.

To make it worse, divorce is becoming more acceptable and people get divorces now because of the mildest things.

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Lack of communication between couples, also causes marriage breakdowns.

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Well this is a topic that i like.

I think the main reason people fail at marriages is cause of the simple fact they marry for the wrong reasons. Whether it be financial, emotional or just being pregnant and being forced into marriage.

Marriage is a long time commitment and should be treated as so.

However, some people leave marriages for genuine reasons e.g abuse etc.

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causes for marriage or relationship failure?

People giving up too easily too quickly.

"Falling in love is easy; staying in love requires work"

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