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Marriage Proposal: Must Men Get Down On Their Knees?

My close pal took his fiancee out last weekend and proposed to her if she could marry him.

But the girl refused citing disrespect, that my guy is supposed to go down on his knees to propose.

I want to ask you guys whether it is compulsory that a guy must get down on his knees before proposing.

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@9jaboy

Why i go dey form? I don't have to impress anybody. It's just a fact that it makes life a lot easier and worth living when you find someone and treat her right, provided she wants the treatment. Why do you have the mentality that men are gift from God to women??

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word word, i would kneel down as soon as they make my sandwich and lay my bed

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mr sweet T u dey form good boi no bear ur mind, dey dere dey tuck small small, mk dem dey ride u

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my dear if u read carefully ,i never said african men are not romatic,infact i supported d fact that they are very romantic

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chinda if african men r nt romantic with all we do 4 u, wat den r u expectin

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read well well,i only pin-pointed on d fact dat u said africans are not romantic,i dd not lay any emphasies on d kneeling issue

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@Chinda3

Africans are very romantic. Don't believe the word of mouth. Most African men say a lot of thing they don't mean. I have also realize that men that comes from a polygamous household seems to take women as " Dime a dozen". But most African men are sweet and romantic and protect their woman. Don't listen to this guys, it's just "Shakara" them dey do. I bet you that when they see a woman they truly love, them go dey shake like crayfish. And when that woman doesn't return the affection they begin to stalk her.

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Disrespect? Oh come on!

As long as he didn't say "I've finally decided to marry you" or "God has sent me to better your life" Yeah, seriously! , I give the proposal 2 thumbs up and NO it's not compulsory to kneel down.  Nice. . .Yes. Compulsory. . .absolutely not.

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Na wa 4 una sef!Pride dey worry the men,Ego dey worry the women.u all have problems.Africans are just not ROMANTIC

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In an era where guys no longer chase girls instead its the other way round nai one girl dey use her own bobo take do shakara. She go grow biabia. I agree with ma fellow nairalanders she never get ready to marry or maybe she get one bobo 4 corner wey dey decieve am. abi wat else?  Such supposed to be taken to meet a very good advicer who can advice her cos the way I dey see things the girl go be 'PENTAGON' (Pe Ni Ta Gan - A yoruba word)

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HR wetin u know sef, u dey find men wey go kneel for u, if the man no get knee nko

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Well all these never kneeling down people. It appears some folks here were concieved from the standing up position.Well no one not good.

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@ bawomolo

On the contrary sir, I'm as realistic as they come.

Virtues like honour, respect and love hold no importance any more yet people wonder whats wrong with the world today.

before i get attacked i know women do have their own faults.

but Nigerian men have killed idea of romance (they probably never had it, but thats a discussion for another day thread)

Nigerian women have historically been treated appallingly and have hardened them to the monsters they've become.

And yet there are the precious few who still hold  these virtues, yet they get punished by the cynicism of the Nigerian man.

the poor girl (whom this thread is about, incase y'all havent noticed) probably grew up reading and watching fairy tales. she gets the idea of virtue and honour, but the poor misguided thing didnt understand how it works. and a society where it is virtually non-existant, how was she to know?

boy i really am bored!

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like someone said, chilvary is dead, men are now equal to women.

women seldom expect d treat her like a lady poo nowadays

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You never see proposal via text message

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Eeeeee. All men are condemned to a life of kneeling down for the woman except the celibate breed. As if y'all don't already know.If you have not knelt down for woman before, lets know you.

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I didnt know they still made men like you,,,, i thot u were an expired model!

Dude get real, in this day and age women dont need men for ANYTHING!

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eyyah, what an insult, a very hot one for that matter, so you mean to tell me that without you guy's proposals we will be nothing? in your dreams

It means ur dream as a lady ll not complete without a husband. kapish?

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nice one

Men admit it u also need women for d baby factory work(delivering),u also need women that will cook for u ,while u lazy around and wait till d food is served,bachelors in nairaland,if u guys can be truthful to ur self,are u people not tired of cooking yourselves,men without women would u people have smelled dis earth,not to talk of coming into it, inconclusion everybody (male and female) needs a partner

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@ibkaye

see, u dont understand that we gat nothing to loose not marrying  while u gals have gat a whole lot to,

by simply asking 4 ur hand in marriage, the guy has done the greatest thing on earth, FAVOUR, afterall, whats the mind set of all gals??

no be to end am up for man house?? shuuuu

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some of them will kneel and even prostrate like KAAABIIYESIIIOOOOO(KABIYESi),and as a girl ur head go dey swell,and at d end of d day d babe might find out she is not even worth 2naira before dis guy,he might just do it for doing sake

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i think one of the best way to propose is this. girl! marry me and you be in perpetual pleasure for the rest of your life, otherwise you are doomed.

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Na the man make mistake go proppose. Him for just ask am when

they go go see her family?[color=#990000][/color]

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lots of people don't value marriage much these days, black women are actually the least likely to get married according to a few studies. so yes, it's kind of of a favor.

both of u need each other, so why should he act like a subordinate??

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@topic,

as for me oh . . . . it will be nice for him to kneel when proposing to me.

its shows how much he really needs me in his life.

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IF ONLY THE SUN RISES FROM HER Bottom HOLE.

IF ONLY SHE CAN URINATE UPWARDS.

IF ONLY SHE CAME FROM THE MOON.

THEN I WILL KNEL AND PROPOSE

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go fix me a sandwich, now that's chivalry for your Bottom. geez, that lady has been reading way too many fiction novels.

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it's not compulsory for a guy to kneel before proposing.it's actually romantic if he does,but i don't see anything spectacular.the girl shld actually be kneeling and thanking the guy 4 marrying her.because d guy is doing her not just a favour,but a BIG one.

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PEOPLE, ITS CALLED ROMANCE

ITS NICE BUT NOT COMPULSORY

U EITHER DO IT OR U DON'T, THE FOCUS IS ON THE PROPOSAL,,,,, nuff said

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I don't buy the idea of the kneeling down thingy. The thot even puts me off like a sign of Insecurity. Don't know if i'm the only one with this feeling. Except he is just trying to be funny and i know that is purely not him.

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The girl never jam!

E be like say she never ready to marry.

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What if your man has knee medical condition not allowing to get down on his knee giving you marriage proposal? Are you still disrespect him?

What if your man has cast on both knee assigned to his wheelchair not able to get down on his knee, will you still disrespect him?

What if your man is elderly with fragile bone not able to get down on his knee, will you still disrespect him?

Think about it!

@TOPIC

Not necessary! Video or Phone or SMS or Email marriage proposal all not required to kneel down!

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where is AJ, she will conclude this topic when she arrives , the iron lady,

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exactly wat i said initially,she never ready for marriage

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Chivalry is dead,,, need i say more?

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Even if her father was Bill Gates, sey who die?

If I feel like it (though I seriously doubt that I'm that romantic), I will. But if I don't get on my knees and she insists, I'll leave her with the ring and ask her to pick it up when she feels like it, then give me a call.

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even if the dad is Bill gates, and the girl is sharon stone, no way, not on my knees, i will casually ask her "hey do you think we can stay together"

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she for wait may the guy go stand for ontop bridge proposed

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Not unless the girl's dad is Bill Gates.

For me just her signature to the dot on the Prenupt would do, then we buy your ring together.

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@ Seun

thats why i said she needs to get back from La-La land!

she's clearly been mislead or just bonkers

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The girl in the first post actually insisted on it:

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Hmm, Something is happenning here.Kneel down, compulsory, thats all i see here, Well it depends on the individuals involved, Personaly i can even lie on my stomach if i believe that the lady deserves it.

But if i doubt her love for me, I could even propose after our wedding.(dont mind me)

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Its not compulsory

thats why its a huge gesture when guys actually do.

Also it largely depends on the staging of the proposal. if he's all for a public proposal and showing off, fine.

I personally would prefere something more intimate.

the chic needs a reality check, especially when dealing with Nigerian men who don't even propose, they kind of tell u or just take it for granted.

she should needs to come back from la-la land.

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Tell the girl to throw away all her cinderalla, snow white and rapunzel fairy tales and start reading some mature novels. It will help her get out of that over exagerrated prince charming character.

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I'm sure OJ Simpson knelt down to propose to his wife before bumping her off.Most women love empty gestures!

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