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_______married Women Dressing Seductively___ Good To Do? Or Taboo?

OPINIONS from the Naija and American perspective are welcomed on this.[/color]

I was raised to dress very modestly and homely as a single girl. By not flaunting the goods, then one must attract a man with other less-shallow qualities, like personality, intellect, work ethic, etc.

I was taught that dressing more sexy and seductively is a MUST for married women so as to keep her husband's eye from wandering - and reducing the inclination for the husband to cheat or take a second wife.

Not too long ago I found my husband had an indiscretion with a lady and looking back at it now I see that as I had been getting more involved in church, I was not dressing as alluring and sexy as i use to.

Unfortunately, to dress in tight clothes, or showing cleavage is met with skepticism and judgement from others who wonder why a married woman is dressing single. And strangers who don't know me- try to approach me, (hit on me/flirt) because they assume i am dressed to impress.

WHAT ARE YOU OPINIONS ABOUT THIS?

Are married women in Nigerian culture EXPECTED to dress differently than the single gals? [color=#000099][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]I know most naija women dress nice and presentable. btu i am talking specifically about married ladies dressing SEXY- as if they were going to a night club, or as if they are single hoping to be toasted by some fine guy.

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You are welcome to do it, but remember that if her husband catches you he may use a mountain knife or cutlass to castrate you and fry your balls and give it to you to eat. Why must you do a married woman because she dresses seductively? Abeg sit down jare!

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yea- my husband approves of it. He really likes it, and being a business man who travels - I can't afford to have any "plain jane" nun attire on when he's in town.

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Just because she's married doesn't mean she has to stop looking attractive!

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if i see a woman dressed seductively and I dont know she is married I will toast her she asked for it

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I will dress seductively for my husband so that he will not look at other girls.

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HONESTLY. THERE IS NO DULL MOMENT IN NL. I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO WORK NOW READING POSTINGS & REPLIES. GOD DELIVER ME.

BACK, TO THE ISSUE. CULTURALLY SPEAKING, MARRIED WOMEN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO WEAR THOSE 'LETHAL' SUBSTANCES. THEY ARE MEANT TO WEAR MODEST DRESSES. IN IGBO, 2-PIECE WRAPPER WITH HEAD SCARF; IN YORUBA, BUBA & SUCH STUFF; IN HAUSA, THAT OVERALL WITH THE FACE MASK.

BUT, WOMEN, BEING AS JEALOUS AS THEY WERE ORIGINALLY CREATED TO BE, DISCOVERED THAT THESE MODES OF DRESSING ARE NOT FAVOURING THEM, AS THEIR HUSBANDS STILL HAVE LUSTING EYES ON THE NEAR-Unclad YOUNG BABES. ARMED WITH THIS KNOWLEDGE & THE NEED TO COMPETE FAVOURABLY, WOMEN FELT IT SECURES THEM TO 'DRESS DOWN'.

ON WHETHER IT IS GOOD OR BAD, ONE THING IS CERTAIN. IT DEPENDS ON YOUR HUSBAND. IF YOUR HUSBAND LIKES IT, FIRE ON; IF HE DOESN'T, NO NEED TO CONTINUE. MORE SO, THERE IS NEED TO MENTION THAT THE WORLD TODAY IS A GLOBAL SETTING. EVERYTHING IS GOING GLOBAL & HIREWIRE, INCLUDING DRESSING. I THINK SOCIETY IS BEGINNING TO APPRECIATE THIS FACT TOO. I WRITE FROM NIGERIA, I LIVE IN NIGERIA, I HAVE SEEN NIGERIA IN AND OUT, SO I SPEAK WITH AUTHORITY.

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it is good a married woman and a single lady should dress decently. because the bible said that a good name is better than silver or gold. i also want the singles and the married that this life we are living is for rent. and nothing we have is truly ours

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it depends i feel i wife shld not change from who she b4 marriage a wife shld mantain her status because it may be that thing that u changed 4rm ur personality that made im luv u in the 1st place so its better u dont change 4rm who u her believe in urself.

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I believe that married women should dress seductively, when I get married I expect my wife to keep dressing seductively not because she's married to me, that should make her feel like she's won a trophy and there is nothing to play for, in other to keep the man, she needs to dress to impress him, seductive dressing is not a taboo, am in support of that .

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Dress in whatever you are comfortable in coz the truth is if a man can have Pamela Anderson, Jenna Jameson, Halle Berry and Megan Fox all rolled in one as his wife and he'll still stray.

There's no taming that beast and trying to is just an exercise in futility. My suggestion is that women should start making themselves happy and not burden themselves with the responsibility of making another adult happy. Your children? Yes. A grown Bottom man? Don't think so.

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