WOULD ANY OF YOU PROPOSE AND MARRY A MAN OR WOMAN THAT YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS DO NO ACCEPT?
People seem to react differently from wat they say wen faced wit an actual situation. I used to tink my parents were kool about such tins cos I used to ask em questions n they'd tell me it doesn't matter where she comes from until wen d real tin was staring them in the face. They reaction was so different from wat they had been saying it was unbelievable!
As for me I'll just shrug my shoulders n tell them look this who I am going to marry if u don't have any reasonable objection which in my mind will prevent me from marrying this person then u better stand by me or lose out on my joy.
When i visited Nigeria last yr after 10yrs, everybody were interested to know if i'm hooked up or not, some suggested one or two good girls they know that will make a good wife. I kept quiet. Then i was in serious rela/ship here and i went with her pic which i showed my elder brothers, one was ok with it, some extended family members were either here or there but some came out smoking, that i can't marry non-Nigerian, that she will not like our culture, that they can't communicate with her bla bla bla.
My mum was influenced by all the side talks going around, sometimes confused abt the whole thing.
All my elder brothers are married, i reminded that i never choose for them, i never told them who to marry and they should keep off.
I was furious abt the whole thing, now they know where i stand when it comes to marriage issues.
Ultimately, i take the final decisions, and i can choose to marry against their wishes, but i do not allow "love alone" to cloud my decisions especially when its a critical decision like marriage, other intricacies need to be considered as well. . . and i dont think i can start up something that is only destined to bring up serious drama between family and wife!