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You want a woman and show interest, she becomes interested in you too, then you begin to withdraw or back off? Why is this so? Let us ladies know!

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the truth is dat u must have played hard to get for so long.my girl  played so hard for me to get her for like 6 months.now we are together and suprisingly all the madness i had for her had dissappeared(just 2 months into d relationship).i just feel like telling her that we cant continue any longer.she is so crazy abt me now but am no longer crazy abt her.sometimes i wonder if it was cos she played hard to get for a long time.maybe our relationship could have started when she was busy playing hard to get.maybe i was expecting her to offer me something extraordinary after playing hard to get.

me sef dey confused

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Men are of different categories and backgrounds.I agree many can be tricky and cruel but the bottom line is that too many ladies don't really know what they want in a relationship.They therefore play cheap to men.If you don't know what you want anything goes.My strong advice is for ladies to shine their eyes,be wise and slow to emotional release and outburst. There are still many decent guys like myself but hard to come by.Play safe.

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kunbee u are talking 2 me like dis abi

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I've got mail? Where?

A guy knows U like him when ur pleasures evidently are with him. Most irls like attention and will indulge ANYONE who gives it just to feel good about themselves, but when a girl is specific in the persons attention she's most interested in, it shows and everyone gets the message at one point or the other.

As long as it doesn't show that u think he's the special one or could become that special one, the guy myt pack up and leave or just gather what he can from U and bail out.

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I guess its good advice not to play hard to get when you really like the person involved. Love isn't a game, you know

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How can a guy know you like him for him and not just the idea of a guy hanging around you? What is the difference?

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If I like a girl and want her to show interest in me I appreciate the interests she shows as long as it doesnt come off as too sudden, too good to be true or obsessive.

Men are more logical than emotional and I think I speak for most guys when I say we like to know what Ur interest on us is based and that we earned it.

If Ur interested in a guy, let him know why. unless he's only interested in getting in Ur pants a guy wants to know it's him U like not just the idea of "a guy" hanging around U.

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the minute we meet women, we discover stuff about y'all. the minute you open your mouth to say hello, the minute you act, we discover more about you and all these instances can be a reason to back off.

you really think that men need to be shown your bad side?! some men can see it in you before you even show it by.

remember that how you see yourself might not be how he sees you.

you got mail!

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He's older, about 12 yrs older. When I did so he wouldn't walk away, he decided to stay.

We are already on a break.

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What's the age difference?

are you older than him?

When you declared your feelings, how did he react?

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Not just men, human beings can be weird, especially in matters relating to the opposite sex. Maybe declaring your feelings for him made him more relaxed and now he's sure he has you in the bag already. Call him before stop asking us.

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I meant, we were dating, yes maybe he had feelings for me and I showed I did but just never told him. I took it easy until he wanted to walk away due to age difference and him not sure if I was really feeling him. I then declared my feelings to him.

That's not what I mean. Even before the woman starts showing the bad side, even while she's still good.

BTW MrBrownJay, pls check your email still concerning the same issue.

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@poster

what about if the guy realized that this gal wasnt what he had expected (wasnt all that) and that under all the pretense and make up, she had no substance. should he continue show interest for the sake of your ego?

its funny how some women think that if a man start to show interest, then he should do so for the rest of his natural life. . . . . . . . . . . . . .like it being some kind of unwritten contract. LOL!

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@OP,What do u expect us to do if we later discovered dat NOT all dat glitters ar gold?

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Can you explain the words in bold? why was it not in your original post?

Seems you're misleading us, no?

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I'm not really speaking for myself but in general but speaking of myself now, there was no long timing neither did I play hard to get. I just never declared any feelings, was going with the flow until he wanted to walk out due to age difference not even more than a month and I expressed my feelings.

Not always the case. I don't think so and I never played hard to get. I have always been real.

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@OP

It could be because of the "you played hard-to-get for too long" concept OR

because he wants you to like him more and so would behave uninterested

So that you'll fall madly in love with him due to his "I'm-ignoring-you" behavior which a lot of ladies seem to like.

It works sometimes, I've tried it.

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@Topic,

Accepting a guy sooner doesn't make a lady cheap, like some women would think.

Some guys hate women who play hard to get and when they see that kind of women, they either do everything to get them and then dump them later or they'll back out without trying.

Just like its difficult for women to get a man , so it is for men.

Men have a better advantage but it doesn't make things easier. Just a bit diiferent.

So if guys are leaving when you decide to go out with them, it probably means you made them wait for too long or the goods didn't worth the price.

Ciao.

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I guess what happened was that you played hard to get for too long! I was dating a girl for a while, she hardly called me on the phone, I invited her to my house she told me a big NO, she played hard to get, when I decided to back out and started losing interest in her and decided to go after another girl, that is when she decided to start showing that she was interested in me also, YOU PLAYED HARD TO GET FOR TOO LONG!

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@ poster. How did you know he liked you.

Besides when some girls play hard to get and when He concedes defeat,

they start to complain.

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u're just unlucky.

Men are not d same?

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How long did it take for you to reciprocate the interest cos sometimes its all about the timing! You might be saying yes when he simply got tired of holding his breath and is just about walking out the door. He probably may stay back to justify the time he's wasted cos men are logical by nature but things would not quite be the same

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