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Men Would You Easily Forgive Ur Woman If She Rains Insults On You?

Guys knowing you men have a lot of ego and pride, can and would you be able to (easily) forgive your girl if she insults you badly as a result of frustration, if you are the cause of her doing so or not frustration?

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[quote author=Mai Suya]Terrific! feminists are at it again, so what else is new? To hell with his pride and ego, there's no problem in calling the man a swine, a pig-headed buffoon, an ; afterall, they should understand that that's the way women are made: to use their tongue - anyhow! Moreover, he is a man, so he should willingly take the insults as one!!!

The reasoning  of some people is just so pathetic, you wonder how on earth they mange to function. . .

@OP would I [b]Easily [/b]forgive her if she rains insults on me? Would she [b]easily [/b]forgive me were I to retaliate in a manner I deem fit?

'Real men don't hit women' they say . . . who gives you right to define who a real man is, when you are yet to fully understand who a real woman is? ie one that doesn't insult real men!  [quote]

SECONDED!!! Mai Suya is the best!

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Insults as a habit or just a one time thing?

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sure, if the world would forgive me for giving her a black eye!

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helloooooo,

something i get to know in dating is that, when ur woman is angre, she say alot of things unknowingly, for me i will forgive her, but when the lovely time comes, i will remind her so that she can say she is sorry.

remain bless

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it's worse pls. would you prefer someone to insult you or to turn you into a punching bag?? I would much prefer the previous. I would call the person who engages in fist fights more of a primate.

of course the best situation is one where there are no conflicts.

there was no sarcasm in that statement. i meant it quite literally.

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Using ur fists on a first option basis is no better, or worse than engaging ur mouth before ur brain. I guess that makes us both primitive, which is the point i was making - None is acceptable, but unfortunately, u cant see that beyond ur femminazi coloured lens.

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I think you did your best and hence gained experience from that MISTAKE you maid. You need to get a grip on yourself and don't blame yourself too much.

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lol, how silly. If your Man insults you, don't take it. If your woman insults you, don't take. For anything to degenerate to insults, it means that there's no love or respect from one party and absolutely no control over his/her tongue or emotions. Save yourself the drama and move on, you wont regret it and hopefully you'll be wiser for it.

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in first post, you compare men to primates who "use their fist on first option basis"

in second post, you say they are better capable of intelligent arguments.

so, do they claw at their opponent, or do they argue intelligently?

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If she is always insultive, i don't think i can be with such girl. But if we had a misunderstanding and she insulted me [just for that moment] why won't i forgive her?

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I think I would forgive if I know I was d one that caused d frustration. I think @ post, wat she was trying 2 say was like she snapped just one time after holding a lot not like it was a gradual thing. Diva1, u must have held a lot in n tolerated a lot. It has happened 2 me so I can relate to wat u r saying. There is a difference between patience, tolerance nd snapping one time.

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men secretely like women that rain insults on them, some men can be very loose wiv their tongues,thinking they can say everything and anything because they r upset, oh u fcking LovePeddler, u know poo like dat. just try am, if u b man wey get big fat mouth,by the time i finish to snow storm insult on u,nxt time u go think twice b4 u begin insult me and trust me he aint going no fcking where

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@ Oyinada, you need to smarten up. Unfortunately, in a war, u can unilaterally decide the rules of the game, and there is no unwritten protocol that defines how one should respond to an act of aggression. An aggressor cannot determine how his opponent should respond to his/her action.

Just ask Japan. America dropped the A-Bomb on 2 Japanese cities in 1945 in supposed retaliation for a conventional attack on Pearl Harbour in Hawaii. Was it fair - No, Was it right - No, but America can justifiably say it was provoked.

Men dont have the capability for unending insults like women do; Just like women dont have the capability of using their fists on a first option basis.

Lesson 1 - He might go to jail- and he will come out, but you will forever be missing ur teeth, even if you put dentures in.

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Women might claim to be equal to us in all terms but we all know they ain't up to the task. They don't have the gumption we do, they don't think like we do and they are generally weak vessels, we all know that. They are just simply grown kids. If a woman does anything, I don't think the next thing is to start demonstrating your prowess in boxing, better still, why not take that to the streets and jack some rocks? Women aren't supposed to be beaten. My advice is when she hurls the insult, just walk away and don't talk, she'll be the one to come back apologizing and when she does, forgive her and put it behind you. Don't forget that she will do worse someday and that is rampant with all women. That is what nature has granted us to endure in them.

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i am totally wit romeo4real on this, there is absolutely no excuse for abuse, be it physical, emotional, physchological or wateva,

how do u abuse someone and then later kiss them him with that same mouth?

how do u beatup a woman and then later console her, give her cold compress or even hold her at a the hospital bed, it baffles me

we have to learn that there r beta ways of solving issues, patience, communication, compromise,

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if she insult you then u insult back. abi??

bringing ur fist into it is unnecessary unless u want some jail time that is. then in that case you're welcome

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Diva1, I read ur story and you seem like a very nice, sweet person. I am in the US, located in Manhattan, if you don't mind, we could exchange contact infos, as friends. It hurts to see you go through this because I have been there myself.

My ex girlfriend was far worse, hers were constant insults, cheating and much more but did not want to let go of me. On top of that, she was too proud to even apologise, I would have considered if she showed remorse with humility but she didn't and had to let her go.

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I agree with you a 100% and I'm not justifying any fact. I came here because out of 3yrs, it was the first incident that had happened I went far, and came on here to seek advice from different people and hear their opinions. I know it was wrong and that was why I apologised and pleaded despite ALL he had done prior to that.

I met my friend's dad yesterday, and talked to him about what had happened, him being an older and a married man with more experiences, gave me his mind, that what I had done was wrong HOWEVER, considering what he had and has been doing and all I put up with, he should have at least had a little compassion for such and if genuine,3yrs, he would have tried to make up after all the pleading and apologies. He wasn't innocent either, i have done my part and even though he is a man and would advise me as a father too, that I even went too far pleading, for months and I had tried, it was time to stop. He is at fault too.

I do not justify women insulting their men, or am I saying I was right but I know it is more to that, after all he has been introduced to the movie business here abroad with all these single actresses around so there must be something more to that. Men are everwhere, why did I have to put up with his nonsense? Because I loved him and tried to tolerate for a while so why do I have to make one mistake, which he pushed me, just one, and it had to be this way? I come from a decent family, why would I wake up one morning and start texting some foul words to someone I supposedly care for out of the blues? Of cause not. That's why it was a MISTAKE, a one time, mistake.

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It would then be fair to say that u also deserve my fist in ur mouth? Cos' i wouldnt hit u unless u deserved it, right?

Again, engaging mouth before brain!

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@ Diva - Its unbelievable how women can excuse insulting a man on the basis that he asked for it, or she tried telling him another way, or she is frustrated, or, what ever, but would be never accept a man being violent to a woman.

The truth is they are both sides of the same coin- Physical and Emotional abuse. None IS justifiable, or should be accepted. It is well known that women use their tongue to lash out, and men use their fists.This makes neither Ok.

Every man ( and woman) knows that a few well chosen words, can irretrievably damage even the strongest man's ego, character and pride.

Men also know that if another man were to speak to them the same way these women do, or use the same words, they would both be rolling on the floor within seconds, with both a few teeth short.

Women excuse their behaviour on the basis that words don't hurt as much as fists, but we all know that is simply not true.

To all the men being macho out there, the truth is that as a married man, there is not a lot you would be able to do about it, but to forgive and hope it does not happen again. Marriage really does show a man how little control he exerts over certain things.

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that's true I guess. instead of insulting him she could starve him food for a week or something

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Insulting someone is just wrong. There are better ways to handle your anger than using negative words.Abusing someone is not gonna solve anything but make it worse.

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why are you confused?

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Don't let her get away with it, simple. Even if you forgive her, make it hard on her.

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If you see it from a natural or evolutionary perspective, men are "supposed or likely" to be insulter / fighting wifey. I think of all the selfish things you can do in a relationship. That is the worst, A total disregard for the other person. I understand that the partner being insulted would want to forgive the other because you still kind of have feelings for them as you love them. But of course you love yourself more. What will be killing you the most is questions such as can I live with the choice? Am I disrespecting myself by taking him back? Do I just not want to be alone? I'm not going to marry him or even common saying that blow-up in mind “forgiving is a bad idea because there is a risk of such happening again.” However this is not always the case. Hummm it’s kinda hard to be honest I never thought I'd be the type of woman to take back an insulting man GOSH I HATE BEING COMPARED. It's an uphill battle everyday to not dwell in it, to not even try to remember it. So I would advice those in this type of situation to try and forgive also focus on all the reason you want to be with him, not on all the ways your partner has hurt you. Allow revenge just move on with life. Remember two wrong does not make a right.

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It will surely get worse if it is done in public too

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Yeah, unacceptable. She does not love you with the same level of respect that you love her.

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insults is one of d major tin dat is ending my present relationship,cant stand it,i gave her chance again n again 2 stop but she refused so i jus had 2 move with my life.can u imagine a gal u want 2 marry calling u names like goat,cow,dog etc in front of people,4 wat?

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if she insults me once n promise nt to repeat it again, i'll forgive her but if it is her habit to do so,then she is showing me a way outta d door, simple

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Exactly, some people/guys are just saying never, this n that, forgive fire, There is a difference between someone that has the habit already n someone just out of frustration insulted. We have heard the saying, sometimes, we lash out at those we love most when frustrated not to talk of when the partner is at fault. There's no harm in forgiving especially being the first time. The guy should be able to look at what made the woman suddenly change that way.

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YES I WILL FORGIVE HER,

IT IS VERRY VERY UNCIVILISED FOR A MAN TO LAY HAND ON A WOMAN.PLS DN'T

let me say this here, apart from the fact that this girls perform the unimagin, we the guys are not helping matters. my fellow guys, this girl want to be treated like ANGEL, though, there are some who don't kwn that, there have time to play and time to be serious about life (sorry to say this, ALL GIRLS HAS EXPIRING TIME) others are VERY VERY GOOD, just that u may not have be lucky to meet the Good ones. ironically, wen we enventually meet the good ones, we dont kwn how to treasure them.

Studies has shown dat, the present mindset of most girls today towards relationship,is as a result of past expirence.

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if u really luv her, you can do so,

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Just say one thing and let it be. 99% of guys will hear what you have said did not repeat. Trust me most times they will attend to your worries without you having to repeat.

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wow! Have u asked her what is making her do so?

I agree with u a 100% but men too should try and be listeners @ least 40% of the time.

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@DIVA 1,

YES I AGREE BUT WE WOMEN SHOULD HOLD OUR TONGUE MORE OFTEN, WE BLAME MEN FOR BEATING A WOMAN WHEN SHE PUSHES HIM TO THE WALL, IT IS SAME THING IF YOU LOVE YOU HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND/LOVER YOU WILL NOT THINK OF DOING SOMETHING LIKE THAT, I GUESS SOME GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT THE SAME WAY SOME GUYS BEAT UP WOMEN IT IS JUST THE WAY IT IS.

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my girl has harras me more than one thousand time but still i forgive her

no big deal

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U r indeed a real man. Some of this guys here saying no they won't forgive, they don't know they must have really pushed her and wouldn't even want to find the cause. Also, calming her down saying u still love her would even make her feel ashamed of herself and she would melt. I just wish some men, can put aside their ego/pride sometimes and consider other things for their women.

Thanks dear

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It was very intrestine reading the diffrernt responces to the question even thou we sort of digressed from the main questions at times i can understand this guys sitiuation, but let me say there is a big difference when your GF rains insult on you and when your wife does, even as its not something to be proud of, honestly they do no mean to do this but if they do then there is a problem we are failing to see, either we are making them unhappy to the point were they being to feel frustrated and who else will the lash out on but the husband, so when this happens is time for the man to sit back and assecc the condition of the woman and fix whaterver is missing, secoundly you can simple tell her in a mild voice at the end of the abuses the you truelly love her, these words if used right can quench the contentious spirit in her.But i will really recomend you find a time she is happy and disscuse how her actions make you feel back and that you what to know what make her feel like abusing you as its not a good virtue for a loving wife,for those who are religious which is good for all you can shear with her some scritpures on the qualities of a virtues woman as women are more religious than men (no debating this please), if you do this with love and follow up with constant joint daily prayer i promise you there will be a great change.Its high time we men understand that when our wifes are talking you dont interupt them just TRY to listen even if she is off point she need to know you were listenning. Thank you.

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Simple;

Woman rains insults, Man rains constant and continious blows and slaps until she turns catatonic!

We are all happy and same time same place tomorrow, we repeat the game again to see who wins and who will finally get tired of playing the game of Insults and slaps.

I know i will never get tired though  Its too enjoyable a game to ignore and forget in a hurry!

I will only forgive her if she promises to play the game with me next time, maybe hopefully tomorrow! With that i can forgive her a million times, as long as i am having my own share of fun sha! 

Jackweed, I bet u will never change. N am very, very,pretty sure the picture u used in ur profile is not your picture. Cos the imposter there looks so calm n 2 gud 2be a bully. May God Deliver u. Else, one day u gonna meet ur match (a lady), who will beat d daylight out of u.

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there are better ways to deal with nagging and loud mouths, living on the roof is one of them

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Right, I'll try but laying low was what I had in mind after all I've been thru.

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I advise you try and plan a visit and talk things out more like eyeballs to eyeballs.

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@Feelitz

Ok thut things would be discussed much better but it's ok. I haven't tried but I'll try and call him instead of me just showing up like that.

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@Feelitz

No i haven't tried.

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Since he said he has forgiven you,have you tried visiting him?

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