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Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do?

In the heat of the moment, Edward promises to treat his girlfriend, Bella, to a trip to Paris for her birthday, knowing she’s always dreamt of going. Bella gets really excited and can’t stop going on and on about it. Then Edward goes to book Eurostar tickets for that weekend, assuming he’d be able to get them for £59, but there are no cheap trains or flights left; it would cost £300 return for two. Edward has the money, but it was much more than he was banking on.

Should Edward take Bella to Paris?[b][/b]

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These show off dudes. He got what he deserved.

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[Quote author=Missy B]There are people (Like me) who would prefer You don't make a promise

rather than raising up hopes and later burst bubbles.

Assuming she was very cheery and had to share it with her friends . . . .

How does she explain the ''comma'' to them lerra?

Even if she doesn't hold it against You . . . . In Your own eyes,

doesn't it make You look like a man who cannot put his words into practice

considering the fact that if You wanted to do it, You could have. Only that it meant a step further?[/Quote]

I'm making the guy's case as an example. Of course, if I was in his shoes, I'd have pulled a surprise by having the tickets already rather than make a promise. The kind of promises I make are such that, even if I'm dying, I'll fulfill them otherwise, I can't and will never.

But in this case, no one - not a prophet - will have had an inkling that the tickets will hike more than four times the first price and how is it supposed to be his fault that there was an increase? So he made a promise and something happens that he has no iota of control over, and he's supposed to feel like a man who doesn't live up to his word?

My friend, re-think that. He's not morally guilty but he can feel bad it didn't happen as he speculated but that was in no way his fault and he's not supposed to feel bad about it. And if a woman holds it on his head, she's unreasonable.

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Well he didnt envisage the hike in price. If thats he's real reason for having a double mind den I think he should tell her. No need straining your budget for a trip!!

Theseeker's right: People break promises for the right reasons, she cant hold it against him. If he's too chicken to tell her the make e close eye pay for the trip na!

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Yes . . .If he can afford it.

Not only because he promised her but because it would delight her.

T's suppose to be a TREAT . . . . and what makes it golden is; knowing

that You crossed the bridge of inconveniences just to make her happy.

If Edward thinks she deserves to be happy . . . . .He should take her.

Now . . . .T's a different case if he can't afford it.

rather than raising up hopes and later burst bubbles.

Assuming she was very cheery and had to share it with her friends . . . .

How does she explain the ''comma'' to them lerra?

Even if she doesn't hold it against You . . . . In Your own eyes,

doesn't it make You look like a man who cannot put his words into practice

considering the fact that if You wanted to do it, You could have. Only that it meant a step further?

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Making this a case study, how did he know the price was going to ricochet? Maybe you think people like to make promise just so not to fulfill it. If I make a promise to my girlfriend, and conditions I don't have control over overturns my intention, I'll let her understand why it's not going to work. But if she puts it on me like it was my fault or some resentment ensues afterward, I know where and how to fix her - and it's needless to say it's an unfair criticism.

If my girlfriend makes me a promise and an unforeseeable incidents faults her plan, I will NOT hold it on her head like she's committed some grievous crime

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I understand you. I have a thing for promises too, but sometimes, one has to be practical/realistic and compromise.

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am not making it seem like a sin but never make an unfulfilled promise

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try and keep to your promise dear

because it can affect your relationship

almost had a break up bacause he forgot my birthday

not cause of the gifts but he forgot to call and being the romantic type(lol),i took it hard

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y me,

was just kidding , never nice to say a thing and not do it.

am almost in the same shoes, only this time its not money related but time.

promised to travel somewhere south with some1 in november and am not even sure can get that time of work.

but am working towards it though.

so maybe he needs to explain it to her, or just pay the price and forget it.

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Hmmm well if he has the money then he should splurge out. If its going to hurt him financially then he should tell her.

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