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Moral Dilemma: What Should She Do?

**********************What Should Yewande Do?*****************

Yewande has been set up on a blind date with Gbolahan (a friend of a friend), and the duo agree to meet at a restaurant near Heathrow. At the end of the evening as he was about to settle the bill, Gbolahan discovers that his credit card had actually expired and he had accidentally left the new one at home. He asks her to pay the £80 bill and promises to repay her at the next date. A few days later he texts her to arrange another date, but did not mention the money. As Yewande wasn't very enamoured with him anyway, should she go on another date to get her money back or chase for the cash anyway, or leave it?

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Just ask him to pay for his half of the meal if he feels like honouring his promise he will pay the full £80 no point wasting time going for a second dinner (although don't cancel dinner just yet until you get the money you can just claim you are busy and reschedule to a later date before you ultimately cancel)

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u and dis ur dilemma's

what happened to the travel dilemma?

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i guess the best thing to do would be 4 her to politely ask for the money and decline the date

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^^^^^^ yeah i fully agree wit u!

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well i think she should just ignore the secodn date if she doesnt feel up to it.

if he really intends on returning the money, he will find ways to do that.

but have they not been communicating since after the last date,

did he not make mention of the money in any way at all?

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yewande should go 4 d second date and if the guy refuses to give her the money then,she should know dt he is a gold digger and should ask 4 her money kia kia.

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Nigerians will always be Nigerians. Games round 80 pounds. O ga o

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ask for the money sharp ish

which kain 419 be dt?

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THAT WHAT I CALL A SHARP GUY.

HE WOULD PROBABLY COME UP WITH A SWELL BUSINESS IDEA/PROPOSITION AT THE SECOND DATE AND GUESS WHAT. , MRS PIGEON TOES WILL COME BACK ON NAIRALAND FOR SOME MORE ADVICE.

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the girl shud just let it go

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There are two issues here;

1. Yewande's loan to the guy

2. The second date

My take is;

1. Yewande should call the guy up (this should have been done long before now) and remind him to pay up his debt;

2. Yewande should either accept or decline the second date if she wants to.

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(or he is so ashamed that he wants to save face so he asks her out again, pays her the 80 pounds and pays for the meal and calls it quits after that.). Anyhoo I offer to pay half on the ist date because I dont want guys thinking like this.

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She should leave the guy to his conscience and integrity if he has any

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if yewande is not keen for another date, she should not accept to meet the guy just for money. Two scenerio will play itself out.

1. Yewande may accept the date. And in so doing, will send wrong signal to the guy. If she collect her money back and later tell the guy she isnt interested, the guy will guess that she came for money. And that will diminish her worth and give her negative image.

2. Ydwande can decline the offer of new date politely. And the guy will have to worry about how to get the money across to her. If the guy fail to find mean of repaying the money, it cast a big question mark on the guy. It show him as lacking character and incapable of standing by his words. What other thing will any sane man/woman want to do with such fellow?

My take is this, whether yewande like the man or not, whether she want him for a date or not, she should politely decline the second date. She should let the guy show his real character. And if the man fail to repay? Yewande lose nothing. In fact, she should just consider herself fed miserable beggar. By the way, who says woman cant pay for a date?

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