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Must I Marry Her Because She Is Thirty Something?

hi all, i want to know what you all feel about gurls who say guys must marry them because they are above 30 yrs old and thereby should not be heart broken in a relationship.

Please,are we not supposed to take into cognizance the behavior or health status of the lady b4 we go ahead to marry her?

read my own story,

i met a gurl where i was working before,we started a relationship and i was determined to have it good for both of us,

i discovered however that whenever we made love, she released a colored substance which i found not usual, i was worried and i told her to go for a test, in fact,i took her down for the test,

the test revealed she had a chronic Pelvic Inflammatory Disease!!!

I goggled that and i wasn't happy with what i discovered, We went for the treatment and the stuff still persisted!

i also noticed that before then,we had sex without condom almost all the time but she never got pregnant!

I honestly wanted a baby and might have used her getting pregnant as a pre-requisite to our tieing the knot.

After what i discovered,i decided to dump her,although with style. I traveled to another state and we stopped communicating.

she got the message anyway,

Now my question is, should i have stayed with her because she was 30something after knowing she might not be able to conceive?

Most people who don't know why i dumped her (i kept it secret for her sake) kept saying i was unfair to her!

What do you all feel? Was i unfair?

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Good morning all,

@D-reloaded,

you sound personal on this issue!

is it happening to you?

well, we both tried to have a baby.(why not read my posts again?).

and cant you put your message across without being abusive?

thats says a lot about you!

@nigercook,

i went for a fertility test after we parted and was confirmed ok.

@cuteass,

we tried to have a baby!!!!

i'm sure you cant do that using condoms,or can you?

i knew her HIV status

@all,F.YI,

I opted out early before there was anniversaries and people start to count years and say was i not aware all these years? dont you know she's 30something? blablabla

off to work.

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Would have love to stay here and discuss with you but am busy watching the God Father

Btw, am 10yrs ago

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what are you? 16?

Incase you werent informed, when you decide to post on nairaland your opinion is subject to scrutiny.I must add that it  irks me when people think they are giving advice and don't know what the heck they are talking about. i'm done. Rant away!!!!!!!

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Oh shut your dirty mouth jare, why don't you advice the poster what to do regarding the problem instead of poke nosing in my damn business.

"Freedom of speech" If you don't like my comment then keep moving or did i force you to quote me

Ignorant ko ignorant ni

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you might be the infertile one,think about it

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Ohh dear! I won't say much on this.

*sighs* Since you've treated it and she's still not conceiving, I suggest you take her for surgery or advise her to do so. The disease can actually be cured with antibiotics in the early stage but when it's left untreated it leads to infertility as the case may be here. There are other complications tho'.

It could be that she's actually infertile as a result of this disease but surgery helps in most cases.

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Dicey!

Neither here nor there. Yet very sensitive. I wish I could vomit.

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cooldude, na you I called an . First off having unprotected sex is idiotic, 2nd the fact that you automatically think she's barren cos she never got regnant from it says alot about your maturity. Again how are you so sure she wasnt taking birth control

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Even if na livestock we dey talk of.

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@D-reloaded,

Why calling the poster ?

Say something before i reply that!

This is a mature thread and not for kids

Did you see this in the joke section?

And by the way, can you read? Does this thread look like an attack on the women folk?

If this is happening to you, all you need to say is “hey guys,it has happened to me/ it is happening to me”

Pls, don’t even start, this is for adults ok!

@ adeboo,

Cause u aint with her don't mean that no one else will want her. "your line"

I never was happy to leave her and i didnt see a place in my thread where i said i was!

If I see her with someone and she's pregnant, i will be happy for her of course, she once told me the last guy she was with told her to get pregnant before they tied the knot, i suspected the relationship went out because she couldnt conceive.

@ Ifyalways,

i belong to the same age group with the girl in question and she couldn’t have had AIDS coz the company does a routine check on staff to know status.

@almondjoy,

what do you have to say?

say something please and not the hmmms

@house,

I am hoping a medical expert will say something about the chronic PID and how it could be treated if possible. The last time we went for treatments, she was placed on some injections while I was on antibiotics.

Get it right Y’all, I wasn’t happy to leave her, I put this thread up just to be sure I didn’t err by opting out of the stuff, that’s all, not to pick issues with kids.

I understand most women have this problem, but not all have the chronic type.

Y’all should say something about the medical part.

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I know that and there should have been a way it could be avoided, if she had done every 6months check up, this whole not having child would have been avoided

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But sometimes its not her fault now that she is still single at that age - different issues affect us in life now.

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How does this even know that the girl isnt on birth control. Gosh what an embarrassing thread

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Why must u inconvenient urself because the girl is in her late 30s.

Nobody is forcing u to do jack - its ur choice.

Why must u have to make such a life changing decision cause she is getting older. Dont be fooled, u'll be surprised that the next time u see her, she'll be with someone else and maybe even pregnant.

Cause u aint with her dont mean that no one else will want her.

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They want to get married i guess, but they dont want you to see anything wrong with them, you must say ok,no matter what.

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It depends. You are right however to dump and unproductive lady before marriage. That is if she had tried getting pregnant and failed.

Most of 30plus ladies are not ready to settle down anyway. Check their past before you dive.

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It depends. You are right however to dump and unproductive lady before marriage. That is if she had tried getting pregnant and failed.

Most of 30plus ladies are not ready to settle down anyway. Check their past before you dive.

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