This is not really a difficult one for me though, becuase my mind is made up already.
Why will your elder brothers mostly your immediate elder brother that is only 2 years older than you are be dictating who you should marry,mostly when you are above 30 as a lady i.e in your early 30s.
The man am marrying is an igbo guy, obviously a xtian, while i am yoruba, from a muslim home, but am now a xtian.when i discussed this with the eldest of us all, he did not frown against the fact that he is a xtian, but only paused for a sec when i told him he is an igbo guy, but did not frown against it after that, he only told me to invite him over so he can talk with him, and dis is somebody i was thinking was going to give me headache over this issue.
Just this afternoon, my immediate elder bro called and was saying all sort of things, how i will not go to aljanna if i marry a xtian/igbo, how he is not going to attend my wedding, and this are pple that did not marry their wives in a proper way o, that whenever i remember i always feel bad, they are now trying to choose who to marry for me.
As for me, i am very much ok with who am going to marry, and by God's grace, there is not going to be any problem now or in future.
we are looking at early next year for our wedding,i.e the introduction first, then after wihich we will proceed for the court, and the church wedding.
N.B there might still be issue from them regards the church wedding if dey eventually agree with me on my choice of man, but muslim wedding is one wedding i do not like atall, and it has never bin in my dictionary
My conclusion with my elder brother before this one called this afternoon is to bring my man over to his place on sunday i.e on sallah day, he also said he is going to invite them over i.e my other brothers, what i need is an advise on this issue so that i wont be rude to any body, becuase i have never been rude to any of them before.