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My Cousin Wants To Marry A Widow. Is It Right?

Hello All,

I have a problem with cousin of mine. His name is Chinedu. The problem is that there was this lady that he claimed he loved so much [about 2 years ago]. He asked this lady to marry him 2 years ago, but after much much, the lady got married to another guy and had a girl-child. Now, the guy [her husband] died last November and has been buried.

The worst part of this story is that Chinedu, my brother is now well-to-do, and has still gone back to this lady, asking her to marry him.

I want to know what you people feel about this! I think my cousin is very silly. If this girl liked him 2 years back, she would have married him, then why is he going back to her now.

My aunty [his mother], says otherwise. She supports her son in getting married to this lady, because [according to her, Chinedu was not too capable of raising a family 2 years back, that was why the girl did not marry him]. Therefore, now that he is financially stable, he can go back to the girl he really wants and get married to her.

Please you people should respond because I do not want Chinedu to marry her. Tell me the steps I can take to prevent my cousin from making this mistake.

Jojo

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@topic u are a very horrible person, am very sorry to say what d hell is wrong with ur brother taken care of d lady child,what did d child do ?pls change ur ways and leave ur cuz to marry d lady are u 4 real? men u are a big nag

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ok. but what about the baby?

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Chinedu should thread very carefully!

Whatever you guys say, he's gonna do wat he wants 'nuff said!

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I understand what everyone is saying here. It's OK. I have decided not to bother myself on this issue again. Afterall, it is not my life to live. If Chinedu decides that it is the way he wants to live his life, that's his choice.

But honestly, I think he is making a serious mistake because I do not know whether this lady loves him as much he does. If Love is not mutual, it may fade away easily. Besides, I think it is better I have a woman who loved me when I was 'Nothing' than run to woman who is likely to love me for what I am right now. He is in the United States right now, and I wonder if all the beautiful 'untouched' women over there have finished, for him to come back to Naija because of this lady who rejected in 2004.

Furthermore, one more thing that bothers me is this: What happens to the baby this lady had in her previous marriage? I do not know if it will be right for my cousin to take responsibility for another man's seed.

Anyway, all the things I have said here are my personal findings. I am not going to bother him again on this issue. I wish him the best of luck. If he succeeds, 'GOODLUCK', but if he does not, please tell him that 'I WILL BE VERY ANGRY WITH HIM'.

Jojo

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Give them ur blessings and support and let them be. its ur cousin's life.

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i think you should let them be. NA you wan marry ya cousin? he insist that she's the woman of his dreams why do you want to stand in his way,your idea of an ideal wife is definitely not his. would you want leave your woman just because someone in you family does not see the same things you see in her.

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Her being a widow is not the problem. If your sister becomes a widow, would you ask her to stay single forever?

The potential problem is that we're not sure about how this woman feels about your cousin. Why not find out?

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