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My Fiancee Want To Travel Abroad For Greener Pastures,should I Allow Her To Go?

My fiancee sister living abroad want my fiancee to come abroad since both of us can not get a stable since 3 years of graduation,we finish from the same school and we been dating for 5 years now.Am in love with her but i want better things for her too but should i allow her to go because am afraid of circumstance over there,try and understand what i mean.Hope she is not going to live me after she might have miss everyting about me.You should no we do things in common,romance everyday,sex every week.I will also miss her.

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let he go ,,, so i ave a frnd in dublin now and her bfrnd is still in nigeria now and dey are still dating it depends on d rapour btwn d two off u .

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Yes I noticed that but I think the intention is the header not the conclusive body of the post. Seeking a GREENER PASTURE may have had her sister work out a few logistics for her overseas, I guess that totally depends on what she's going there to do. However, talking about visa requirements, I totally agree with you that she will definitely be on a visitor's visa first. But maybe her sister has a business overseas or is an influential fellow, do you think about that too?

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Pray for her to go.

Except she wan be illegal immigrant, she will decide to stay.

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Yes i saw the headline but did u also notice his first line?:My fiancee sister living abroad want my fiancee to come abroad

Is not like her sister in Abuja inviting her over, she is going with visitor's visa, meaning that she will come back after 6months or a yr depending on her visa, so i don't see the Greener Pasture thing there.

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Doesn't seem to me like she's invited. My Fiancee Want To Travel Abroad For Greener Pastures. Note that header

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If her sisiter lives in the USA or UK and she is invited then she can't stay as long as her visitor's visa will carry her, she can't work or study with that visa, only if she is going to do some dodgy business there,

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You're right with that observation. But with what the poster had said I don't think it's for visitation reasons. Seems more to me like she's going there to stay or something. But in the event of she trying to settle down, she will forget the guy using "settling down" as an excuse to stash him in her history box.

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I see where u are coming from.

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Onething we are 4geting is the fact that, she may not make it there, it all depend on the visa type, if she is going as a visitor then she can't work, so where will the money come from? If she is going with student visa then it will take yrs b4 she settles down.

For the fact that her sister is inviting her over doesn't mean that is going to hit it out there, in the case of UK or USA.

The bf she is leaving behind maybe better off if he gets a good job in Nigeria.

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Poster,

Get it straight, she is not your [b]WIFE so you have NO official claim on her.

That said, I think you ve been kind enough to let us know that she is leaving because her sister doesnt see any hope in your unstable(financially and otherwise) relationship,I'll advise you to start living with the fact that she is seeking greener pasture whether you like it or not.

As for the questions you asked,sit down and list the reasons you think would make her stick with you despite the distance also list reasons you think would make her desert/jilt you after that is done, weigh the points on each list. . .God help you if the negatives outweighs the positives.

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lol @ lottery

@poster

letting her go is not your issue at the end of the day

you cannot provide for her needs and a better life is hopefully awaiting her

so forget your question of "SHOULD I LET HER GO"

now focus on what a long distance relationship might cost you. Of course your relationship would now involve in a massive amount of adjustments and sacrifices. If she is definitely in love with you the way you are so much in love with her, you two can exceed any obstacle that may threaten to ruin your relationship. Both of you just need to be committed and completely honest about each others feeling. [/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

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can u povide for her?

her sister wants to make her future better,

y'all should have a long talk n decide what u want to do

since u cant, provide for her, best u let her go

y'all can keep ur relationship. . . . i think

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U self na wao!!which other side?, ahaha, yes now she is getting some congo, no doubt about that, got nothing to do with me.

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U self na wao!! yes now she is getting some congo, no doubt about that, got nothing to do with me.

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within those 6yrs,she go don nack enough.

body nor be firewood,i hope d poster understand.

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hmmm, enough said, b4 they start calling for my blood

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Boy,

what should bother you is the work you don't have and not babe, cos you truly need money to oil the relationship. Get a job and God will take the next step for you. BYE.

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Like u were quick to notice it, i mentioned it 4 a reason, they got a way of doing things, which our 9ja bro/sis 'may' not do

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hahaha, trust me ur secret is safe with me.

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I know where u are coming from

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Don't stop her, but keep an open mind about the whole thing. One of my female friends here is going home next month to marry her bf of 7yrs. She has being here for more than 6yrs now but still love this guy, sends money to him,

, tried to bring him out here last yr but he was refused entry at the heathrow airport, though they are both Malawians.

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u cant n shouldnt stop her, what ever will be will be

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It is rare 2 hear a woman going abroad and comes back to marry her fiancee. If u think cos u have sex wit her means u both have things in common u are wrong. This present world sex is not a bond is just fun. But guy dont rely on her u dont know when she will be back.

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I think you should be happy, that such an opportunity comes your way. The question is that" is the girl truely attached to you as you do?" because if she do, even over there she will sill try to pave way for you as your her dream man. Besides, mind you that everyday romance and sex can never be attached to true love. So it's in issues like this that you'll know if what both of you have been practicing is love or lust.

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When her visa is ready she would leave, she didnt go to university just to sit around you know and getting handouts from parents when you are in your 20s becomes boring,

The best thing right now is to look for a stable and decent job or start processing your visa too

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you don't "own" her.so "allowing" should not even arise.if she wants to leave fine,just go on bein the guy (nice) that she has always known.you just might win in the long run.On the contrary if you lose her,you console yourself that you did your best. best of luck.

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I'm so sure u r not a self-centred person. U should rily let her go since tings are not working out for u guys over here. At the same time, u should also kiss her Good-bye

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let her go, both of u have no job and who knows, when she gets there she might be able to help u or maybe send for u.

if both of u are meant to be, it will be. don't force it!

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lmao @ allow.

and I never knew having sex was considered as "having things in common"

Rofl. best thread in a while. I'm dying of laugher here.

If you actually give a damn about her and not just your selfish needs, you wouldnt stand in her way. It's that simple

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depends on so many things bro. like how strong the relationship is and stuff like that. but the problem is that most people easily forget the relationship they started at home before going abroad.

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