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My Friends, Brothers And Sisters I Need Ur Help?.

My friends, brothers and sisters i need your help?. Have been datting my galfriend now for over 3yrs and we love each other to bits. But we have a problem, i just found out resently that her mum will not allow me to marry her cos am not igbo, ( her mum told her is going to be over her dead body for us to marry) What should we do? (should i move on or stay with her).

NB. ples before you reply think BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER

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Bros, two of you can marry, this is the time both of you should show committment, care and concern for each other. In other word, it is time to show LOVE.

this is how it could be made possible.

- Make sure that both of u love each other as you love yourself.

- Option A (a short one) is agree with the girl and she will get pregnant for you. Accept the responsibility and take full care of her. Before she gets to 3 issues, you are already comfortably married.

-Option B is for two of you to remain single and make your relationship open to every one that cares. Her parent may hold on to her for some years but they will definitely call you and appologise to you. They will not only support the marriage but also sponsor it partly having seen the love their child have for you. Keep on loving and helping the girl and her parent as much as you can. This will convince them that love have not barrier. That you are for real and not chasing shadow. This option need endurance, trust and confidence.

To bolt away from the relationship because the parents and not because of girl is an indirect way of saying that you had only sexual interest in her.

Best of luck.

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omogenikky ::::: I get what you are saying, and i asked her why it took her this long to tell i can not marry her, ( her mum said i did not not tow of you will last this long), So now tell me where do i stand

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my guy, i don't feel for you. go and marry someone from your state. fullstop. parents especially yorubas- that are myopic, are like that so move on. cheers

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How come u had no hint of this in the "3 years of courtship". A mother can't suddenly wake up and tell her daughter not to marry someone from another tribe. She would have been dropping hints or warnings to the girl since she was old enough. And you guys got serious, 1st year, 2nd year, 3rd year without ever discussing this and you were in a "serious relationship" and "you love yourselves to bit".

Maybe I'm too harsh but really, I wonder when people come up with such issues after years of dating.

Anyways, since the mother has said over her dead body, you had better move on so that you won't be accused of killing the poor woman if u guys do marry, and next time, when the seriousness bug starts biting, ask your questions ,

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habibi777 if u truly love ur chik and she loves u so dearly that she can do anything to make sure u both end up being husband and wife. Then you two have roles to play, make sure u beg her mum and let her realise u are well trained but she doesnt see reasons after u might have shown ur gud sides to her, Then leave that area wit ur guy a a month or two and see what will happen, lol

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hi,

don't know why parents do this, i really don't know what to say. I'll get back to you.

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