Thanks for the attention, not actually my own girlfriend, but my friend's. Hoped to get some advise here as he solicited mine.
He's not willing to get married but she wants to get married, but they have been dating for like 4years and they are both 24yrs old , both of them have agreed to keep the baby, the pregnancy is going to like 3-4months, but they are yet to announce to their parents, both of them are students, only he's a part time job, and the two families also live just next door to each other.
Here's what he needs an advise for:
He's saved enough all these years for the future, and thinks it might be best to move her out of the hostel to an apartment, and don't want her to stay back at home because he feels her parents will continue nagging plus being the talk of the town in their neighbourhood. also for convinience he's thinking of buying her a car for mobility and less risk for the baby before and after, she's born, mind you this silly friend of mine still lives with his parents and doens't own a bicycle talkless of a car.
They haven't informed their parents because they feel their parents will make decisions for them since their parents will be taking care of the bill, he plans to tell them once he feels he has been man enough to put a roof over her head and give her a car, which gives some right over decisions.
The problem is this, he doesn't want to live with her for personal reasons. They have a choice to choose between a mini flat or a 3 bedroom apartment for her to live in, he thinks the mini flat is OK because he feels too much space will cost more to maintain and attract more people (which might also include her sister and brother and mother) to stay there, thereby costing him more to maintain more mouths, but because there might be needs for friends and family to stay with her sometimes she prefers the 3 bedroom, and also privacy
Please note, she's a first class student in her 3rd year of school , plus she's a freelance journalist.