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My Gurlfriend Just Enterede Uni, Would She Leave Me?

My Nija pple, I have been a dummy for a while now, seeking answers to questions that really needs urgent response to, I have been going on yahoo.answers to seek answers to my questions, but I figured out that white men or even black Americans cannot give me an accurate answer unlike my own nija peeps that understands the way things are here.

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 months now,  I am 24 and shes 16, beautiful with all assets required to be a modellino. Please do not say am a child abuser. We are both in love with each other. I am scared right now cos she just resumed school far away in Owerri as a jambite, and I feel I might lose her due to the fact that most nija girls that enters Uni for the first time tends to lose focus from their present relationship regardless of the fact that they are in love or not.  She usually wake me up in the morning with calls or txt messages, but nw she does do that, so Im having a feeling that the feeling is fading gradually. I know it is very obvious that she'll have a relationship there, I do not mind, but what do you guys think I can do in order to sustain this relationship in a way that I can still be her number 1, I am so much in love with this gurl that any little error in our relationship makes me hyper. Nija sensible soji guys abeg help with sensible advise.

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It is when I am in love and I got issues, thats when I usually need re-assurance, exactly when my inconsistent self-esteem shows its best. I am not always like that. I have moved on now, thanks

Na u sabi, lol Nna!!!

Not my fault bra!!! Luv got me doing childish things, just like I said I have moved on, my life is better, working hard to make it the best, thank u all!!!

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eyonigger, ur name makes me smile.thot u wuld be a 19yr old guy until u put 24!haba guy u r most inexperienced.boys ve said it all here.dont u know young ladies(below 24)are very unstable in their minds.much much much lesss of a 16yr old dummy.take the truth, u wont ve her.she got infatuated with u when she was still unexposed now in univ?(God help u one like unilag!)she will more more pple,guys will come,pressure will follow etc.if afta her 2nd yr u still 2geda,gudluck.but come to think of it 2mths and u think u ve her, o boy u still got a longer way to go.

make use of ur life and be a MAN.what women want is a succesful man.if u are,u will be confident and wont need bother if a babe will leave u or not.let nature take its toil and live ur own life.a poiece of ad, neva try to bug the babe oooooo or else u go just yawa ur sef.cheers

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so what were u thinking, that she will end up with a spare parts dealer abi?

anyway make sure you pay her school bills till she graduate b4 she finally

dumps your Bottom, okay. now go to ya shop and be a good boy.

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Boy, you seem to have issues with your self-esteem(judging from ur other topics, ), U always need constant re-assurance and pep-talks. Leave the girl be, let her get an education, you should do same while you're at it, instead of looking for a sex-toy.

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Sounds like an episode of to catch a predator

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Very very possible bra!!!

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I just broke us up just now, feel so releived,

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I wont wait, will get a back up and wait for her as well,

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It must be undercover if she is underage because the feds will lock u up.

A high school senior had an relationship with a freshman and the feds came after him!!

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Your woman is gone. She is 16 and beautiful and she is going to be among wolves. Everything you do, there will always be a guy that will be willing to do double and the fact you have been dating for just 2 months does not help matters.

Best thing is for you to have a Plan B and enjoy it while it lasts cos it ain't gonna last long

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just work hard to become successful in life so that she will regret leaving you and may probably come back begging. but if you keep brooding over if she will leave you or not and you become a failure, she will dump you and will thank God for that. So just don't bother yourself, leave things to take it's course. work hard to become a success and an envy to babes. that's what many of us babes want.

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@taken, yes its true,,,very very possible

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I know some pple would disbelieve me, this happened here in the state.  I even interviewed the girl myself.

You better believe it, shits are happening here.

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Either of us have not declared it over yet, we are still playing hard to get, she aint calling, am not calling, I am actually planning to go back to my ex who loves me more than I do to her, cos my mum told me to always stick to a gurl that I knw loves me more than I do to her, but I love my present gurl, time will take me to heal if I did lose her, but ooowheee!!! Nor be today I have been heartbroken and getting out of the pain.

@Taken, U are right, U can imagine me not meeting my gurl a virgin at the age of 16, I mean she is too fine for a mammy water self, tall with big bosoms and big Bottom. Abegee, even priest go wan yansh am,

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Stop lying Dude! What do u take us for? 10 yr old pregnant girl?

Go & re-read ur Biology Texts Man.

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Some times you cant blame some of these guys for balalaing some of these teens cus many of them these days are on an extreme heat period without leash.

I have seen a ten years old pregnant girl.

Even when it is not right to do so, you cant stop these full packaged teen girls not to tempt a brother.  Only that a brother needs to control himself sometimes.

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You've lost her already.

U r presently left wit 2 options, get her baq or get sum1 else.

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Some dudes up here are talking like savages, I mean in Nija here, ages 15 upward does not really matter in a relationship because them dey over soji, and its not like they are being sexually manipulated into bed. My own gurl has balad, but that dont mean I have to, you should all know that most young gurls from ages 15 upward have had sex in this our so called Nigeria.

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Being 18 doesn't translate to being mature.

18 in America, yeah.

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I just wonder why you guys are up here blasting my vocabs,grammar and sentences, do u know what? Thats woeva, it aint like you do not understand what I have written, this is not an essay writing, so be matured bra!!!

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moreso i thought 18 was the age of consent

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You are an abuser fool.

24 Year old man and a 16 year old girl dont go together!!

**~~Find someone your age~~**

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the grammar, vocabulary and sentence structure of the poster leaves one wondering

what attracted the 16 year old to him in the first instance

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Wait, pull back she is SIXTEEN years of age!!! You should be ashamed of yourself. *dials child protective services*

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@ TOYOSI, Its not a surprise that any lady that comes on here would blast me, please visit another thread.

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Nothing wrong with balalaing, but even if she has done it before, you play the big dawg by showing true love and respect.

See pple think sey the guys who dey keep quiet are suwegbes.  But what pple dont know nah sey, there is power in quietness and in submission.

Consider a snake for example! Remember also that empty vessels make the most sounds.

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Hahahha, u guys are funny, but she don bala before na? And she wan dey bala dey go? Make I come dey dull? @ d person that says I gonna go to hell, are we not all sinners? I know am wrong, but two wrongs cant make a right cos she self don bala before. Besides it aint only bala that is on my mind, I love her but as a guyman that has invested my whole feelings into this gurl, I am entitled to a balala, please feel me.

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Bala = bang bang her. Please my friend, your feelings should not be to bala. Have some respect.

Well another thing you can do is to wait for her till she graduated from college - if you truly believes she is God's choice for you.

But to bala only, I beg you o to kick such thought and impulses out. Do you want some dude to bala you sisters and cousins for sport?

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excuse me but wats 'bala'

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eyonigger it not mandatory u bala her? bcoz if u do,u don sin? if u sin u go dey hellfire? if u dey hellfire u don die be dat. lol just kidding but plz dont bala her.

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Man me, I never bala this gurl na, to be sincere, na wetin dey worry me be that. Actually neglecting her is what I have started since yesterday, she just called some minutes ago to ask me something, told her, and she said ok, bye, and she hung up, , Me i just wan bala make i know sey i no lose at all.

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eyonigger ill advice u to carry on, dude u knw wat up? dont flash,text or call her for one week,if she ask why ur not being calling,lie dat ur down! but if she dont care to call or text u,just forget abt her. dat d way i do my thang.

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I actually forgot to input the fact that she is more than 16 in character and any other thing you can think of, this is the first relationship having to be with a young girl, and its nothing different to any other matured girls that I have been with. So what you guys are saying is that I should just forget the relationship? Or should I just stop worrying myself and see the way things would go either ways?

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@1one, age dont realy matter,maturity matterz alot,have dated a 14years gurl,she love me so much,why? im her 1st love.

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im 95% sure she wil neglect

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u re freting over a babe? for bleeping wot.

let me tell u something, forget about her.

i said that coz i know girls are naturally unstable,

and at that age, she is more naturally over unstable.

dont u know that d second name 4 girls is out of site is out of mind, if u aint gat dough.

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you must have been thinking with your lower head for even going out with a 16year old, for goodness sakes, 16year old girls are so silly, oh sorry, i meant silly, what value could a 16year old girl possibly add to your life, your ways of thinking should be different, thats another mistake, they don't even think at all, their actions are fuelled by irrational impulses, they are always lightheaded cos there's obviously nothing in the brain, the brain is still highly populated with more watery than solid tissues, they are highly sentimental and subjective and most of their choices and decisions are sieved through concepts and notions gotten from all those cheap skate novels, need i say more?, so my guy, consider it a love gift from the heavenlies that both of you are now somewhat apart, MOVE ON.

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common man be serious with ur self a 16yrs old gal. it is so very illegal to date a 16 yrs old gal not to talk more of u worrying about her seeing someone else, if it were to be in a mordenized country u will be jailed for 3 yrs. more over she is bound to meet people, but if ur relationship with her really means any thing to her u will still remain her num 1, u are just feeling insecure. sort ur self out first, become a better man , cos i think that will make u feel better.

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Don't mind him, he has not seen anything yet.

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what news or story have been hearing about a fresher in higher institution especially girls?

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Look what I meant is don't fret over her but fret over building a solid life.

2. Most Young pple are unstable cus they have less/no experience about life

3. Definately, she will meet richer, better, more attractive, and more influential guys; You cant do nothing about that.

And she alone can determine that none of these would influenced her heart

4. Broken relationship is better than broken marriage

5. Let nature takes his toll.

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But I am not showing it to her that am worried.

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Common my man, you should have better plans for your life beside worrying over a small girl that is yet to know about life.

Build your life, plan for your future, and let time and chance leads you to your final destination.

For the fact that you are worrying over this girl, you have already lost her.

Stop worrying.

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o boy, forget the girl.

but wetin u dey do with a 16 yr old anyways?

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