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Nagging Or Silent Treatment: Which Is More Effective?

I've noticed that I can get my point across more by giving the silent treatment than by nagging. Which do you feel is more effective?

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Nagging works better if your goal is to kill your husband.

Silent treatment works if you want to kill your wife.

Neither of them is constructive.

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Definitely silent -

"Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding." - Prov 17:28

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it's a reversed psychology thingy, guys r used 2 nagging, so dey can always switch off their brain, but d silent treatment, ha!

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Sounds like you need a reservation at the local jail. I will happy to make one for you if you like.

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The bible says it is better to stay on a corner of your rooftop than to live with a nagging wife(proverb 25:24), it also says somewhere else (in same provrrbs) that the words/voice of a nagging wife is like a tap going drip; drip; drip! (paraphrased).

Nagging is awful! the person just gets labelled "alatenumo iya aje" (nagger, mother of a witch) or smthin like that.

plus, i never heard of a nagging woman whose husband was ever eager to get home, or stay at home,

silent treatment? half the time it doesnt work. men n their notorious ego, it puts them on the defensive and they HATE being on the defensive!!

I totally agree with HR.hotness. wots the point-he's peacefully sleeping and i cant cos im busy stewing? no way jose. na so high B.P and gallstones dey start!

if he's the one giving me silent treatment, i'll ask him 1ce, 2ce 3ce, nicely. if he says nothing, ill ignore. when he gets tired of sulking and he's ready to talk, he'll know where to find me.

wot, u be wife-beater??

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BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

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You can express your anger without nagging or exceeding the limit - make your point and identify with it, Finish!

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I have always said that story is the fabric of life. SILENCE is more effective. Read the tale of mother fox and mother duck, there is wisdom in it.

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@ nalijah07

I don't say things out of anger, not anymore. . .  i try to say what I feel and why i feel it. I'm very passionate so when i get angry i feel like killing someone, I figured that rather than let out angry words, its better to try and explain what i'm feeling and why. ,   helps me calm down and helps whoever to understand whats going on inside me.

If I'm angry, i say I'm angry and I say why, I don't call people names unnecessarily or attack people without proof. . . even then I try to explain why I'm upset. It doesnt always work because words can always be interpreted differently, but the idea really is to not say what I am unsure about or I'd regret it. And when i do say angry words, I have to be sure that i mean them

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@Chika

Yes exactly.

Hotness have you ever regretted saying something out of anger?

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sometimes i just cant hold it back,if i do its like my whole body is going to tear into two,maybe its because im hot tempered

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Sometimes you will say the wrong things while "letting it all out"

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When I don't have anything nice to say, I tend to keep my mouth shut. Works out well that way

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I guess. .

but I dont know how to keep things inside, esp if I'm angry, I gotta spk out. . . if he's willing to listen we probably can come to some form of agreement.

I wont ever mention it again and I'd let it go

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Well sometimes the silent treatment comes about when you dont want to say the wrong thing out of anger. So you silence yourself until you calm down. It just happens that this ends up having an effect on your mate.

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I dont know how to keep a grudge or nag. . . I dont have the patience

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@hotness and Stephen

Are you saying you have never given or received this type of treatment??

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I don't use either,

I'd speak my mind, u have one chance to listen. . .  if u don't, na u sabi.

when I'm fed up, I walk!

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what if u dont have nice thots, u keep all that negativity inside?

i wont survive it, it eats me up from the inside. . . better for me to let it be known, helps be get over it

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None. To me, both are immature and they only make the tension longer than it has to be. I'd rather have let's-sit-down-and-talk.

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@topic

both of them r useful,because sometimes its important in life

but anyways i go for silent treatment

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No i dont. The only person i expect to be like me is my king. He understands how i am and what i am like and that is why he is my king.

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@sistawoman

You don't expect everyone to be like you.

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I used to date someone who tried that poo on me.  I used to hate that poo one of the reasons we did not last that long.

I hate, hate , hate games as much as i hate, hate, hate liers.  To make it work with me you have to be real all the time.

Needing your time alone and giving someone the silent treatment because you are trying to make them pay for something they did or did not do is totally different.  We all need our time alone.  If i get a rush job I have to be in my sewing studio working around the clock and alone time is just what i need to get the job done.  When i am PMSing i need time alone and when he is PMSing he needs time alone or with the fellas.  I dont care about that, you do you and ima do me then we will do us.

I have learned to let the small poo roll off my back, and to pick my battles.  As long as you do what you say you do then we are all good.  The only time i will get bent out of shape is if i ask you to do something you tell me you will do it and then you dont do it.

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@ Sistawoman - Your relationships seems ideal.

However, there are those that don't always communicate well - Or don't wish to communicate when they know they are wrong.

For example, my boyfriend is the MASTER at evading questions. If he does not want to talk about something, he will turn the question around so much, without giving a direct answer that i will end up being the one interrogated.

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well like i said before there will come a time when either parties will want to play dumb. Not everything u will want to share with your partner. Sometime he would love to be left alone.

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Silent treatment is the best.

The person being ignored will feel like a fool!!

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How so? Please elaborate.

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There always come to a time when either you or your spouse will have to play dumb.

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@ Seun - It's not like it is all the time. Just sometimes when you REALLY need to make a point, and your previous attempts have fell on deaf ears.

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thats because there is understanding and love.

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I know thats right. Thats the games babies and kids play, i am a grown Bottom woman and i do grown Bottom women things.

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My ex used to try that poo.  He learned the hard way that poo dont bother me.  I have too many other things that can occupy my mind then worrying about what has your boxers all in a bunch.

Trust me I dont hold my tounge and I dont expect my partner to do it either.

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Either nagging or silent treatment will simply end the relationship, if I'm involved. I don't have to take nonsense.

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thats because u haven't fall a victim.

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LOL @ Tngtech

Yes, very true indeed. I think it must be nerve wrenching for them to wonder what is going on in your mind.

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Neither.

I dont have nag or be silent all i have to do is ask. He gives me a str8 up answer and if it is something that he needs to do he handles it. Once I give it to him i no longer worry about it because I know he will take care of it. I tell you this man has spoiled me and I love it.

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& plz do tell, what is mostly a man's aspect of life?

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