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Nigerian Raised at Home or Abroad: which would you prefer to marry?

Whom would you prefer to marry?

1. A Nigerian raised in a foreign land

2. A Nigerian raised at home

3. A Nigerian who has a mix of both, with:

(a) More of foreign.

(b) More of home.

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Mix Mix Mixed Nigerian on both sides does it all

@lest she wont be a BB fanatic

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I actually choose nigeria raised from home and living abroad, I prefer that rather. there is something I"ll tell you guys maybe you learn from me, my dad called me one day and says deji do I have a girlfriend I reply no my mum was hmmm, in the background and said mummy i dont have a girlfrined and she reply and says as old as I am and living lonely basically my dad says deji dont just look for girlfrined just for the sake of it, look for someone that responsible, polite etc if gods says so you may be husband and wife so be it so take your time and look for reliable girl and he says time is short start looking ahead plan your life together and by grace if you both know what you"re doing who knows she may your future wife

therefore guys look for girls that you would both help each other and plan aheda dont juts look for girlfriend just because other are doing it

I wil be 24 yrs old and still single this is not a curse my brother or sister, he who is patient eat the fatest bone

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Indifferent. As long as she has what I am looking for, I am less interested in how she acquired it.

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Nigerian raised mostly abroad and partly at home.

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nigerians raised at home

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ok oooo,omo eko make u no argue again,not all 9ja guyz are useless but 99.9999999999999999, % of dem are

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i would chose the nigerian raised mostly at home cos its the best for me.

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You can't make blanket statements like that. Something in the lines of "some nigerian guys" would've been more appropriate.

There are some naija ladies who could use some work with their attitude that I know of personally, but that wouldn't make me assert that all naija ladies are useless. This is the point I am getting at. Don't let your emotions take over everything, before you know it, mr. right will come along.

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@Omo Eko

Wzup, Baby ??

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I seriously doubt that where the person was raised should matter. Values and culture are very important attributes in a spouse, but it is doubtful that those are strictly related to where one was born and/or raised.

There are plenty if people who were born and raised abroad, never seeing Nigeria, who retain the cultural values of their parents, and there are plenty of people who were born and raised at home in which such attributes are absent. It shouldn't really matter where person was brought up. If one wants to marry a Nigerian with values, one must look for a Nigerian with values. Just cutting out an entire group of potential spouses because of their locale would just be silly. There is a chance that your perfect future wife or husband may not be from the place you want them to be from, but from this place where you assume that they don't have what you are looking for.

Anyway, I think that we should be careful about such preferences, as it can disrupt the unity of this board and cause a falling out between nairalanders home and abroad.

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i didnt say all of them, most of them .

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the ones here have lost their cultural values , and i cant marry a lady in naija cos its gona take time to bring and adpt her into my american lifestyle,

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I can imagine David sitting among the women with his polished nails go "ehen, I think it's that Mama Peju's son. That useless boy with his dada hair" yes o. That boy is just trouble yad yada yada

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u funny welsyane lol that was ur hero lmao aww

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some of the stories weren't bad either. some guy jumped from a 3rd floor. he injured his shoulder but that was it. He was my hero for a long time.

some guy got shot like 6 times and it all missed him. he was running from his car.

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yeah we got to take the rough with he smooth Wesleyane

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madam stiletto shoes, did you read my post very well? it had nothing to do with you o

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wats ur own David can't ppl say they miss their country good or bad as it may be without you saying it is a politically correst thing to say? why u dey make something from nothing?

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A nigerian raised anywhere so long as she's still nigerian at heart

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ok sorry sweetheart. JOSboy lol , backyard is good too lmao

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just like my lil bro in elementary school

in his words "the kid called me an african ******"

i think he got suspended like 3 times till he changed schools.

oh God. boys.

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David, I was 7 years old, I have matured beyond that

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@ Jos,

You have time to even fight them. Dont waste your time, most can be categorised into two: the truly ignorant - those i save my sarcastic remarks for and the intentionally spiteful - those i reserve the wrong end of my tongue.

Dont go telling me about the jungle i come from when you cant even pass ordinary high school exams, your own don finish be that.

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I miss the people and the accpetance, feeling that i belong. This is the feeling white people get here in the western world. Home is where the heart is.

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I remember when i first came in grade 2, I used to get in fights every blessed day.

Just couldnt control it. I think I was in the principal's office with him playing chess, than actually in class!

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What do you miss about naija? NEPA, police extortion points errr check points, no water, MEND, Yar'Adua, Atiku, Molue, bad roads, cows on airport runways?

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lol. i know the feeling

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my dear, dont bother being mad with ignorant pple.

I remember looking at this chic who said i must be African and going, oh really? And what do you think you look like? Chinese?

She kept quiet after that.

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Man sometimes the thing really hits me.

Im bad at hiding my true emotions. If im mad you can see it on my face.

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humour them and tell them all those things they hear are true and one day in the future when they get some education they will remember you saying '' you sleep in trees'' and realise that the joke was on them

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A strategy i use that has always worked is to reply them with a little sarcasm. Always shuts the ignorant ones up.

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But sometimes it really pains me when they are so blatently ignorant.

Especially when you are with a group of people, what is a good strategy for combatting this?

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the first time i visited my cousins 5 yrs ago, they kept asking me if i wore clothes in Nigeria. Their mum was furious.

I calmly explained to them that in truth we did not wear clothes but just so as not to arouse their curiosity i had bought some clothes at the airport. They were satisfied!

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I swing on trees like tarzan, I was raised by ape's too

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I tell them my house is a tree house and i dont wear clothes!

The funniest thing is when the really ugly ones tell me they can tell how africans look like. Like a skinny one i met in Dec who claims she could tell i was African because of a freak visit to Kenya!

On a good day my ex who has never been inside an aircraft before is 100x better!

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@ jos, i thot that was explanatory enough. Plenty of "Nigerians" here who look down on fellow Nigerian-born compatriots as having come from the jungle.

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Which part of Nigeria, or it doesnt matter to you?

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i prefer one from Nigeria

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I don't get your last sentence David, can you elaborate for moi?

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Jos, you have too many prerequisites.

I used to say she must be a medic too like my mum. i since dropped that criteria.

Nigerians who have lost all sense of identity with the toils of Africa are probably worse racists than white americans themselves.

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i dont think it matters too as long as the person still had strong ties to Nigeria and dont try to be fake

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I dont think it matters, so long as she still maintains her nigerian identity and speaks yoruba!

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I definitely want a guy with a bit of both, and it doesn't matter which is more. I just want someone that has been exposed to other ideas and might think similarly than I do. But I could marry a guy that was born and raised in Nigeria, as long as he doesn't have some crazy ways of thinking.

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It really doesn't matter to me.

The only thing is, a woman raised at home (or that has atleast lived there before) is more likely to embrace our culture better, and I do cherish our culture.

But a lady can be raised at home and still be completely incompatible with me on all possible realms.

So, at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter.

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I'd always chose a Nigerian bred girl over am american or british bred girl

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Neither. . .i find both with the same qualities most often. The compatibility factor is the cinch.

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As a girl I'd prefer a Nigerian guy who was raised over here!

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