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Omitting Information Vs Lying In A Relationship - Which Is Worse?

Is it just as bad to omit information in a serious relationship  as it is to lie? My friend is involved with someone and did not tell him that she has been married twice. I don't know how she does it, but she always places the focus on his past history and avoids hers altogether.

This man has never been married and tells everyone they know that she is his future wife. She does love him and would be willing to marry him but she is not even legally divorced from the second husband.

I think this is the same as lying - What do you think?

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Both are very destructive and should not be adopted when you're dealing with friends,spouse or anyone at all for that matter.

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both are a set of twin from the same source, done with deliberate intention.

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it is better to omit than to lie

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Taking risk is nothing but endandering ones life, I feel for the Poor Man. But one thing I would live to tell the Lady Is "What goes around comes around" so she must be prepared.

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Both are outrageous in a serious relationship,they should always say the truth

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What if the guy is only playing the fool for her.

Probably he knows about her two ex-husbands and all the many lovers she has had in the past.

I mean which right thinking man wouldn't?

If not from info from close quaters then through sleeping with her.

Abi, even with all the proper techniques (exercise and all) in use these days how won't i detect that am probably the 99th constant visitor to her haven.

It's left to my guy to decide what he wants jare!

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Telling lies is worst than omitting information because lies can bring breakup in a relationship.It also bring lack of trust in a relationship.

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All the lawyers in the house, I am wondering if such a marriage can be legally binding considering the fact that the marriage has been based on outright falsehood and lies.

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Both are the same

I will tell my date everything about my past and if he still agreed to marry me fine and if otherwise life continues.

It is not good to ommit anything from the person u want to share ur life time with cos it can be distratruos if he / she find out ur past.

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why dont you just ask you friend. a broken relationship and a third broken marriage,which would she prefer?she should give herself brain cos she never knows who her man might want to show her off to tomorrow

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Your friend must be silly and a dunce to think that it wont back fire. Hey, Hey, you dont need to be a brain surgeon to know the repercurssion of this. A woman that has been married twice is definitely a woman with poor judgement and a cheap one. But if comes out to tell the guy she bring forth genuine reasons that the guy might understand. But for him to find out by himself will only confirm that she is a slot.

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Dats quite terrible. I don't think she's ready to marry him cos if she does, she'll know how disastrous such an action can be. She doesn't think they'l last long into the future dats why i believe she's holding back such vital information.

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@poster, both r d same - omission @ wil n lyin, no diffrent.

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The post above was directed @ nalijah07

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@@ nalijah07

think d same way >>>>

omit info ko !!!!!!! lie ni !!!!!!! both talk same language LIESSSSSS !!!!!!!

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Both are deadly, you have to be transparent a relationship.

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It is not lying (to speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly) - as she has not uttered any untruths regarding the matter, and also the man is Kitty-Cat whipped and too foolish to ask for clarification of her past.

However, it is Fraud, and Deception,of the highest order (to mislead by a false appearance, actions or statement, thereby gaining an advantage).

I have always said it; In a relationship, the onus is upon you to seek and clarify the truth, rather than depend/ wait on it being offered or told.

The man needs to respect himself, and stop shouting about a woman he does not know, as he will surely be getting some nasty surprises in the future.

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Why is it majorly ladies that are answering this? Na wa o!

Anyway omitting may be done in love so as not to hurt the feelings of a loved one!

it's as simple as that.

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how long is the relationship pls?

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omitting info and lying are not the same but i guess they are both done for same reasons most times.

maybe Fear- of losing someone/ something so dear to ur heart but hiding stuff like ur past really could be equated with lying cos all u do is presenting who u are not or part of who u are and making an impression on whoever is concerned without saying it in words that u were never the other person u're hiding or prolly u hide info bidding time as u never can tell who is really right for u in a short while.

In my opinion, i think its better to tell anyone u truely love vital info about urself, if it leads to a broken relationship then let it be, it only indicates that that person is not right for u.

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It's a small world.He'll eventually find out and dump her like a used tampon.

Go and mark that somewhere.

A twice divorced woman,what is she looking for in the institution of marriage again

hasn't she done enough "try your luck"

she now wants to ruin an innocent man's life by deceiving him into marriage.

what a shameless,heartless and coldblooded woman.

She is no marriage material and has no business being married to anyone except a 4 times divorced male.

Too highrisk even for a handshake.

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There is nothing lyk omitting info in d first place. Wen 2 people are tryn 2 get in2 a r/ship dnt tell me they dnt get 2 ask each oda about their past so therefore any info u conceal is lying and wat d oda party finds out wat he or she will ask is why did u lie 2 me not why did u omit d info, so u can see nd do u no wat d ans alwayz look like 'i didnt want 2 lose u dats y i lied'. Or am i wrong?

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This isn't omitting, neither is it lying, she is actually endangering her future, have u ever wondered y there is something called divorce? this is one of the reasons, if eventually they get married, and this man gets to find out dt she actually kept something like this from him, he might still love her but will never trust her again, and this will be the beginning of the down fall of her marriage with him, so I'll like to advise dt she talk to him about it now dt they are not yet married, and if he breaks up with her, then he never loved her in d first place, but if he remains with her, then she has made hay while d sun shine.

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this is called concealing information and not lie.

lie is always aimed at deceiving while concealing information is always aimed at subverting judgement. both may be used to achieve the same purpose though the latter is excusable more so if the first party never asked about the subject for which information was concealed.

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i don't think it is the same thing - but the effects they have on a relationship are the same

you just basically have to be clever in how you sieve info you give in a r/ship how important and relevant is it to your partner and would you want to know in their shoes?

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haa the woman should have let him know about her past relationship instead of side tract them

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In her case, what she hid from him was really important. She should have told him about it.

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Why isn't anyone faulting the guy for not asking her about her past relationships??

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@op

if you open up at first, then you'll have nothing to fear tomorrow

wonder when people will realize that your lies always catch up you in the end & that then, the price is steep

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It is the same thing as lieing, beecause ur friend dont really want to say the truth, i do understand but she has to voice it out

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Interesting - because she sure did say that the reason she is not telling is because he never asked.

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No, I do not think it is. It depends on the kind of info and the reasons behind it being withheld.

However, [i]this [/i]particular bit of info:

Is clearly crossing the line, and yes, it is lying - a dangerous at that.

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Lying by omission is what I call it.

As time goes on it will get harder and harder to tell the truth.

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