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Open Relationships: Would You Have One?

My girlfriend and I recently started talking about having an open relationship. We've been together for 5 years now, . She is my soul-mate, I knew when I saw her, She was the "1". We've been through a lot together these past years and there is nothing I wouldn't do for her, she is my "OXYGEN". We are at a point in our lives were we are content and secure with our feelings for one another. So Open-Relationship(party) topic came up one day in convo, I'm striaght and I haven't been with a woman since we met. My feelings and desires to be with another woman have surfaced again and I can't fight the feelings. One day I went and told her what I needed in our relationship. So she suggested I find a gf and she could have her try every once in awhile with another guy(Safe Sex Always!!!!!). Would you consider that an Open-relationship? And what is your opinions about them. , Make your comment a reasonable one, PEACE OUT.

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d biginning of the end of ur relationship is here

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I think the fact that you brought the topic here on this Forum suggests that even you do not believe it to be right/sane. You probably need some form of justification to satisfy your ego. Truth is that you actually may get it, but definitely not from me.

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wish you guys all the best.

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What?!? r u kidinn me? seriously ion think u guys r truly in love. if you were u wouldnt want another guy on ur girl or vice versae. az inn u wouldnt even think of it. u guys need to stick to yourselves n not 'sharing'. thats one of the prices to pay when in a relationship. if u guys r truly in love, you should learn to control your hormones!

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i definitely won't date someone who takes relationship advice from a comedian

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This is nt a r/ship any longer,i guess u shld cut it off b4 it puts u into trouble

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@topic. Whilst someone who cheats on his/her partner may still love him/her, I don't believe there's any class of love between people who have no problem with an open relationship. They might get along great and all but it stops short of true love. Considering it now is fine since there is mutual agreement but if I know anything, this will be the beginning of the end.

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@poster

open gbukwee nu onwe unu there.

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@ poster, pls do what you want to do, abeg: very good idea; indeed.

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I suggestd it. . . indirectly! he took to ma suggestion. . .buh argh! 1 8 2 f!nk offit! uhmnn!

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Love ur honesty but fink ur relationship is just based on s3x!

U could pick anoda hubby or kiss each other goodbye cos thats what this open thingy is gon lead to.

Or simply stop seeing each other for a while.

All the best newayz.

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Open relationship! Where do you guys get all these nonsense from? To say this means you guys are no more in love and you keep contradicting yourself. Im sure if you had been married you would have come up with open marriage.

This is just the beginning, the next thing you will be chasiing men and you gf will b chasing women. Then u guys will finally end up changing your sexes.

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Dude, while I'm not judging you or anything like that,i just want to let you know that it's quite normal to be in a long term relationship and feel the urge to sleep with someone else.You're only human, what wouldn't be human however is what you are suggesting.You should be extremely wary of someone who would suggest that you have an ''open'' relationship in the name of trying to salvage a relationship, if i were your girlfriend,and you told me you had the urge to sleep with other women,I'd break up with you if we both couldn't find common ground and let you go shag out your life, an open relationsip is an excuse to be selfish, an 'éat your cake and have it all attitude, it's a pathetic excuse to on the part of both parties involved to avoid being fully committed to one person.I can bet you that if you go into this,your relationship with her won't last long.If you can't stick to your woman after five years in a relationship and want to go tasting other honey combs now,what makes you think you will be able to stick with her during marriage wwhatare you going to do? have an open marriage Is that what you want your kids to learn? Life isn't all about you and what you need you know, it's also about doing the right thing, so dude? do the right thing and stop being selfish, both of you!

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You know what, everything must come to an end, therefore its ok you can end this relationship nothing wrong with that

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she is ur oxygen, very soon she will be ur Carbondioxide

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bawomolo------just ignore the morons---incapable of thinking for them selves---dont u know that most people on this forum know little more than what their parents and pastors have told them

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is it not better dat u guys go ur seperate ways instead of engaging in d silly open poo.

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I'm not sure if I could do the whole open relationship thing. Technically human beings weren't meant to be with one individual for long periods of time. It unnatural as a human being to even be with someone for so long, we were designed like that [genetically speaking]. The whole idea of being with someone forever is a man made idea. We've [human beings] instilled in ourselves this idea of being together forever. Anyway to the OP, if it works for you guys then go for it. To each his own.

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were your forefathers mad when they practiced polygamy?   

monogamy isn't the only marital system that can exist dummy.

who knows he could be into the wife swapping thing.

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u both r not sane, u urself no get pride as a typical 9ja dude 2 dey post dis topic, i'm sure u'll do same when u get married, giving ur wife free ticket to bang around, RUBBISH!!!

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Go ahead with the open relationship, we life once and beside one toto dey kill the jomo.

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what is the meaning of open relatioship if i where ur g/f i will just tell u to walk out of my life cos is an indirect way of saying u are breaking off, anyway go ahead with ur opn relationship and produce alot of AIDS, wish u well in ur search for AIDS

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@bawolomo and viladiva. i think both of u are crazy. for u to support that silly act, their must be something wrong with u.bcs will smith did it, monique too did it, that made it a good idea. you are all mad.

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for me i think both of u r just smthing out of his earth, is beta u guys depart and com to reality uuuh?

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what if she goes out of the open door and never returns? think about it if indeed you truely love her.you never can tell the outcome of your actions until its too late.by the way whose idea it was to get in to this?

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How can you say you love each other when you're both fine with knowing the other is sleeping with other people. There's no love in that!Open relationship my foot!!

Although I do applaud your openness and honesty with each other cos other people would just start an affair instead of being upfront but puh-leese, open relationship is not the way to go, You just need to inject some excitement into the relationship.

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^^

bababy we are both havin a closed and secured relationship~

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what is open relationship? beats me,

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there is nothing like open relationship. If u guys are tired of each other, then say goodbye, the world will not end because of it.

Pls try 2 realize that there is much more to a relationship than just f.u.cking each other. 

I learnt that after several failed relationships. that is exactly why I'm not finding it easy to get back to a relationship.

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Its a pity most of these answers here are simply biased and myopic. Sex and love are two different things. Sex is simply for pleasure while love is for relationship. There are cases where some men would allow their wives to have sex with other men provided they do not love them. Though that is the western way

Personally I am not cut out for such. My advise to the poster is to get back and rediscover the relationship and introduce new ways of doing thngs.

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DO U TRUELY LOVE HER BOCS I CAN TAKE THAT RISK READ MORE ABOUT DATING.I KNOW U RESPECT HER VIEW BUT Respect is one of the basic human values U SHOULD BE CAREFUL www.datingblackladies.blogspot.com

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mtchewww, I know that Busayo isnot posting here. As if he's old enough for all this.

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monique and her husband do too. lots of Nigerian marriages are basically open anyway.

the OP and his partner could be one of the few it works for. If they want to give it a try, let them do it.

well at least there is honesty and communication in the relationship. would it be better if the OP got a mistress without her knowing?

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apparently will smith and his misses pratice this and it seems to have been working for them

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It's not necessarily over the minute they start bedding other people but it will still bring about the death of the relationship. Either he gets so into this new babe with the sweetest p***y or she finds this new guy(s) got the sweetest d** k or their new partner(s) gives everything (not just s*x) better than the old partner. I bet they won't want to tell each other the new 'temporary' partners are better. How will this man feel 2 years down the line when his GF's bedded a number of guys? Will he still want to marry her? Will she want to marry him knowing that he can't control his desires for other women?

Open relationships don't work for most people, especially where one partner is the one who really wants it because his/her low morals and uncontrollable urges.

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[color=#000099][/color] wht do me by open relationship both realy nid b out of this earth. i think u r nt compactible just quit?

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Look he is not merely looking for a new way to spice up his relationship. He is getting carried away by other ladies n wants 2 fulfil his fantasies wit dem albeit witout recrimination from his girl n she comes back wit me too I go do my own. Tell me dat is a health way to do tins?!

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this could work

and how do you know this. he wants to engage in three-somes or swinging relationship but that doesn't mean the relationship is over.

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Open relationships / marriages aren't for us, so the answer's no.

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y cant people just understand that every body cant be the same

just cos u cant handle or cos it doesnt work for u, dont mean it wont work for some1 else

people sld learn to b more open minded and less judgmental

try to give objective opinions rather than subjective ones

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Open Relationship is an Oxymoron. Relationships are by nature closed circles unless the relationship is one dat involves lots of people like familial relationships.

A romantic relationship will not survive the confusion of having sexual partners outside the relationships. Why do u think polygamy fails most times? I know a muslim lady who told me d day her husbands gets anoda wife will b WW3 n am not talking bout a 'yuppie' muslim o!

Guy u both should just b honest wit urselves dat u want other people n dat ur relationship should end. U are just confusing urselves is all.

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My guy stop decievin urself wit all ur 'scope'. U guys r tired of d relationship but u dont kno dat yet but very soon ur eyes go open.

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Borrowing the words of an earlier poster, the relationship is at 'quarter to ending'. You both agreeing to an open relationship really means you can exit the relationship at any time.

And when you say you can't stick with just this lady, being unmarried, what happens when you get married? Will you be loooking for your wife to agree to an open relationship; or to agree to you sleeping with other women while she doesn't do other men; or simply cheat on her?

Anyhow, bo ti wu ni la n se imale eni!

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