«Home

Playing Hard To Get: Is It Really Necessary?

Playing hard to get:does it determine the level of respect you get in the relationship or does it just slow things down.I see it as a period you get to study the person you want to get involved with but some call it pretence.What do you think

Avatar
Newbie
56 answers

to my own candid opinion i think if a man approach a girl for marriage and she is sure of his mind the issue of hard to get is very very immature and unnecessary coz at last he will be ur husband. so wats next. but some guys can come for fun you know i.e just to enjoy the thrill in the chase and he can endure all d hard to get tactics as long as he wiil get what he wants at last. if he is 4 marriige den no hard to get please.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Abeg o!

From now, its hard to get

many guys when u fall the idea of i like u, u like me, so lets roll, they really misbehave.

Guys are really confused, they dont know what they want

U play hard to get - She is playing games , i don tire

U dont play hard to get - this girl must be cheap

U act independent, like u dnt need their money - she is too independent, she wont be submissive

u act like u are not independent n ask - she is demanding, i want an independent woman

Abegi, free me! When i meet the guy i like, i choose the model i want

When a guy likes u, he likes u!!!!!!!

0
Avatar
Newbie

what is exciting u?who is talking about sex?did i use d word cheap just to classify sex ? can't a guy still call a girl cheap even wtout them having sex?

does d word cheap always have to go wt sex?haba

0
Avatar
Newbie

See what I mean? You are all obsessed with sex because you think that's the only thing you can eventually offer a guy so if he doesn't suffer to get he won't cherish and value it. Bullshits! A real lady with a good head on her shoulder and the right attitude knows better than to let a man define what she is worth. You are not giving sex to let him know he has won you but because you as well have decided to move your relationship to the next level.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed and not to be seen as a trophy. There is more to you than you body!

0
Avatar
Newbie

I don't think it is, though I used to, not playing hard to get does not neccesarily equate to desperation, depends how you go about it

0
Avatar
Newbie

i don't see any sin in it,its good sometimes to play hard to get

0
Avatar
Newbie

i think playing hard to get is just mainly for the amusement for some ladies. they think it is nice to get the certain type of attention from a man. and usually the guy falls for that spell. but as most spells do wear off and she is left with no one.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Playing hard to get is a complete waste of time, u might even end up loosing the guy of ur dreams.

Am not asking girls to be desperate but pls go with the flow esp when u like the guy.

0
Avatar
Newbie

It's not ideal playing hard to get when you're interested, the flow comes natural while dieing in silent just b/cos you want the guy to believe u're virgin mary. Be real, ''what will be, will allways be''.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Sometimes you can get emotionally caught up even before you really know the other person. I suppose thats attraction for you. Then the sex just seals some kind of commitment. But I agree. Be cautious at all times and there never any need to tease.

0
Avatar
Newbie

In that case if someone wants to agree to that they can, now that we've come full circle I'll state my opinion as: playing hard to get and being cautious are two different things, Teasing someone or playing games is uncalled for, like I said before if you like them be straight with them. Just be sure of them first, before  becoming emotionally involved in a relationship.

0
Avatar
Newbie

The first date doesn't have to be the time you meet so it all depends on how you get to know each other. If you're ready and the guy aint where you at then you pull back. If he's ready and you aint then you say no. If you're both ready then 'hard to get' just means doing without. On your own head be it.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Saying YES to start a relationship!!!!

I am not talking about SEX or what not.

Must every YES leads to SEX??

0
Avatar
Newbie

Where I'm from that expression usually means willing to go to bed with someone, fare enough.

About the history thing, if I found that a guy had even a few sexaul relationships in the past I would want him to get checked out first for my own peace of mind. If he doesn't want to, then we can call it a day.

0
Avatar
Newbie

what if the hard to get gets too hard?

0
Avatar
Newbie

You're tryna point smtin here bt need you knw dat its better u speak 4 urself considerin d fact dat everyone wit diff mentality.sm guys wil see it has nu'n or wud careless while odas wil rate yhu cheap.Yhu're a nigerian naw,u shud knw wat naija guys re capable of sayin

0
Avatar
Newbie

This is where i think most women get it wrong.

If a gurl likes a guy on her 1st date, there's nuthing wrong in her saying a resounding YES. . . . .It's a different issue if she ain't totally convinced and she needs time to sort her head out. The thang is, men can read through most women and if i know a gurl likes me but she just wanna be a silly hilly billy then i get pissed/bored.

Guys that are busy-minded won't waste time on a gurl playing pentagrams with their time n heart. . . . . they tend to move on!!!

0
Avatar
Newbie

@ topic--What can i say!

playin hard to get is necessary bt takin it to d xtrem s nt a gud ideal.sayin yes on  first date doesn't go down well wit me tho.

0
Avatar
Newbie

IF you like a guy and you're sure he likes you, give in if not easily because i see no point in playing the hard to get game when eventually you know you're still going to end up with him besides you could use the hard to get time to study him more, it doesnt mean you have to start sleeping with him immediately and even when you play the hard to get game for a year, it still doesnt reveal the real him

0
Avatar
Newbie

Are we talking about love or just sex?

It is only guys in Naija that are spending their money on chicks, hoping for sex. Sex is a relatively cheap commodity here in the UK and guys do not need to be spending money chasing chicks.

If it is for love, I can chase a chick forever. A guy should know from the first meeting whether a chick likes him or not. If she likes you, you can tell from her smile, her gaze etc. If she doesn't like you, you will tell immediately and you will stop chasing her. If I chase a chick for a long period, she must have given me some encouragement. An encouragement could be just a kiss, a holding of hands, flirting etc. Infact, if she only wants to hold hands after say two weeks of chasing her, I can chase her indefinitely because that tells me she is a woman of principle who likes me but is not willing to put out too early. Sometimes a chick may like you but will not be willing to show because you are in a social gathering etc or because of social pressure. Maybe she knows your sister etc. In such a case, it is better to use guerrilla tactics. Just befriend the chick and keep your options open. Something will come of it, guaranteed. Naija guys need to stop chasing chicks indefinitely without encouragement. Maybe the chick no like you sef.

0
Avatar
Newbie

You can never be sure with men. . . . . . .Playing hard to get is just complicating issues.

If u don't want a guy. . . . You can play hard to get from here to Honolulu.

However, if u like a guy. . . .  .You could be mean but u have to keep him keen.

Relationship is all about taking RISKS. . . . . Life itself is a risk.

I ask ladies out not sure of whatever. . . . . Letz see how it goes is ma motto.

You can never know with any woman until u are close to her.

Blimey. . . . . .married couples will even tell u they did not know their spouses until they got married so what can u possibly know in the wooing stage?

0
Avatar
Newbie

Yes I will take him to Honolulu.

0
Avatar
Newbie

@ jackal

so if u were to ask a girl out, are u saying you wouldn't hold anything back. If you really like her you'd tell her exactly how you feel even if your not sure she feels the same way. You'll spend time and money on her and wouldn't mind if it didn't work out?

*just curious*

0
Avatar
Newbie

Better to be sure of him then regretting later.

0
Avatar
Newbie

What else can a guy suffer after the initial graggs u women give?

Excuses like: Don't talk to me, i am not interested, don't call me after 10pm, don't call me on a sunday and reh reh reh.

It's ridiculous the kinda graggs n defensive schemes women use to cover their blushes.

I can understand when a woman does not like the geezer asking her out. . . . .but why feign lack of interest when u really really like someone?

Must women suffer in silence to test a guy's honesty?

0
Avatar
Newbie

but honestly i like it ,if not them men will end up calling d babes cheap

0
Avatar
Newbie

Doesn't mean they can't bond and gradually the other person let's their guard down, maybe I'm just biased, but as they say "once bitten, twice shy" .

0
Avatar
Newbie

yes it is

If he is not ready to work hard to get you, he is not worth the time and day.

Men want to eat their cake and have it.

0
Avatar
Newbie

playin hard to get in this day and age is such a bad idea, esp. when the girl likes the guy.

I think such a thin is for teens and should necessarily be so.

Guys just be on the look-out, when a lady woos you and she becomes a long thin babe when you come after, run and run like cracy cos it's just a game to her, she's probably using you to gain some social points and l bet she'll ensure that the whole thing is being watched by the people she's tryin to impress.

Every self-respectin guy should take note, if it becomes too much of a game l can bet my life it does'nt worth it!

0
Avatar
Newbie

It's not really bad but you girl play it for too long and the guy in question gets frustrated and decides to go for another Girl who would say "YES" easily.

Am not talking for myself If I was in the position I would still stay with the girl and see if she would still say "YES", cause there is one thing I studied in ladies is that some say "NO" while they means "YES" so it depends on the guy. Patience is the key guys have Patience cause they say the patient dog eat the fatest bone.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Men are not hunters and women are not prey, so that analogy is nonsense. Let's drop it.

Relationships should be mutually beneficial. Both the man and the woman should invest into it equally.

0
Avatar
Newbie

theres every need to play hard 2 get because ,  a hunter that sees an antelope running towards him will surely run away. so it would only make sense for the hunter to work to get his prey!

0
Avatar
Newbie

when u are a teenager, a girl playing hard to get fires your testosterone levels and your interest lies mainly in the thrill of the chase.

When u're older, playing hard to get becomes an instant turn off especially when u realise the girl playing the game isnt worth the effort.

0
Avatar
Newbie

A friend once made a statement about the new gal in his life as at then,ahhh all my investments.she was going to stop seeing him for a while and he screamed as if his life savings was going down the drain.can you beat that,investment!chics seem to be in trouble,when you take your time then you're forming but when you let the feelings flow,you're cheap

0
Avatar
Newbie

The harder a girl is to get, the more valuable because of the time and resources already exhausted in getting her. The cheaper she is, the easier it is to maltreat and dump her. Afterall, she wasn't that HARD 2 GET.

So YES, I think it is necessary.

0
Avatar
Newbie

not this age. do that and guys will run away from u.

0
Avatar
Newbie
Your answer
Add image

By posting your answer, you agree to the privacy policy and terms of service.