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Please How Do I Get Him Back?

well i really screwed up i should say cos i dated like three guys in his area 2 years before i met him. he got to find out and asked me but i lied, not cos i wanted to lie but cos i was scared to loose him. though after a while i told him all the truth but then he thought i still had somethings am hiding from him. that was where the whole misunderstanding started. he became so insecure to the extent that he told me to cut off with all my male friends and actually followed me about every where i went. he loved me i know and i loved him too. then we had a little misunderstanding cos he kept accusing me of things that i could not even imagine myself doing. on one of these occasions i got angry and sent him an abusive text message. well when he refused to call me for like a week which is unlike him, i decided to call to find out what the problem was, he then told me point blank that it was over. reason, he does not trust me and never will. he has tried to but just could not. that i always keep him on his toes. i actually never cheated on him for once! well to cut everything short, i still love him and never want to loose him. he doesn't take my calls anymore. pls guys in the house, how do i get him back. he changed my life and i don't know how to get him to trust me again. i need him in my life.pls help!

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Tank u very mch my sister. Well av come 2 believe dt if hes 4 me, he wil definetly come back. He cals me once in while nw. Said we shud remain friends.

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HOLD ON! HOLD UP! You mean to tell me that he is mad because of your PAST with other guys a wa di backside?! Are you serious? It's like this I have been in your shoes kind of still am, lol I wont get into details.  I know what you feel for him is strong but ms lady he suffers from insecurity on SEVERAL levels! He's not taking your calls now? What type of twisted male ego is this? It's simple any time a man treats you as if you are loose, untrust worthy or a cheat trust and believe it is a reflection of HIMSELF. You don't need to be in a relationship with some one like that. My current bf told me that I must drop all of my guy friends and distant male relatives do you think I did? ABSOLUTELY NOT. You control YOU. And YOU are NOT a slut, you are a young lady who'se had a few exs and things never worked out thats all.

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Yeah?

Ok, u cant believe d content of d prayer already welling up in my heart.

Damn i'm selfish, lol

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Dont worry, il get bk 2 u once i try out ur advice. Bt den, i sincerely pray dt it works out! Lol

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I didnt say anything oooo, but if he wont accept ur sincere-straight-from-the-heart-repentance, u could always try me na,

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Oh no there u go again! STICK WIT HIM of course.

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U mean sticking wit him or hooking u wit me?

Just kidding, lol

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@ ec3l tanks alot. I thinks dt wt am gonna do. @ hollandis i asked 4 an advice nt dis n if u dnt have1 bal out instead of leavn a senseles comment here. besides i dint date d 3 guys at same time,dey wer jst r/s gone bad. And am nt a LovePeddler, watch ur tounge.

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@chic ah-Gosh u were sccrewing 4 guys in one neigbourhood,u r such a LovePeddler.

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Well lying was wrong but we all do that, right advice is: dont get caught.

But since u r a lover, let's talk like lovers.

This guy left coz he's lost his trust in u, and now he feels insecure in the relationship.

If he loved u like u wrote, chance is he still does.

Though he's walked out of the relationship, u r still in his mind and hence, he'd still be keeping tabs at u, unconsciously.

So what u got to deal with now is earning his trust again.

So show him u realize your mistakes,U just need another chance to make it right, and your gonna be here till he's ready to give u that chance, your not going anywhere.

U never wanted to wrong him, but u did and that's only coz u didnt wanna loose him,couldnt imagine life without him.

If u can assure him u'd be real this time, he'll b back.

your love will always win if its real. Truth is, its not everyday a guy meets true love, so when he does, he cherishes it.

Show him u r that true love.

Dont appear desparate, some of us could use that against u.

Anyways, i'm always here if he's shut the door finally. Wink.

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Tanks, av learnt my lessons though. I believe sometins actually happen 4 us 2 learn.

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I'd be glad she was honest to me . Honesty matters alot in relationship .

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U said i shud move on 2 d nxt person. Only desperados do dt. Jump 4rm one man 2 another. indirectly u said dt.

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Who said you were a desperado.

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sorry to hear that but lying doesnt pay at all there is a saying that no mater how long you keep lieing someday the truth will cath up with it. for those that re telling you there are 1billion people out there truly they are but ow mny of them can be the same way ur guy is.so if he is worth your energy and wahal then go and plead with him and hoprfully he will forgive you. as lng as you are sure you dont have anymore skeletons in your cupboard, plead and tell him the reason you didnt tell the whole truth in the first place.

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@ ruskiee am nt a desperado. Those were d mistakes i made in d past. I was actualy searching 4 tru love. Nd nw dt i found one, i cant possibly let go. It aint dt easy. @ daduke2k i dont want to. We all make some silly mistakes dt we later regret remember?

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And you will expect her to clap for you when you tell her you have hammered 10 girls in that area.

Hypocrisy?

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It means your obo will be there for his OKO when he needs it.

No commitment and he can walk away when he wants!

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@ waleski, not like am enjoyin it or smetin but i wanted more guys 2 advice me so dt i wil kno d nxt line of action to take. Like i said, i love him and still wants 2 be with him. Though he called me recently and said we shud remain friends. I dont kno wat 2 really make out of that.

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You shouldn't have lied to him in the first place.

Don't know how possible that would be to get him back.

You can try pleading with him explaining everything to him, and if he still doesn't want you, move on with your life, you'll find another person .

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Ladies and their atrocities.

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Move on to the next one.

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@ poster

this might actually be the best thing that happened to you because if a man doesn't trust you your life will be hell. for a man to be matured enough to tell you he doesn't trust knowing he can't live like that is a blessing because you wouldn't want to spend your life always watching what you say who you befriend and what you do just to satisfy his trust issues. As much as it will hurt move on it's for the best

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How are you sure he has not been told and what do you think if he hears from outsider? Dont you think is another problem.

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Did he tell you how many people he dated in that area? If you asked him, he would not divulge. Move on.

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Tanx 2 u al. @ pataki it wasnt as if it was intentional, i lied cos i wantd 2 kip d love rolling. Wel av learnt my lesson though.

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@ OP,

He is gone. When a man makes up his mind emotionally, it is a done deal. No amount of begging can bring him back. Even if you beg him to return and he does return, his heart is far away from you. A true relationship is based on utmost truth. I am sure you would not like it if he had done likewise to you.

Sorry but you need to move on.

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Let him be, its better 4 u to be in relationship where ur partner trusts u. Since he does not trust u, its all ur fault for lying. Don't force urself on him. Behave well now, cos i think he is still watching u. He might come back to u when he notices dat u ve changed for good.

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Buy him recharge cards and mr. Biggs take away.

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I know u r in love.Just try to give a break for now.I believe he still in shock thats why he is reacting like that.I believe he loves u as well.Dont try to rush him.Dont call him as well.Am sure he will come back.In a situation like this dont pressurise him to come back.Just give him time to build that trust again.And make sure you keep ur head.Remember he is still watching you.

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there is no excuse for lying, now ur man can never trust you again. and how can u date 4 guyz in the same area. look, dnt try getting him back, cos this relationship will never last.

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