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Pre-nup:what's Your Take?

Ladies,if your man whom you thought loved with all his heart the same way you did suddenly suggests a pre-nup, say a month to walking down the aisle, how would you take it, what would be your reaction,would you accept?

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if i marry someone, they deserve to share everything i have and own while we are together, but if she or I decides that we have to part ways, there is absolutely no reason that she should keep deserving it.

its not really how much a person have but its the principle. if i bought my own home before getting married, then this home should be mine when we part, unless we have had a few children and they need a place to stay AND i am not willing to pay for added child support for their accomodation.

only a person who has never work hard or earn something through hard work in their lives would want to not sign a prenup. if you have paid a home all your life, the last thing you wanna do is giving it schot free to someone who doesnt really deserve it.

isnt it funny that its always the person who comes with absolutely nothing that doesnt want a prenup?

to each their own.

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If you are marrying someone that you think "doesn't deserve it at all" then you are planning to have the marriage be a failure. I understand when someone is a millionaire, or in the case of the Naira, a trillionaire, wanting a prenup. But if you are prenupping kobos then the marriage is a complete waste of time.

People are willing to protect their girl friends, even a man covered him common law wife and got his body riddled with bullets in order to protect her and people are worrying about prenup with few kobo. Jeeze!!

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putting all your lifelong work into the hands of someone who 1)didnt sweat to get it 2) doesnt really deserve it all 3) at  most should only get child support if you split up is the way to fail.

people should know their worth and stand by it, if someone gets higher in their social status because they marry someone, they should get back to it when they divorce, unfortunately the courts never see it that way.

on the other hand, if a man meet a woman when they are both poor and then this guy build a fortune on his own while the lady takes care of the family home and children then yes she should get at least half of it. so all the Mel Gibsons/Steven Spielberg out there should cough up

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well, if u are rich and u live in the society we live in and see what women do to men, pre-nup all the way will be what u will be shouting

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its like planning to fail.i won't do it.

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if i were to go into marriage with a lady and i had say 2millions in asset and she had absolutely nothing. i would suggest a pre nup, even if i had a bungalow. the reason being that i wouldnt want to give away to someone i just met, the fruit of my lifelong labor.

any reasonable person would understand that. the ball goes both ways, why should someone give up everything they work for to a spouse who has nothing. if they have children, as long as the husband pays child support, there is no reason she should get a penny more

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You are right on that. Basically here, I know women want to be all up your crib and life cuz they want a share of your hard - earned money. Most of them don't even wanna sign it.

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@izeek

you are right, but he didnt have concrete proof that she cheated even though he saw it, so it was his word against hers.

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his lawyer did a very bad job.

u dont pay alimony to any cheating spouse.

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Those who have not slaved to hide away something very substancial will not understand what we are talking about here. We want to be married and love our women for eternity without them turning their back on us for the sake of money.

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story story, once upon a time I had a friend, lets call him Joseph.

Joseph was very successful and owned his own business that took him all over the world. Joseph met this girl and fell head over heels and they got married. Unknown to Joseph, whenever he was away, someone else was taking care of his wife's "plumbing" lol. Joseph found out and was upset and asked for divorce.

First thing his lawyer asked was if they got a pre-nup before marriage. He said no, and the lawyer simply shook his head and told him "you're her slave for life". Joseph now pays about $5000 a month for alimony (even though they have no kids) and he cant even fully enjoy the fruits of his labor and hard work.

Prenup is the best thing to ever happen to men (and women). Cos people are really nice to you when they know you are rich. A poor guy who worked his Bottom off and no girl wanted him all of a sudden becomes successful and now he has all the girls. If shorty wont sign a pre-nup, theres other girls out there. Screw love, cos love aint gonna feed u and pay ur bills.

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***sighs*** i know. there is really such a thing as lesbians or bi-sexual

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LOL. I am a female.NOT A GUY.

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u sure? have u been with a chinese girl b4?

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pre-nups all d way man, dn't take chances

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which color diggs the most?

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By their demands you shall know them.

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It does not matter the color ooo. Gold diggers come in all shape and form!!

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and what language is that? i need to know so i wont get married to any1 from there, dont wanna confuse my kids abt cows and eggs

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Doesn't make a lot of sense to me. No man in his purely sane mind, have millions stashed away in his bank accounts, insurances and investments will go into a marriage without opting for a pre-nup -- not with all the divorce going these days and men who have worked so hard lose all they have ever worked for in the process to a woman that may have been bleeping another man while he was breaking his feet and working his Bottom up to put all these together. To me, I don't trust a marriage can last longer not to warrant a divorce because at some point you will understand each so much that you will want a fight and when that happens, you know what happens next. No marriage lasts long and the more years y'all both live together for, the more you stand to lose when you have a divorce, so why, in the first place, will I go into a marriage without a pre-nup? That is why I love my man 50 Cent, he said "KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR MONEY AND TRUST NO B***TCH" I will never forget that line and it has taught me a lot.

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Ask them, if they are in the man's shoe, will they not sign a pre-nup?

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no mind them, dem think say God create man to sweat hin Bottom of so as to dash dem money. dem neva start!

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If U are a millionaire please sign a darn pre-nup. Not all marriages last forever. You may think your partner is an angel now but years from now they might turn into the devil and take U for all you are worth. Let me clarify my statement, If U are a millionaire and live in the US please sign a prenup.

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lol, i just remembered the Britney Spears saga, poor thing, that guy did a number on her.

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It's dishonest people that bring up pre-nups and love stricken twits who agree to it. Marriage has always been a business deal. Where the man selfrightously places a ring on your finger with the idea that you'll become his life long, cook, housekeeper and restricted bed-warmer. Women have jobs, they can actually fend for themselves. What exactly do men contribute to a home that can't be deduced to a monetary figure? NOTHING!! Men don't contribute anything to a marriage,to a home, so if you want Fluid, please it's in fridges these days. Save yourself the hassles of dealing with an egotistical slowpoke putting foreign objects into you and slobbering and sweating on you in the name of shagging. Seriously! It's a no brainer, if a guy can't go into a marriage with the intention of sharing what you yourself are going to give, then walk away.

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I doubt if a lot of people know about it.

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Does pre nup hold sway in Nigeria?

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I am all for pre-nup especially on all I have aquired before the marriage. I don't want no woman no matter how much I love her to walk away with half my assets.I don't mind sharing half of all I have earned with her.I am comitted to making my marriage work and I don't want any woman working away with all that I have earned prior to her arrival.

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But what about the meat and potatoes of the pre-nup?

Like I get x amount of millions if he cheats.

Do you think this deters a person from cheating esp if there is a clause that he has to pay x amount if he seaks divorce first?

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Story story.

audience:story

once upon a time

audience:time time

This is the story of a document called prenup.Women never like him.Men felt he was thier saviour.One day prenup saved a man from a brutal women(Gold-digger).the whole men in the city didn't know how to repay prenup so they concluded he'll been invited to any wedding as a reminder of his good deed.Little was known that the a.K.a gold-digger sworn to get her revenge on prenup and all men directly or through her daughters(?).Anyway this is the story of how prenup came to stay.This is the end of my story.

nairaland audience:that story was kick Bottom.

Secretf:i think i'm in love with pc guru.

Pc guru:bye

scene fades to black.Grammy material

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Bad boy! But I can't consider losing $400M to a woman who wasn't there when I was putting my Sh***t together. I gotta take care of that somehow.

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I'm still at a gross doubt that I am cut out for marriage, I'll just have kids and leave it that way. What is marriage anyways if not unnecessary bond that gets you in trouble and makes you lose money when all turns sour? What's the difference in having a legally married and living somewhat far from you and having a woman with whom you're not married and lives with you? Marriage is an institution that I still greatly question

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Wetin concern me i go just slide the pre-nup during court marriage as she dey signing mood she might sign it not knowing by the way i don't think the woman has anything to be worried if she doesn't have any ulterior motive.Left to me assassination in Hitman style is cheaper than loosing $400m(insert:sense of humor)

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or prospect, or just the mere fact that she wants a man to call her own.

that's my point exactly, find out why she stays around you.

and if its not for the right reason, she ain't your wife.

u just have to definethe kinda wife u want, and go outthere and find her.

that's y the bible says "he who findeth a wife" finding a wife requires and act of searching, scrutinizing,

and also eliminating until u get the right choice.

take ur time is what u are adviced.

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To me, I think every woman that wants a man have her reasons. It is not always based on love or whatever. The feelings they have for men are being factorized by some other qualities, one of those qualities I believe to be wealth.

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Choosing a wife is the trickiest thing I can ever think of, so why not watch my back?

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@theseeker,

then u have agreed to the fact that hindsight came into play when choosing a wife?

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yes it is,

that's y one is adviced not to rush into it.

and when u make a decision base it on the fact that amongst the millions of leeches u saw out there,

she is most likely going to stay with you and work things tru.

that's what a wife is.

the most tolerable woman u ever met.

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@whitelexi,

am not disputing ur claims,

but in this regard, dont you feel theseekers advice comes in handy?

cos pre-nup simply means you dont trust the person you getting married to.

maybe we dont realise that pre-nup was initiated back in the days,

when rich older men decided to marry younger ladies who they were not sure,

where either after thier love or thier pocket.

now when two young couples then decide to settle and be married,

what is the pre-nup for?

incase love goes sour ( means u dint love from the onset)

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Honestly, I don't know who set that rule that life savings should be split with a wife who hardly knew when I started putting them together. Mel Gibson's wife filing for a $450M suit is absurd to me. I think men should protect their money and investments from some women who appear to love you but in fact are most interested in your wealth, whether in spending it with you or breaking up with you to take their cut.

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Marriage as we know it has started looking more like a business cartel where men [but especially women] who add absolutely nothing to a marriage walk away after a few yrs with nearly half of their spouse's life time savings or hard-work.

I think, going forward, pre-nups may be the way out as it places a restraining order upon whoever is involved in it, stopping them from having monumental claims if the marriage resulted in a divorce. It may also be a yardstick for measuring how much love actually exists in your union rather that what can be raked up from life insurance and net worth!

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On a second thought, why don't I just keep having kids instead of getting married at all? Just so if anything happens, I'll be entitled to paying child support rather than part with what I worked for. I pity Mel Gibson on this one, having to share his $900M investment with his wife into equal parts

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@all.

sorry but what do you guys own that needs a pre-nup to secure in the event of whatever?

pre-nup for the small bungalow or the second hand honda wey u buy?

abeg make we leave pre-nups to those who should apply it.

prenup are for mega-stars like me!

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Had this talk with a close friend of mines recently.

Like I told him "NO TO PRE-NUP".

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Depending on the terms in the pre-nup I would sign it and walk down the asle.

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