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Pretty, Good Character, Sound Education: Then What?

I don't know again o but do these things guarantee a woman getting married these days? Good character, Pretty in all aspect, sound education and all packaged well were prerequisite in those days for a lady to get a befitting husband. THese days, with all these yet plenty unmarried female. What is happening?

and don't tell me about the ratio of men to women because that doesn't count!!!!!!!!!!

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One subtle characteristics i always notice about your so called "less educative" women is that they always have

capability and wisdom to cater for a man's ego.

This is the trick women have been using since the days of our fore-fathers. and to tell the truth it still works till today.

catering for a man's ego doesn't mean being quiet when he is wrong but but the way you go about correcting him should be less-patriotic.

(you know the way a mother corrects his grown-up son)

i have the opportunity to live with a nigerian couple, husband and wife are doctors. But looking at their life, i was able

to deduce that the wife was smarter. But that didn't change the way she treats him., even when he is wrong.

That gentle look of understanding, that touch, that affirmative but less patriotic way of proving herself right always does the job.

The basic and bitter truth is that women (esp. nigerian women always expect their boyfriend/husband to be the MAN

but they hardly give them the chance.

if you are smart, that's great!! But no man would ever like to be the under-dog. And you women would not even

consider an under-dog either.

So you want a smart, well-groomed, God-loving man then try and understand him, read him, let him be the man

To tell the truth, it is a man's ego, even a woman's ego that motivates him or her everyday.

The moment someone comes in and start telling you that you are wrong in a controlling, non-caring way. that when trouble creeps in

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LOL, you both have a lot in common though, part 2's and the husband question. Just pray, keep your eyes open and date outside your usual social circle, trust me if you are as pretty, good and sound as you say you will snag someone before this year runs out(same advice goes to all the single searching ladies).

P.N. if you are looking for a HUSBAND, do not give nothing up until the wedding night.

I hear too many stories from ladies who tell me how the sex between them and 'Him' was so wonderful and mind-blowing it was alter-bound(irony), only for 'Him' to inform that why bother buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?.

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Come to think of it, do you really think good education, being pretty and a sound education are enough reasons to find a mate nowadays?

Personally I do not think so. In the days of our forefathers, marriage wasn't based on all these reasons but mostly on behaviour, brains and submission. If there is one thing I credit to women then, it is the ability to read their husbands or boyfriends. Most of them hardly had sound education but they were well versed in marital education. They know when to stop and when to go on. They were skilled in the act of patience, they wholeheartedly support their men n are appreciative of the little things men do.

Education has brought about enlighthened  women who are taught to be independent, overly ambitious and ill mannered.

I once dated a girl like that for 2years but I had to leave her cuz she was bad tempered n always wanna lord everything over me. I took it for 2years but that was as far as I could go. A year later she's still single, looking for a soulmate after dating 4/5 guys, the longest lasting 5 months. Do you blame the guys?

Nowadays giving out your body to a man does not guarantee marriage not even deceitfully forcing a baby upon him.

As much as I desire a woman with a good education n all dat, I do not need another lord in my relationship. A man has lotta issues, if we are rich n treat a woman anyhw - we're arrogant n proud likewise if we're poor n treat a woman anyhw we're considered to be ingrates.

Life is a balance, we just need to find the mid point.

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So was I correct in saying that men these days are looking to the less educated one's first because they feel they are more submissive? In my personal situation what you are saying about educated women is untrue- I belive submissiveness deals a lot with upbringing and the way you were raised. If you are handling your household well as a man- me as a woman will fall in to that roll of submission. but should us women be submissive to some of you men who aren't even willing to make a simple commitment to us or take on the complete responsibilities of what being a strong man entails?

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A woman having a good character, pretty and good education does not really guarantee that she will get a good husband because these days men are somehow becoming scared of marrying educated women because of the horrible experience those who are into it tell.

If u can be honest to urself burkittes, u will find out that most educated women are hardly submissive to their man, they will always want to prove to their man that they too know it all and the fact remains that their cannot be two captains in a ship.

I will to tell u that with all sense of responsibilities that once a woman is completely submissive to a man, she will marry in time, be happy and have a very lovely and peaceful home.

So its not just about education, pretty or good character, its all about being completely submissive to ur man.

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Sorry, this Bukky drives a blue car and does not have a hot backside. What a description for someone u profess u know! Too bad!!!!!!!

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Do I know you? anyway the Bukky I know drives a green car and has a hot Bottom.

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^^ All will be well. Hold on to your faith.

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Edukated womens always look like men, I dont like them

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Most educated and working class ladies are not respectful and submissive.That's why men go for the less educated ladies ,working class  or not.We men have preference for ladies,we know exactly what we want in a lady.Most ladies feels that marriage is 50/50 thing.They want to compete with the men,men now look out for ladies that fear God ,not just going to the church.

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1. Boys dey fear girls ambition.

2. "The population of "marriable" girls is on a sharp decrease," so boys generally feel say the risk of marrying the wrong girl too high to just enter the thing like that.

3. Where the money when every thing don cost and girls no dey help matter they struggle typical male jobs with men still expect say we go settle down quick marry them.

4. Girls dey look for "invisible man." They want it all an when there's just one thing lacking they go looking for the next candidate.

The list plenty. Make we no even start.

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When i look for punny, I dont bother about preety, edukation, sound edukation or charactar.

All womens are beautiful

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Stop looking for a husband, go out on dates and enjoy yourself. People can see desperation a mile off,

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^^

ROTFLFAO

Just find a single girl out there and chase her all the way.

I suggest mama-gee,pweet4me and blank!

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OK here we go again.

Again, I will tell you that this opinion of your is not goin to help you at all. Are you really sure you want successfull relationship . . or you have accepted your fate and started making excuses . . or you were expecting to buy a naija guy with your education??

If the latter is the case, maybe you should go to nigeria and get a man . . i'm sure you will find loads who would not mind.

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^^^

Seconded!

@190 please teach me how to get e-girl friend naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw!

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well from my own point of view,i think these days men are quite smarter and know what they want,

they simply have alot they look out for in a woman,she do not necessarilily have to be pretty,or have a good education or character

all what we men want is a woman who we can depend on,with the # of atrocities these day women commit we have to be really smart in our quest in getting married,personally for me i would go for good character 1st and foremost,education next and been pretty last,

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@Poster Well the truth is you made a good observation and another bitter truth is you have not finished observing. Naturally when the flood comes "Fish eats ants" and when the rain is out and the water level drops "Ants eat Fish" in essence what i am driving at is simply that Opportunity comes to everyone it's just a matter of timing and being able to see it when it comes.

@ Vivaladiva

I understand you are leaving your American dream(Ideal Life) but please never you make your life a standard for people to follow .people have their individual desires and everybody has an obligation to pursue his or her dream. So please if you don't want to get married be well informed that there are many people out there with a different mindset. Keep living your life i guess it really"Great".

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days, just not so easy!! But your advice is well taken!!!

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women r 2 efffing obsessed wiv marriage abeg, wetin happen now, always fussing about gettting married as if its the key to a life time of happiness

the most important thing in my life is having kids, if i get maarried cool, if i dont well coool

been thinking about the whole marriage thing especially naija marriage and am yet to come across a truely happy woman in these marrieges, so wat d Bleep

i notice that a whole bunch of women r educated these days but unfortunately their brains r evolving ever so slowly as compared to men

have u ever taken the time to wonder y men never naggg about marriage this and marriage that

i liken this fever that women have for marrige to a person asking y a good petrol car isnt selling in 2040

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You are limiting yourself. Date other African men and have fun. A good Nigerian brother like you say isn't gonna just come out of the blue

He will come round when you will be ready to know a good man when you see him. Have fun and live your life while you are at it.

I have met some non Nigerian men that are good.

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You have a lot of valid points gawky and personally I have searched within myself.

Living in the USA a lot of my choices are limited when seeking a suitable

Nigerian man. Friends tell me I should start dating outside of my Nigeria brothern but at this

point I refuse to do that. I know what I want and what I want my future to involve. SO MAYBE THAT is where I fall short, if so then I guess that is where I am meant to be!!

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I would like to see answers to this questions. In my "OPINION"  honestly  I think that these days that a lot of Nigerian  men are intimidated by the educated Nigerian women a bit!! They would rather go for the less educated, dependable type, There for these days being educated does not ensure you a mate, in my case it hasn't yet!!

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Ladyjide, are you in NYC? If you are, maybe we can chat if you want to.

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