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Relocation: Who Should Relocate Women Or Men?

Many people who are married, dating, or engaged may face the BIGGEST DECISION of their life and that RELOCATING!

You meet this wonderful person and get married, do you stay in your hometown or do you relocate to your spouse or mate hometown? What are the steps in making relocating easy as possible? What if the job won't allow you to relocate until six months down the line. Can you seperate from your partner that long?

Do you think women should relocate or men should relocate?

Be honest!

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If the wife paid for the wedding ring and the wedding and has got a nice crib, then the man should move, but I forgot this happens in Sweden, not in  Naija where women do not pay for wedding.  50/50 in everything but finance.

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Man should always lead and make a good decision for her to follow. Man should be responsible and make the best choice for the relationships interest. She will trust him in the future, but only if he is a good leader. The question is it better to the man or woman to relocate for the benifit of the relationship. Do not forget to be financially responsible, also think about the benifits between supported by family or friends. Either way, let the MAN make the decision.

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Once again, this has nothing to do with me. I am not AND I REPEAT I AM NOT REPEATING NOR IS MY FIANCE RELOCATING ANYWHERE.

I asked the question because I wanted to not because it apply to my life. Just for the record, EVERYTHING I POST DO NOT ALWAYS APPLY TO MY LIFE.

I am not into excessive sharing like NAIRALANDERS ARE. SMILE.

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IMO, d woman will have to relocate because here in Nigeria, no firm will give a man transfer because of his wife/marriage however, our labour law supports giving the female folks transfer if applicable.

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agathamari I like ur logic, 9-11 n rhymez please mmkay, dont know where u get ur info but its done every second in and out of nigeria, and if a male relative of mine wanted to relocate to be with his wife, if it makes sense to them, who am i to intervene, whatever works boo!

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I know of a couple who got married recently, the husband is based in the US with a good job while the wife is based in England with a good job too. I do not know how they resolved the location issues but I always wonder how.

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man or woman is not the question. who has the better job? who has the ability to be promoted in said job? who has the ability to get a transfer? what are the conditions of both towns (crime rates, cost of living, schools)? who has the better home?

6 months is not that long if you are in love with the person. many people live happily married with seperations due to work for this long and even longer. if a 6 month seperation destroys your relationship then it wasnt that strong to begin with

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@poster, are by chance in such a situation? I heard the story of a lady whose family advised not to leave her job and move to where her husband stays for the single reason that she earns more than he does. So am wondering are you her? Cos if you are then;

1. Are you crazy?

2. your family and friends might tell you it's not right for you to leave your job and relocate because you earn more than he does but in a couple of years when they are all in their homes with kids and all they will talk and laugh behind you.

3. who married who?

4. what is more important to you in life? A happy home or a career?

Well if am to present an answer without trying as I may not to generalize, I will say Nigerian women are forgetting where we come from. If we stop emulating white women who will rather go through life childless and alone just to make a name and build a career.

This whole thread is unnecessary and shouldn't even be discussed!!!!

If a woman decides to build a career and can manage her home and that fine!! Am all for that but to then turn round and act the she-male please that one I will kick against. We do have a place even by creation.

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personally i can relocate to any first world country with my partner, but certainly not 2 a third world country especially nigeria

yes u can bite me if u dnt like my comment

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Sorry, about the generalization. I couldn't help it. I just belong to a class of people who think that above 50% =all.

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Whats with the generalization

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While i am in support of you concerning what you stated above and which in my opinion should also include inter city, state,  country and continental cases. I would not be in support of the most basic which is the house relocation. The husband can relocate but the woman should always move into the man's home and not the woman's home and please this has nothing to do with pride. 

Depends what you mean by joblessness, what is the usefulness of relocating if you will still be jobless in your new location? But if there is prospect of getting a job in that new location then we can say pride might be one of the reasons for not relocating but that is not entirely true on its own. There are a thousand and one reasons why he might not want to relocate to where his wife already lives apart from pride.

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Pride, the bane of the "black Nigerian " Man!!!!!! Hiss

i Know some jobless men who would rather the wife left her job and came to stay with him wherever he is than move to where she is,Note we are talking about geographical location not the physical house.

The sooner we let down our guards down concerning some of these non issues ,the faster our civilization in Nigeria would happen.

Peace

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Ahhhhaa! Yimiton, thanks for saving the brothers, yall almost drown!

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It doesn't matter who relocates.

What should be considered here is who can relocate. It will be silly for any man to tell his wife to relocate just because of pride. If

the husband works in a company that has branches all over the country and he could possibly relocate to where his wife's job is situated without loosing anything, then so be it. That also applies to the woman.

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Many times and not often the wife have the most where it make sense for the husband to leave his two shirts behind and relocate to the wife hometown. It does not make him less of a man and many time new couples will purchase a house

together so it belong to the both of them. However, if a man relocates, it doesn't make him less of a man, JUST WISE!

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Both! That would be fair, lol.

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Why can't a man relocate to his wife house? Does that make him less of a man if he do so?

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Why do you assumed it applying to my life?

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its up to the two individuals involved, logically whoever has the least to loose.

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