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Rules Of How To Get An Ex Back Necessary?

Do we really believe in rules made on how to get an ex back and so on or just go with the natural flow. For example, the rule might say ignore the opposite and some other games but don't we think it might be natural to follow your instincts and maybe call and that might change everything and bring you back together. Or is it really necessary to follow the rules?

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like top-up,i believe or i tot she was one matured woman,in my native tongue we either use chaii or ewwww

if she was offended by it,to hell,i really dont care again

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and most people use ewww and awww all meaning same thing

even d words that came after that are not rude words

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When we are talking or joking, we usually use ewww, and laugh.

But if you go up to someone who doesn't get what you mean when they know ewww= nasty, that person [b]will [/b]take offense.

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well . . . .

most people use ewwww. . . . when disgusted n awww. . . . . as in sweet or nice

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awww and ewww are normal expressions ,smtimes i use ewww and smtimes i use awww

why she would even think dat i was making fun of her wt dat,is wat beats me,she of all pple

na waoooo

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I think she meant to say "awww" She did wish you well in your love life.

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come whats happening here?u of all pple? dat i was thinking u r matured?my God,u really dont understand my post do u?

the ewwwww is an expression,cos ur story touched me,did u really think i was making fun of u

christ

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Now, what is the 'eww' for? Is that really necessary!

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Girly, call him up if he still refuses 2 pick, bone him. which would u prefer broken relationship or marriage?

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monica wats ur problem,uve mentioned my name twice now,u r d one asking for d trouble

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Anu lady yen de se mi sah, su gbon bakan meji ni aye yio.ti o ba je wi pe obirin ni ose iru nkan bayi fun okunrin ko si eni ti oma mo wipe nkan kan sele o.ewawo bi awon ara nland se ba lady yii kanu sah.oma se ooooooooooo

nkan tio ti sele tisele ni yen, take heart.

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I wish life was this cut and dry. it is always good we advice people. lets learn not to take this things too personal. nobody owe us a duty of doing anything we suggest/recommend. i believe we will do more good if we dont let our emotions run into issues that are very distant from us

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lol. . . Please make we rest this case.

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u guys manage to turn every thing to a fight on nairaland. chill people. there is no harm in apologising to people you love.

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lol lol lol Dont worry I'll invite u for my wedding, Miserable human being.

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@ Busybody, yeah i guess im too nice but cant be a fool. I said he texted me saying he forgave me n so on. I ignored that, all i said from my side is closure, he wants to see me n i would to hear what he has to say, is that bad? The forgiving part i ignored it cos i dont know what he's forgiving me for n thats y i said it would be left till we see in person, so i could really n finally know n talk to him. I'm not begging any1 here.

@Karmamod

Yeah I have n I'm all clean dear. Thanks I've heard but i believe i wont fall for his games.

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nothing wrong as long as she does not come back to tell us dat d guy has cheated on her again,or d guy told her d love he has for her has faded

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one man's meat is another man's poison as they say. what is wrong in begging to get what you want? make una chill with our sister i beg

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bitter?no just a lil bit irritated,u know im telling d truth,its bitter but swallow it

u r going to beg him to come back ,no denying

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@yinraph

pls what exactly do ur messages imply?

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@ Danke y do u alws sound harsh n bitter even with ur advice? how do u know? r u there or here with me?

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if i ignore him, then what?? i mean this bout communicating n getting closure, pls show me how im wrong here. please

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monic is going to see him to beg him ,dats d simple truth

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Wont surprise me if you end up seeing him and being the one to apologize to him.

I hope Im wrong

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@Monica

Life starts with voice

But endz with silence

Luv startz with fear

But endz with tears

True friendship startz anywhere & endz No where

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It is more like getting closure HE is the one that wants to see me.

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How come Monica missed this part

Lmao. Now he's telling you that he forgives YOU when he's the one frolicking with other women. Hilarious.

Apparently you need self respect lessons.

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Send an emotional msgs 2him b4 calling him and av a place of u talking things out

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i hate cowardice

tell him watver u have to tell him to his face,no letter no sms

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Write an emotional letter to him never an apology letter.

Or send him an emotional msgs b4 callin him

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Yeah I know, I believe seeing eachother would work things out but by the way could u guys help me on what to say cos we r seeing to make peace n not fight again but i still wanna say my mind. Do i write in a paper n give to him while we see face to face or just talk to him orwhat. I'm not a kid pls but just wanna know the best way as we wudnt bring bad memories or fight.

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Hmmm great one.

@Mon,

U telling him goodbyes,itz not forever,

U telling him goodbyes,itz never the end.

U simply means u both gonna miss each other for sometime,

But u both definately will meet again.

Nobody knwz how both of u met and Nobody has d say of predicting ur relationship.

It takz 2 2tangle,

outcome of a good relationship liez btwn both of U

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nope im cool, just to say my mind n hear what he has to say u know

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Great second response from Busy_body.

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e concern u wen u dey ask me y i nid him and her #, abeg leave me ALONE

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Peradventure you go on this talk date to get the closure you seek;

FIRST OUTCOME OF TALK DATE

If he tells you he broke up with you because you over-reacted, You know what your response would be:

-but I didn't over-react now,

-okay I promise I would not react like that again,

-please I beg you in the name of God, please forgive me,

-please give me a second chance,

-please let me make it up to you,

-please I swear I would not go through your phone again, 

-but we were planning to get married,

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SECOND OUTCOME OF TALK DATE

What if he tells you it is not you, its him. What if he tells you it is not because you over-reacted, but it is because;

-because I don't love you anymore

-because I am dating someone else

-because you are crap in bed

-because you are not my type

-I only wanted to disvirgin you

-you are not educated

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CAN YOU HANDLE THE TRUTH? For your own good MOVE ON.

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his an EX for a reason ,do u want to go back to his cheating Bottom ? cos his going to do it again and u will end up being hurt again,i think its better for u to move on,i know its hard cos u love him but with time it will fade.

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Hey Monicaa, I was in the exact same position not that long ago (about 3 months actually). I was really upset that my ex had just left me, I analysed it and analysed it and I have managed to come to a few conclusions which I hope will help you.

1. Deep down I always thought (and was told) that I was too good for him, he also acknowledged this and so I always thought that I would be the one who would break up the relationship in my own time. So when he broke up with me, it was such a shock, the truth was that my ego was hurt. I wanted to know where I went wrong, I called this closure, but really I wanted reassurement. . . which I haven't gotten.

2. I too tried contacting him, "Oh, he's not replied my email,  he probably hasn't checked it yet. Let me private message him instead. Oh no reply, maybe he's travelling." I made SO many excuses for him, always thinking that it was my fault we were not speaking (he had asked for my friendship, afterwards and I always thought that the ball was in my court, and it was only until I replied him, did he really show his true colours - I believe the 'friendship' was just a cover, so that I wouldn't slag him off to people who could possibly know him).

3. When he ignored me, I got upset, and was questioning whether he ever loved me,

4. I started ignoring him, changing certain things in my life to make it easier. Deleted his messages, online & on my phone, and hid anything that would remind me of him.

5. I stumbled and contacted him again to wish him celebrations for an event, and we were amicable, he replied, but shortly afterwards, silence again.

All I will say is I followed both advice from friends and from my heart.

Friends always told me to move on, but it is never that easy, being the only person who had actually been part of that relationship, I felt that they couldn't possibly understand the love we shared in our relationship, and what we went through, this is the part that I completely forgot the bad times and just sobbed over the good mediocre times. I didn't have a good perspective.

Lastly, I believe that you should ignore this guy, as you have tried your best! Now, please stop inflating his ego, he will probably not realise what he's lost, if you're still knocking at his door and lingering around the corner, you need to disappear from his life. If you have facebook, try and decrease the amount of info that is sent to you about his life.

Now looking back, I still miss him, but I am more rational, it wouldn't have worked out and I am starting to thank my ex in fact for breaking it off before it got too serious. If he wanted me back, I am now at a stage where I actually could not tolerate the same guy, I would need a new & improved version of my ex, he would have had to change, because no one needs to put up with that rubbish!

Stop making excuses for him, he's a jerk for leaving you without closure.

Take care,  keep looking to God and God Bless.

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why do u keep asking for number 190

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Monica, forget wetin all these guys dey yan this ur guy don really provoke us NLanders, i know say freedom of everytin dey but 4 a guy 2 mess wit a good fella of Nland he deserves 140 strokes of TV wire not cane or hausa Koboko o, on his Bottom, after which we go leave you to use hot water take massage am 4 am,afta all that make we see if he no go kiss u 4 anywhere u dey massge him koboko wipped back and Bottom 4 am, I leave the rest 2 u, giv me him # mak i tell am [/sup]WORD[sup]

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@monica Dats d way luv works,may b u luved him so much dat he took a part of u,if he is truly urs he wil b bak no hw lng it takes bt if nt,u wil jst nid a little more tym 2 get over it.

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@monica Dats d way luv works,may b u luved him so much dat he took a part of u,if he is truly urs he wil b bak no hw lng it takes bt if nt,u wil jst nid a little more tym 2 get over it.

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monicaa ask 4 una advice una dey use the opportunity take argue other tins, wic kin ppl una be sef,anyway monica see giv me ur # mak i call u mak we talk abt this guy,i go like even get him # sef,all d same, is he in a new rlationship, ? if he is den e go hard small if he isnt then giv me him # mak i talk 2 am, is ur real name monica,ova 2 u now monica, I just dey vex this evenin

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lol

abi david, shay u gree?

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You all need anointing oil

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@Monic

I know you will learn but I am afraid it is only after you fall many times, you know I used to try and call a lot, and each time I get a cold response or she does not pick up I felt a lot more worthless everytime, and then I started to build resistance, it is not going to happen in a day just forget that part first it will happen in batches, you will suddenly find that you can go for three four days without really crying or getting too upset, and slowly you will pick up.

Let me point out something to you though that I think helped me, like I said our situations were only similar and I do not expect what happened to me to happen to you totally. Monica, Loving somebody does not really translate to the fact that you must be with the person, this statement alone transformed me totally, you might not see it now as the wounds are still fresh but as you fall and stand up it will become clearer to you, maybe right now you really love him like crazy yes, do not try to fight that. Its a bit still early so I will stop here for now , just try and deal with this next two weeks, take everything an hour at a time , if it is too big think in minutes, just little by little , you will sit, stand, crawl, walk and run emotionally soon and you just never know it might still be with him or someone a lot more awesome than he is but only time will tell.

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