My friends boyfriend call me on monday complaining about his girl dat he dont seem to understand his girl (My friend anymore), So as her closest friend and confidant he called me, becos he is planning on marrying her this December, infact, He had asked her to marry him and she refuse giving him any replies.
Yesterday, I confronted my friend about the issue i mean the guy is a nice guy and they dont seem to have any problems, the guy works in one of the major telecomms providers in our country and she works in a good bank. It took a long time getting an answer from her but when she repied, she said she dont seem to feel any love for him.
Let me give you a brief run down on their relationship, They met when she was in her finals in the university and he was doing his NYSC then and have been dating (Or so i thought) for four years now. I mean through when they had nothing to their present positions in life.
I asked her she could say a thing like this and how long she has falling out of love with him, She told me she gave marrying him a serious thought some few days before he "pop the big question" and she realised she had not love him all the while and that it had been a one sided affection (that's from the guy) all the way that she had not really weighted the consiquencies of her actions till now that she must have been carried way by the guys kind nature but she cant just fall in love with him and she feels it would mean doing him more wrong to marry him when the feeling is not there.
My dillema is that the guy has come to be a friend (Being my friends Boyfriend and all) and he is already down with my friends behaviour, i am afriad that telling him all this will only make matters worse. And on the other hand, maybe my friend dont understand what it means to fall in love and is confuse thinking one prince charming will come sweep her off her feet and rode her to a happily ever after.
I dont want to she the guy hurt and a dont want to see my friend cry a HAD I KNOWN, because they a good friends to me and my man and it is giving me serious concern. My Man said to ask the girl to tell her guy that though he will be hurt now, time will heal his wounds and he will be greatful later that she was truthful to him today. But i strongly believe that somehing is wrong cause if you see the two of them together all that will come to your mind is wedding bells.
Am suppose to see her this weekend and have a one on one talk with her over this issue (we have been talking ouver the phone), and am to have a talk with her man too this weekend. So Ladies and guys, brother and sisters, This is really serious i need your contribution to help me know how best to handle the matter at hand and save what i believe to be a very beautiful relationship and perfect couple. Let be candid, practical and factual please respond even if am off line i will get your message, Okay?