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She Is Fond Of It. What Do I Do?

My babe is fond of receiving calls from guys and whenever I ask her who the person is to her she'll say he is one of her admirers and that there is nothing between them. On one occasion when she was with me, her intimate friend called her on the phone and asked her to speak with a guy (she wants to arrange my girl for the guy). I took her up on it and she said she has not even seen d guy. But d guy still call her and I'm not confortable with it.

House, please advise me. Am I too jealous or being over-protective or what? I want to trust her but how do I know what she discuss with the guy in my absence. We have been dating for about 4 years now.

Please this is a no-holds-barred scenario, u can give me any kind of advice, opinion or idea on how I could handle the situation without making her feel somehow.

Thank you.

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Maybe dats where I got it all wrong.

I don't wont to totally agree with you, cos things happen in different ways

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Guy,

to be honest wit u,

u r in deep sh*t

u need to wake up to reality

u r not d only guy ur girl frnd has

its sad but its d bitter truth

no matter wat d whole world tells u ,

u wont leave her

it happened 2 me as well

am just recovering 4rm mine

ges u overshowered her wit love

my guy, u r headover heels in love

its sad, for a guy

cos u'll take lots of sh*t, and overlook

many tins,its nt meant 2 be dat way

if u chose 2 stay,be ready 2 take all this sh*t

but bear it in mind,there's serious danger ahead

my advice,spread ur tentacles

dont limit urself 2 one chic

no mata how much u love/she loves u

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@Poster

Guy why do u want to give urslf a heartbreak. Why do u want to kw all d guys ur babe talk to on phone. My man daz been immatured. Give her all d free hand u think u can. Let her mess up the trust have on her before u can ve a reason to crucify her. U r try to drive her into infidelity by behaving as if u dont trust her. Show her dat u trust her and she may find it very hard to mess up.

This one problem wt many guy, they want to tie down their babes to themselfs and to themslfs alon. It is not the best option.

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@ topic

Your girlfriend is very insecure. She feels having a lot of admirers makes her a better person. Very immature.

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mmababy, u have a very good point there. Thank you.

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poster be matured,if she loves you and you loves her over look the calls and get on with her

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To all that have responded to this clarion call, I am saying a big THANK YOU. You are all appreciated.

Exactly what I did and it has been yielding positive results.

Thank you everybody for saving my relationship, God bless you all

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Short and sweet, and to the point.

I believe your girlfriend's no longer into you, and she's looking to you to end things.

She'll feel better, and sympathy will be on her side, that you broke things off, not her.

Secretly, she'll be relieved.

I'm pretty sure this has crossed your mind - she'll keep pushing you, rubbing your nose in her doings, till you end things.

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hmmmn,

my guy ehn! i use to be in yur shoes and it wasnt too pleasant i must say. but the kinda person iam is one wu lies to experience tins for myself and i stuck to it and pretended it ddnt bother me, my gal craves attentention i dig like most gals and wat i did was do same-i had stopped all attention seekin becos i luvd her loadz but she ddnt realise, probably she tot i was jst boring or summin or maybe she tot i was just an abuja boi wu was weak and so i turned my OSU attention lights and as a not bad lookin guy i got over more dan wat even i expected-and it was war zone becos she cldnt handle it, gals, sugar mummies wld call me (and i luv openness in a relationship so i let her listen in on most of the conversations with d oda ladies to teach her ow a relationship shld be like) and she wld fight me and complain and all. i neva initially told her i was doin it cos she also recievd too many fone calls from guys[b]cos my gal is fine and wrks in a bank for dat matter[/b] so all i did was just laff becos it was amusin to me-really amusin to see all animated and worked up over a fone call we just listened to with me and not think of removin d spec in her own eyes first. and yet she ddnt stop recievin all those fone calls from men and guys alike. until one of the days wen she performed her outbursts i den told her to 1st take kia of her own calls first b4 she tells me anytin do yu knw wat she told me- she sed ehn its becos i ddnt hav a problem wit it dat if i did i shld hav sed so and she av tryd to adjust- i was shocked. and so my dear guy wat is the koko of dis iroyin- stand yur ground with her by tellin wat yu dnt like or dish out d same measure shes dishin out to yu=my 2 kobo

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It wld be kinda difficult for me to stop d relationship with her.

What I want to know is how to curb such frivolity.

Maybe I shd tell her to introduce her friends to me, whether male or female.

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I don't think u really no ur girlfriend cos if u do u will no her likes and her dislikes, when she's saying yes and no, And most especially her friends. Since u guys have dated for 4yrs, U re suppose 2 be her best friend to no her other friends.

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She does not deserve you one bit. A girl that loves you and for who you are would never

indulge in such things. Listen, this girl will inflict a major havoc on you sooner or later,

if you continue with her or allow her space for such frivolity, believe me.

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my brother, if u can, stop the relationship with her. this might raise hell and dust in all its fury from her, but in the long run, u'll see that u did the right thing. i was once in that situation. the girl claimed she had nothing with these guys until i was almost assaulted by one of the guys. good girls are everywhere. all it would take is a little extra effort from u to make it worth while.

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@poster

so i thot too

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I salute all the people who have contributed to this post so far, most of the replies have been helpful and encouraging.

Deoye05, you got my drift so right. I'll trust her and handle the relationship with an open mind.

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when love handles a man, he will be protective of everything. i feel your pain bro.

well you cant stop a girl from doing what she want to do. the only thing is that you can only suspect.

put in more action in your speech and your conversion

i think thats the best for now.

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House, does this amount to weakness?

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Who wears the pants in the relationship?

Tell her to stop or hit the freeway.

A man has to be a man.

Most Nigerian men are weak.

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i beg to disagree a little on dis, judging and speaking from experience.

yes she is not supposed to consider other people,

but she would,

especially when she feels she is in season,

and she keeps gettin all d attention from other guys.

we guys are no better, infact we are most times d worst culprit.

it takes two to tango, she can't, if u won't.

@poster

d best u can do is to talk to her, it doesn't necessarily mean she wouldn't cheat on u,

d issue of being stuck with the same person in a relationship and becoming bored with d person is a key factor,

and there is always an attraction to c what its like with other guys/ babes.

just talk to her, advise her, show her u care and that u love her,

but let her learn her lessons

d more u try to protect her or shield her,

d more she would be intrigued and curious to have a taste of d pudding else where.

just b there for her,

if she is yours, she would be back

cos don't be deceived,

i can bet u , she is already seein sumone else

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@POSTER,

If a woman loves you truely "she will never consider other people".do not be deceived.

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you want in your face truth?

well you will need to answer some questions first

how old are you?

how old is the girl?

what do you both do?

how long have you being dating?

do you consider her ways too flashy?

answer the questions honestly and we may correctly deduce your situation

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Kayraph. You should know that evil communication corrupts good manners. So when a girl is surrounded by negative people, it won't take long before she starts to display their characteristics. Think about that.

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We agreed to wait so that she could get a good job after her education in order to support the cashflow.

I'm ready to give it all it takes to sustain our relationship. God willing

I believe that she loves me dearly, what I'm afraid of is bad influence from people around her since I'm not always with her.

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My dear that girls doesn't love you, let her go. Believe me, I've experienced something similar to that before. She isn't willing to tie down her life to someone yet; she still wants to enjoy her youthful life.

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@ Poster

What i am telling u here is out of experience. I have encountered this problem with my guy before. My uncle was so anxious about two of us and this caused the enemity between me and my uncle till now. her sister hate me to the core. My family members hated him.  but we loved each other very much. One day the only person i relied  as in my best gf betrayed me, my man was drunk and the girl gave him her self and they made love, and after that the girl was pregnant. she was our messenger. I am not telling you all to broacast it or what. i face my God and put all trust in him and Jesus fight my battle. today i am a winner. The guy is mine. My advise to u is to put ur trust in the God Almight. Cast ur relationship to him, let him be the chairman in ur relationship. make him the head and the love of ur relationship.

Ur happiness is my concern.

4rm Onyinyechi

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So you cant marry her if she dosent finish her education?? By the way, whose idea is it to wait? Yours or hers?

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Ur girlfriend's friend is jealous of u as somebody said. Make sure she (Ur Lover) really love you.because if she doesn't love you and later realises that you love her more than she do to you. she will be doing something nasty to just to hurt you at anytime. What you will do is to ask God to give you self control. And to make your friend love you the way you love her. because if she love you the way you love her, she wont even listen to gossips or allow a third party into her relationship.

Just try and see if she loves you, give her a trial. cus if she doesn't she will one day set you ablaze because you are dying for her. Be Care ful and be Wise.

Cheers!!

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Y me

Thanks a lot. God bless you.

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of course @poster that is what you need to do.

good luck on your relationship and pray it leads to a blissful and successful marraige

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Ujujoan,

Take this scenario. Dating her for almost 4 years, waiting for her to finish her education and settle down with her. If it was you, would you leave your guy for someone else? Maybe I didn't understand the phrase "tie her to yourself".

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@ poster why do you want to tie her to yourslef, are you going to marry her?

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I really appreciate the replies so far. It shows dat people on this forum want relationships to be strong and lasting. Do I talk to my babe and make her re-affirm her love for me? I hail you all.

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OnyinyeGod,

I love her a lot and I don't want anything or anybody to come between us. We have been through a lot together. I believe she loves me too what I'm scared of is her friend who is so exposed to the world and could give her wrong orientation. There was a time when the friend asked her why I was the only guy she has been going out with all this while (and to think of it that I got to know her through the friend, she made me promise her not to hurt the feelings of my babe)

Thanks for ur reply.

Ciao

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Do u really love her? and does she love u too. if so, be careful of steps you take. be sure of what you see before you take actions.

cheers!!!

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@poster

I think the truth is there is something she finds attracted to in other men that you lack.so go do some research and get back to us. good luck.

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Ur chicks friend could be jealous of the two of u,so she wants to put asunder.U need to hold ur babe carefully else another man go mumu am carry am go o.

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smoking lala n sippin abgo Anoda satisfied customer

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