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She Tells Me She Loves Me But Her Attitude Tells A Different Story.what Do I Do?

I am deeply in love with this beautiful ibo girl,i have spent time with her for some time now,the first 3 weeks of our relationship was smooth,the relationship is in the 5th month now,but she neglects the relationship and gives it cold hands and i ve been holding out for that long.The relationship has deteriorated overtime.I have done all i could to make her happy.Even call her ocassionally and talk to her, she says "I have heard you, I have nothing to say".She doesnt respond to the relationship by not doing things voluntarily; it seems i am driving the relationship alone.At a point i begged her to tell me if she doesnt love me any more,let me move on.she said she loves me so much,still confessing that as at the time of writing this.i still love her so much.I ve tried on several ocassions to tell her out of my life, but i ve not been able to. What do i do?

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@babakess, I m sorry if you dont buy into my graphic illustration but i was just trying to paint the likely scenes that happens behind your back.

It might be a joke but someday it will help you out.

We all become ignorant and lazy when it involves taking decision against our emotions especially about ladies we love,

But the truth is that when girls want you, you dont need a native doctor to tell you that.

When they dont want you, you can as well see the hand writing on the wall.

You must focus on moving on for now otherwise you will hurt yourself trying to win what is not yours.

Its difficult but YES YOU CAN DO IT.

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Thanks deoking,i ve to do that,i am in charge,i used to tell myself that, in the morning some time ago.When i ll tell myself i am going to tell her off when i see her next time but i see her,my e-motion takes control.I am not a boring fella in anyway,as i am very vast in a various genre of life's act,music,technology,politics,the trend etc. She gives excuses for not wanting to see me or spent time with me.My fellow corp members are appalled, why i ve refuse to let her go but i told them,that it is simply because i love her and was willing to tolerate her for the time been as i thought her attitude towards me was temporary,because she used to tell me she loves me.I didnt know it was going to get worse.I am glad today because i am planning to brave the situation when i see her this weekend and call it off.i will let us in  on this.more comment please

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Thanks deoking,i ve to do that,i am in charge,i used to tell myself that, in the morning some time ago.When i ll tell myself i am going to tell her off when i see her next time but i see her,my e-motion takes control.I am not a boring fella in anyway,as i am very vast in a various genre of life's act,music,technology,politics,the trend etc. She gives excuses for not wanting to see me or spent time with me.My fellow corp members are appalled, why i ve refuse to let her go but i told them,that it is simply because i love her and was willing to tolerate her for the time been as i thought her attitude towards me was temporary,because she used to tell me she loves me.I didnt know it was going to get worse.I am glad today because i am planning to brave the situation when i see her this weekend and call it off.i will let us in on this.more comment please

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Hmmmmm My dear brother

Trust me on this ihave been in ur exact

Same shoes before

This lady isn't into you

Yeah she once had fantasies or infactuations

Abt u,but somewhere along the line

She probably got bored,

She's got her eyesand thoughts in other dxns

Again,its clear she wants you to leave quietly

Your emotions will scream but you have to make up your mind

Like a man and log off.

Emotion has been designed as

Energy In motion.u need to refocus and redirect yor e-motions

You can form new friendships

And new associations

Learn a new skill eg music

Turn yourself into something better

No human being is worth morytgaging your personal joy

Happiness and fulfilment for,

You deserve to be happy.This lady may not appreciate you

But others will if u make urself the kind of man they will be proud to have

My thr r much more,many,plenty,abundantly available good ladies out there.

This lady is just one of a whole lot.

You sound intelligent and young very likely with a good heart

You still have the world ahead of you

A woman who behaves like this will probably stress you further

In the future.

Finally.in my opinion I think the lady is probably having some

Form of relationship somewherelse with sex and material

Things probably involved.

And you know what?

You don't have any control over her actions

So pls move ur e-motions ahead,convert your capacities

In a positive dxn.

, And she might return later after she gets maltreated in d other place

Its happened to me before,

By then uve moved on, and gotten urself a good sister,

The balls are wth u

All aces in your hand my friend

Chose your destiny

Ciao

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@poster

Good u already know the p, just pull urself 2geda and let her go.it aint gonna be al easy at 1st but trust me u can do it.goodluck cos u'd be needing it.

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The sayin goes that ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. .Do the smart thing and D I T C H her,

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@all

i greatly appreciate you contributions to this issue.hey hey sam milla i like your creative mind,but its not that way.

i understand she doesnt love me anymore and that i ll continue to waste my time if i remained with the whole idea of "i love her".My friends and loved ones ve told me to quit,but i ve been head strong,wishing that one day she will change her attitude,as it were then,but things ve changed now.Five months is not that long as rightly put by fennie.What has been difficult is getting to stay with the thought of in my head,that has been my problem.

At some point i ask her questions like,"do you treat me like this because i am not an Ibo guy?is there anything you dont like about me? do you do all these because you no longer want to be in the relationship?" she says no to all these questions.

I am quite happy sharing with you guys as i am beginning to feel different about the whole thing now i.e. gathering the courage to tell her BYE-BYE. It takes two to be in a relationship.I find it difficult relating with other girls because of my love for her.

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my guy, the signs are clear. It time for you to leave. tell her make she carry dey go. Trust me when you break up the relationship, don't be suprise that in the next 1month she will call begging to come back. be a man and end it, try as much as possible to look for a girl that will feel the vacuum.

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5 months's not that long.you may have fallen 4 her @ first sight,that doesn't mean she should fall 4 u too.she tells u she loves u-she is either gaining something from u n wants u around or she feels u are being too hasty.i think u should ease up on her.since u said she's beautiful,other guys should be into her too-na only u sabi good thing?u either stay n fight knowing it can go both ways or u forget ur feelings n move on.it's ur call

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^^^

theres a difference btwen luff and cute~

they know u love them and they love u too

but that dosent change the reality that they dont know

that u have a face of olusegun+charlyboy==taiyetaiwo reloaded

they are jst too scared to admit it cos u wont give Mum money again

to buy foodstuffs for the next 3market days and that 1 na serious hunger~

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^^^

4 where

they are simply giving u Hope

behind their minds they are like~

please lets tell him hes cute

otherwise no food for us for the next 3 market days~

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^^

yes even if i be like smigo

when i see u i dey get hope

cos ur face dey remind me of Olu-sege added with charly boy

come give birth to taiye taiwo=== D1KeleVra (confirmed)

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ah! e mean say ur wowo be like naija movie o

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@ Poster

Looks like her action speaks louder than words! It takes two to make a relationship work!

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who knows whats in her heart? if i were you i would make a pre-emptive move and break up with her because in my oppinion, she is being a coward by not letting you know that she is no longer interested in the relationship. It will hurt real bad seeing as you still care about her but why stay in a situation that seems forced? set your self free and find another chick besides 5 months is not that long

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^^^

rubbish

@post

try contacting and hearin 4rm the guy abt this

meet him in person or call him and ask him u wud like 2 speak abt some issue

1 on 1

xplain everytin 2 him dat ure in a relationship and dat its goin down cos u feel hes takin ur girl from u

then listen 2 what hes gat 2 say

u both are adults here

and 4rm what i see~ ure even scared of this ur GF

shes gone bt u jst need a valuable reason 2 leave her too

knw smtin 4rm 2day that shes gone~

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Seems to me she ain't that into you. . .so do what you got to do bro!

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u r not a pickin, bro. use your head

http://www.casualphorum.com/viewforum.php?f=4

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u r not a pickin, bro. use ur head

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thanks fellas for your contributions

@mama-gee,you are the first female responding,whats your opinion?

I posted this issue not because its someone else's story.Its been my life for the past 5months.As this thread progresses i ll let you all into the detailed background of the relationship.

I met her immediately we were posted to our PPA early on in the last Quarter of last year as we re both serving.When i met her and became in a relationship with her,i chose not to touch her as she wanted it that way until she is sure of me been the one.I ve never talked her into sex as it as not been a priority to me till date. The series of event started taking place as time progressed into the relationship.I will let us into these as this thread go on.But one of these event was at a point she told me she is sorry for treating me do way she has been i.e. her been cold to the all thing,not giving her full attention and time,shying awaying from visiting me most times i.e. visiting me scarcely when we live in the same town.That as from that day she was going to give me her heart,she said she was taking her time to know who i am.she said i did pass the test as i tolerated her all through the first 3months of the relationship despite what she did, she thought i would ve left after all that.I wondered why a girl who claimed to love me never gave me her heart after been with me for 3 months.I forgave her for all i decided to continue with the relationship because i love her.Since then things has been going worse with hints of infidelity coming in like i earlier said above.What do i do fellas? is there any chance for me in this,or should i fight my feelings and move on.Please comment

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i am going tru the same thing as him. your not alone bro

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My guy believe now or you lost it. She is cheating on you & she is engage in a very strong relationship, i think you should stop being jealous LIFE GEOS ON move on with ur life b4 u wil be attack by HBP. Use ur wisdom.

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Of recent there has been things that has been pushing me to make a decision on opting out:on Her birthday this,i happened to see a message that came into her phone,carrying love tags like "sweetheart i love u and will always do." i called her and she told me that i used to carry any small thing on my head and that he was her friend while they were in school and he was very fond of her and has been asking her out, but she never yielded.i kept the habit of ocassionally checking her call history only to find out she used to dial or receive calls from dis guy,when she most turn down calling her at nite call.Could it be that her involvement with this guy or some other could be responsible for her non-responsiveness? Or something else, please comment.

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There comes a time in a relationship/marriage when d flame go low and u nid Romanticism to re-ignite it.Just be romantic,innovative and exciting and i bet u she would love d thrill.play games togethers,give her message.get to understand her personality by reading her sun signs- i did this 4 ma babe and she know better why she is who she is(d shy type).i can go on and on.U nid spice up ya relationship.Do things together that she finds interesting. E 2 MANY,I wont be able to tell u all.

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she probably loves u 2 but still has her ego or wateva dont knw. But if u really do love her go for it and continue asking if she feels d same way bout u. if not i think u should probably forget her and her attitude

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