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Should A Girl Friend Keep In Touch Which Her Ex?

should a girl friend keep in touch with her ex and other guy she has dated?

I mean calling them and see them ?

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My mom always told me ' Dont keep food you have vowed not to eat within arms reach'.....A word is enough for the wise.

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An ex is an ex, period.

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It depends on her intentions and their past.

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I keep in contact with mine, in fact my last boyfriend is still my best friend. It really depends on the relationship you guys had and how it ended. It was always clear that we were friends first, and that we wanted to stay friends afterward. To be honest, I would question a guy if he didn't seem to talk to any of his ex's.

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Being intouch with ones ex' on regular basis for irrelevant convo is akin to cheating or innocent flirting.

It's only okay to do so when situation demands and it shouldn't be done at d expense of ur present partner or relatnship

Different stroke for different folks, I have an ex that i still relate with her elder broda on regular basis, and if situation warrants any day, i will be pleased to reach her on fone.

I have come to understand that most pple like deceiving themselves, and funny enuf, they often believe that they 're deceiving pple around them. And that explains why most pple never receive answer 4 their prayers.

Sincerity counts, and understanding matters!!!

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This is where most people get it wrong. An ex is an ex, period. Agreed, u guys arent enemies; and as some have posited already, it depends on how u guys broke up. But then, why would one want to keep in touch with an ex? Its like living in the past. It shows the person in question is still into the ex, and given the slightest give-away, anything more than emotional can still take place.

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@topic: not adviceable.

Is it ok for a guy to be in touch with his EX even when he's found another?

I wont tolerate such rubbish!

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It is ok with the western world but here in naija omo men na abomination. From my sugeon with ladies i have cometo know that they will in no circumstance go back to see an ex cause their of present catch, even if he does not go it well like the ex does all they want is to be satisfied with what he's got and nothing more.

Except for if he does not put up a serious disposition to their relationship,

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@ Post,

It is not advisable to keep in touch with your ex especially immediately after the break-up, because it may be difficult for you (or the both of you) to move on.

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Ex doesn;t mean enemy ,,,, they can still be good frnds

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For the sake of Okafor's law,the answer is NO.

Okafor's law states that a man will go always go back to familiar territory when the ocassion presents itself.

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yes why not as long as she can tell herself honestly that she no longer feels anything for the guy.

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When you still contact your ex, chances are that you will end up having to meet and when that happens, old feelings rush through your veins and your hormones become vastly uncontrollable.

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conflict of interest, but it cn be pwetty difficult especially if u were not actually jst bf n gf but best friends too, but i wld avoid it at all costs, it can get a wee bit hairy, but it sldnt just be gals ooooo, the man too must join, any man dat wnts to hang on to his ex n not expect me to do the same, needs to have his brain examined

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In as much as I agree with d above, I would still love 2 keep in touch wit my ex.

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That was very harsh!

@ Poster,

I see nothing wrong with keeping in touch with one's ex.Feelings can be controlled and once you are in control of your feelings then you are in charge.People go into relationships for different reasons and i must say that keeping in touch with your ex depends on why you had a relationship with him in the first place!

The world is surely a small place!

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If their paths seem to collide. .why not? They sure aren’t enemies

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there is nothing wrong you being in good terms with your exes. but you shouldn't get too close. keep the friendship at an arm's length. we are humans soooooooooooo.

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that girl is a Dam,why would she do that

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if you are in a STABLE relationship then your boyfriend should TRUST you and be SECURE with himself that you wouldnt lie to him about this.

(if you have ever lie or cheated on him then i understand why he doesnt trust you)

if you lay with skanks then dont be scared to be bitten.

if it is NOT ok with the new bf then he should hit the road, NO MAN/WOMAN SHOULD EVER CHANGE THEIR LIFESTYLE FOR ANYBODY!!

do you know why?! because

First thats who they are, whatever you try to change will only come back stronger later when you are deep in the relationship

Second people should accept you for who you are as a whole, not who you are when you will change to accommodate his/her insecure self.

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If it suits her in a good or bad way.Some fire never go out unless immersed deeply in the ocean. Majority live in denial of this but only out of morality.

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why will she be keeping them contacts?

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. .Palaver she dey find. . .

                                             -Fela Anikulapo Kuti.

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It makes no sense keeping in touch with your ex; such practice would only ruin your present relationship; once you’re through with someone, forget about him and move on with your life.

I myself I don’t think I would feel very comfortably if I notice that my girlfriend still contacts her ex; so in order to avoid unnecessary quarrels, let your ex know that you’ve found someone who loves and cares for you better than he did.

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if you are still friends and nothing more than that

How does the present bf know that there is nothing else going on.

and what if its not ok with him

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it all depends on how you broke up. if you are still friends and nothing more than that then there is absolutely nothing wrong about it.

the insecure/jealous new bf/gf is the one who has a problem with that and who should deal with his own issues.

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I still keep in touch with most of my exes but we have an understanding. Nothing is eva going to happen.

You should not keep in touch with an ex if you have any remnants of feelings it could jeopardize moving on with life.

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Well i think the past should be the past. I dont thinks its right to bring your pass to the present.

Besides doesnt she care about how her present boy friend feels. And there is no way to know exactly what is going on between her and the ex.

No matter what she tells you considering the fact that you have told her how you feel bad about her being in contact with him.

I think is also shows less regard for the present boy friend if she cant make a sacrifice for the present relationship unless he doesnt complain about it.

In fact i think its a NO DO  for a relationship

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Well i think the past should be the past. I dont thinks its right to bring your pass to the present.

Besides doesnt she care about how her present boy friend feels. And there is no way to know exactly what is going on between her and the ex.

No matter what she tells you considering the fact that you have told her how you feel bad about her being in contact with him.

I think is also shows less regard for the present boy friend if she cant make a sacrifice for the present relationship unless he doesnt complain about it.

In fact i think its a NO DO for a relationships

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According to OmoT 'Burn it in the fire'!!!!

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I'd say she hasn't made a definite choice yet who to stick with. Keeping in touch with exs may be a sign of emotional confusion and can backfire as the guy in question may see her as something other than an ex. Better safe than sorry.

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That's a risky situation.  I have had female co-workers (friends) put the moves on me, it happens. So why would your girl friend put herself in a situation where old friends might make a move on her.

Imagine a scenario between you and your GF where you get into a fight with her.  She gets hurt and and hooks up with one of her so called guy friends;  she is also confused, because of her hurtful emotions.  Some guys are like wolves and can sense when a women is in need of sympathy.  The guy takes advantage of the situation.

The end result is her regret for her actions.  She has to live with that; may never even tell you what happened.  

The point is don't put yourself in a compromising situation.  If your in a serious relationship or marriage, only meet friends of the opposite sex in groups, but never alone.

If the women here don't believe me, come my way.  I'll be your friend next time you have a lovers spat.  I'll put my arms around you and hold you close.

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Depending on her emotional state. But i really don't see any need for that, maybe as an acquaintance though.

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its an ex no an enemy

y shouldnt she as long as she's sure nothing can happen

no 'mistakes'

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Maybe she's still friends with him and doesn't have a reason to cut off that friendship

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What will be her reason for doing that?

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