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Should i be worried that he's cheating?

i've been with my bf for 6 months now. everything in our relationship is seemingly perfect and in general i had full trust in him, but a couple months ago while borrowing his laptop (with his permission), i noticed some history of Indecency sights.

i didn't think much of it at first, it's pretty normal for guys to look at Indecency. but of course this sparked my curiosity about what kinds of stuff he was looking at. i started sneaking on to his comp more and more, and now im uncovering stuff that i DONT want to see.

for example, an huge file with hundreds of pictures of Unclad girls. not even like Indecency-star celebrity girls, but just average looking young, Unclad girls holding cameras up in their bathrooms, that sort of thing. which makes me wonder if these are girls that he meets in chatrooms or other online networking sites, or knows them in real life. i found some Coverless pics of his ex-girlfriend which were sent to him WHILE we were together. he looks at this stuff pretty much every day.

i'm really confused, hurt, and i get sick to my stomach every time i think about this. aside from this, he's never done anything to make me distrust him. i love him so much but i don't know what to do, i don't have any physical evidence of him cheating but i'm scared that any time now something like that will come up. what do you guys think? anyone have a similar experience?

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Hello,

don't go on such a decision,ur dude has not done anything wrong.I have a lot of pron pics in my laptop too and my girlfriend can never question about it.Just watch his attitude and you can easily conclude in your mind the kind of relationship you are into.Beware, you might loose your best guy in the history of a relationship.

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If u leave him, u will date another guy, is that not, what behaviour do u know that the new one will put on, i advice u watch the movie best man and learn a from it, guys can be very very funny at times, think not twice but many times before u conclude to "move on" with life cos u cant just continue to make drastic decisions when it comes to relationships all the time

And pls remember, dia is no such 'saint guy', they all have dia bad aspect

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Unless if u dont love em

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@ all thank you, i have decided to break up with him and move on with my life.

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@poster,

2 things you can do.

a.   talk about it with him

or

b.   pretend you did  not see it.

I imagine you try a. , he will tell you he just uses it as part time, nothing serious, his ex-pic means nothing.

Of course you will agree with him that it was just harmless part-time.

But in your heart the insecurity is still there.

(Why) cause you could become his ex easily and though you really love him, he will be satisfied with looking at your pic(Coverless).

What is truly lacking is knowing that he truly loves you, that he will be there for you, that he is planning a future with you in it.

What you have is casual even though there is intimacy involved.  He could be seeing you as one of his Indecency tools.

I pray you re-discover the true meaning of relationship and God only could guide you to it.

Stay blessed.

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U can always delete em and look for sumtin sweeter

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U can always delete em and look for sumtin sweeter

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girl just tread carefully. insecurity its a teriible thing and dats how u are feelin rite now. talk to him nd see how he replies,

if u are not confident on his replies. girl move on he might not be wat u need but if he opens up and confides in u then relax and talk ur way out of it, unless does stuffs u saw will continue to hunt ur judgement.

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I dont think I can add anything different from what someone has already said up there.

The truth is, most men look at p0rn. While some even watch it with their partner.

Here is a recent post about it from another NLer Honie

Talk to ur bf, u really to. Let him know how you feel about it and hear what he'll say.

Most men do it but that does not mean you have to accept it.

If he has pictures of you too among the Unclad pix he stored on his computer, well, I'll say he's making a personal collection of his memory.

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wow wow wow wow wow i wont even say anything

double wow

@poster

if thats what you wanna hear- and your cool with it- move on and stop complaining

truth is if you ask him anything- he'd either lie to you

or he'll lie to you

or hell say thing like; 'all men cheat' 'all men watch Indecency' and 'all men store Unclad photos of thier ex gf's'

are u honest?? are u faithful?? do u think u deserve more?? or are u the type to snoop thru a mans things all day leaving u drowning in a pool of you own insecurities??

6 mnths, thats nothing trust me- women stay 6yrs even after pregnant ex's bra's and thongs behind the radiators, random love bites and ladies leavin saucy messages on a regular

u can either swallow it and continue or free urself and move on. . .

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He sleeps around doesn't mean he doesn't love you and that he loves you doesn't mean he's the best for you.

Truth is one of every hundred guys {don't ask me where i got my figures from} will love to screw around even though they have a partner they care about!. . . am not saying this is an act of responsibility its just a plain reality check!

Talk to him about commitment and long term plans, you will know if he's really ready for that or he's just looking to have a good time!

You snooping on his stuff is an act of misplaced trust on your part, just come out of the shell and ask him!. . . . most guys watch pórn anyways, i bet more than 90 percent of guys do!

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D pics dont count, but u nid 2 talk 2 him though.

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