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Should I Contribut To The Money To Get The Apartment?

I have a guy who I have been in and out with roughly two years but I think or feel his orientation about women is bad. He calls but feels he should not waste too much money on things like calls or gifts. Right now, I asked him about his apartment, but the money is not complete. Should I go ahead to bring part of the money or let him do it on his own. He says its a major factor to our settling down, but he gives me the creep at times.

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I wouldn't . . . . not with all you listed in your post.

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@poster/, wont advice you to assist him, seeems ur relationship wiv him is not too solid, except he is sure to marry you, shine ur eyes

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My dear, love is a two-way street. Give and take. Don't keep giving to someone who's only taking and not giving back.

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HI LET THIS GET INTO YOUR HEAD THAT THE HOUSE IS NOT "OUR HOUSE" BUT "MY HOUSE" WHEN YOU HAVE SUPPORTED THE SO CALL GUY OF URS IN RENTING THE APARTMENT.

WETIN THE BOBO DEY DO SEF I NO GET JOB. DONT SAY I DID NOT WARN YOU. MEN ARE STH ELSE THESE DAYS. AS YOU ARE DOING FOR THEM SO AS THEY ARE DOING FOR THE ONE THEY LIKE. SHINE UR EYE BABY GIRL

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I will say if you have money to give, please note that you are giving as a gift and not as a co-owner of the apartment, better to have such mind, so that you dont go crazy later.

never give what you cant afford to lose

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Ok, lets see,

Your bf gives u the creeps and you still stick with him. So what do you like about him? The sex, because obviously hes not spending his money on you. So if you are in and out for 3 years for sex, the reason you want to settle down is because he gives you good sex. Fine, but what if that diminishes. I think you dont even know what you want. A guy gives you the creeps, yet you are considering his condition of settling down. Mmmmm, be real with yourself and you will find the answer from within. Good luck

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he gives u the creeps,

he doesnt think its right to call,

he told u his having an appartment is a huge factor in ur settling down

kweshion do u want to settle down?

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Love is not the be all cure all.

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Do you love him?

Does he love you?

If you answer yes to all, then contribute.

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@replies

i no fit laff

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@POSTER,PLS DONT MIND THESE GIRLS WHO ARE TELLING U NOT TO CONTRIBUTE TO UR LOVERS RENT.RELATIONSHIP IS GIVE AND TAKE.U SHLD KNOW THAT THESE ARE GIRLS WHO HAVE NO ONE TO DATE THEM AND SO WILL NOT ENCOURAGE U TO KEEP UR HAPPINESS.D GUY MAY BE ACTING FUNNY TO U,BUT ASK URSELF THESE QUESTIONS?

ARE U D CAUSE OF HIM BEHAVING THAT WAY?

DO U LOVE HIM?

IF YES,THEM LOVE WILL SEE U THRU.

DONT MIND THESE LAGOS GIRLS WHO ARE ONLY INTERESTED IN D GUY GIVING THEM.

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Don't spend Ur money on him. He is not very reliable, since he gives u the creeps. Except if u have extra money to spend.

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welll well, if you where saying something about gifts ect, dont you think the reason why he doesnt give you gift ect. its cause he doesn't have money to spend on things like that, you have been goin out with him for a while now, you should know his financial status, Love does not count gifts.

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we have a local saying that goes thus 'dem no dey use guy man dey swallow poison even if dem serve am for take-away plate'. if u don't feel right about something, then, to me-o, it's not right.

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What about him gives you the creeps?

do you want to settle down with him?

What is wrong with his current apartment?

Has he outright asked you for the money or are you volunteering it?

How long have you dated?

Does he have a job?

Does he intend to pay this back or is it a gift?

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@Poster.

If u must help him, but do not predicate ur help on love or relationship.

Otherwise,u may not be 2happy about ur assist afterwards.

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@poster if u have the cash do give him BUT please dont ask him wen u guys will be getiin married ok, he doesn't seem to be a reliable person

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contribution is good.

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gal, is this guy's love for u genuine? dont spend dis money and he later begins to play a fool of u. letos know if he truely loves u and and if the relationship is a good one, except u are helping him out for friendship sake. because as u started, he dosen't fill spending money on gift makes any sense. we wise sista, don't be a fool

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If you have the money just give it to him,do not feel you are doing it cos he is not reliable but just see it that you are helping a friend in need.

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@poster

If you have the money just give it to him,do not feel you are doing it cos he is not reliable but just see it that you are helping a friend in need.

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