I am a Nigerian female raised in the US but in a very cultured home. I was still going to the C&S churches until college (even though I also went to Catholic churches too through my schools). I always went to the Nigerian parties that lasted till 7 am, I occasionally watch the Nollywood movies with my parents, always knell when i greet relatives, grew up eating Nigerian food everyday until college and understand Yoruba (but don't speak it).
hence, I am much American, actually I'm more worldly. I went to an international university (where i hung out w/ the naijas too along w/ people from every culture) and my current group of friends are all from diff. nationalities. I've dated a diversity of backgrounds and now in my late 20s, aunties and uncles, and of course the parents are bugging me about getting married.
at first it's "you must find nigerian." now lately it's, "please just get married." lol
well, the thing is i just want to marry my one true no matter where he's from but ideally, I want to marry a Nigerian guy but preferably Nigerian-American or someone who grew up in the west (eq. U.S., england). Basically, if the guy went to college in Naija, it's not going to work for me. I know this. He has to at least left by 18, but preferably, much younger. I have put myself out there twice already w/ guys from home and just now did it the third time and realized it will be my last. These 3 guys i've never actually dated but was introduced by families. 2 of the guy were in nigeria at the time. the problem? All of them were intense too soon already calling me their girl after the 3rd e-mail response. Hel-LO. Relax buddy. We haven't even met yet. Or they'll call plenty of times wondering why u didn't respond to their e-mail message they sent 2 hours ago. (ok, i'm exaggerating a bit).
I even knew one naija guy at work and we were cool friends until he wanted more. Him i wasn't feeling at all and he just wouldn't get it when i would say, "I do not see u this way" only surprisngly responding to me, "why not?!" or " I know u feel the same."
I've only met a few naija americans (includes ones that grew up here and even some that went to college in the U.S.). The very few i knew were cool but either seem to distance themselves from naija/black girls or were a bit cocky.
what is an amerinaija girl to do? anyway, so my thing is I'm just too different socially (and romantically) to find all this agressiveness appealing and think i should just steer towards Naija americans or any other that fits my boat.