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Should I Go To Nigeria And Marry Or Should I Marry Here In Europe?

i have been very confuse about what could be the answer to my question because people said that more decent and responsible girls are in Nigeria while others said that those girls in Nigeria are cheats and gold diggers, now all my female friends in Europe are older than me, what should i do?

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Maybe europe is different. here in the US; is not like that oooo. Men rarely want to go home to marry unless he can't find somebody here or he has known the girl befor. some men/women who went home to bring a mate regreted it becuase these men/women want to get out naija and will do anything to fulfill that dream. when these girls gets here, their expections are nothing to write home about.

granted, there may be some girl who may be irresponsible in Europe/US but so are some girls in naija. there some decent girls here in the US who work their tale off to make a living. in Washington where I live, all (I mean All) the young girls and guys here are eaither graduates or go to school as well as work full time. we know ourselves and we are proud of what we have achieved and what we are yet to achieve. So you people should stop tanishing abroad naija women abeg!!!!

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Go East, Life is peaceful there. . . Go East, yes out in the open air. . . Go East, where the skies are blue. . . Go East, that is what we want to do!

Return home and take a wife son! Return home!

These are the words ringing in my head.

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@cool zil, you are a wise man/woman. your opinion is intelligently wonderful.

@doncaster you are also wise, but if those girls in london are bad, what about the nigerian girls in a worse place like italy? imagine what could be the case. infact a lot of hard working boys are going home to look for wife now.

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My brother if you fit go naija abeg go for the future of your kids.

Marry this naija gyls in London especially born and bred in london.

Early grave will be ur case. Some are good but most of them are just plain silly.

Irritating to the extent that 95% of them are single approaching 40. Its not that they don't

want to marry but their behaviour is doing them.

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Naija men 4 away!!!!! D way most of una dey fear we naija babes wey dey Away, na so we dey fear una.

U guys tell all sort of lies,just to scr*w a lady here,when all u want is a naija base chic, well y complain when d naija

base chics tell u all sweet lies to get ur ring ,name and money. Me, myself & I know from one mistake & people's

experience,that Naija men away r just liarswho want to break hearts of we away but wnt to marry naija base

sisis.

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Defintiely Nigeria. No contest. Even in my church, you will see brothers announcing their marriages to Home based naija girls. Even the pastor jokingly asked why brothers are going home to marry instead of looking within the church,

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It is slightly unfair to those who are of good behaviour but the majority are corrupt, i have been around a bit and my eyes are wide open. . . naija chicks are now worse than jamaican or ghanaian chicks sef.

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awwww, i know people say gidi girls in europe are not worth marrying and all that. i find it difficult to believe really becos the girls i move with are so traditonal in a nice way and cool headed. if u choose wisely u wont be misled. my girls in nigeria are the same as well, u find good and bad women/girls everywhere in the world.

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@Peroxide

hehehe, much more better

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The final decision is yours, but I don't see why you can't marry in Europe especially if it is more convenient.

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I have a pretty sister you can settle down with. She is educated, young and employed and i tell you, she's gona make a good wife too. Need her? Ask.

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single lady like najahage is an early grave and not a wife materia at all

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ouch, dats unfair oooo. nt every gidi girls abroad are irresponsibe and into oyinbo ooo. the men are more into white girls though.

i have a friend dat curses wenever she see white/asian girls wit black guys, really funny

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my village all the way.

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Q-mr luka- I am not married,but i know the difference b/w right and wrong.i love big booty but it wont blind me.Does that makes sense to u?why are u so scared of marriage?where is your faith?i grew up in a peaceful home,so i would have one too.shine your eyes and take the risk.

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where will you get decent girls or ladies or women in Europe? Chances are, she has screwed all men, white and black inclusive, or she has married six men or one thing or the other, kindly rule out Europe my friend. Beside, how will you know her family background if you marry her in Europe?

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you guys are probably making the po more confused than ever.strictly lay emphasis on one.naija or foreign

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at least with dem here u know what u are leting urself into. girls from home are mostly deceitful camelons. lies and more lies. and trust the religious ones to be the more dangerously evil

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@poster.i must say,you must be confused from people's response here.left for my opinion,good and bad full every were.

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There are both good and bad apples in Naija and Abroad

My uncle did the same silly thing, he brought this village girl was Osun, got married to her, sent her to Univ then Nursing, they had 3 beautiful kids, after he got her the citizenship,she left him and her three young kids behind.

So think twice before you make the biggest mistake of your life

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4Play, might as well go German

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=209323.msg3258858#msg3258858

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What Hausa tradition my darling?  What thread is it on?

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@post,

There is a whisper in your soul. No one else can hear it but you. What does it say?

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LOL, don't people get tired of discussing this Naija in Naija vs Naija abroad thing, I wonder why it is such a big deal. It is definately easier to find a naija woman in naija that you like , just because there are more of them. In the same breadth though you can find a good naija woman anywhere. Their is no poison in the water anywhere that makes people good or bad . who says that you will not marry a woman abroad who has alterior motives or a naija woman in naija who you can not step to talkless of even getting her to relocate.

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guy u should know where to stay and get a good wife.

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Just follow your heart! Dont mind those people wagging

their mouths and callling the Nigerian girls names, they know

not what they're saying really!

If those ladies in Europe are tooold for you, please do come

back home to pick an homely girl, not all of them are rotten!

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Wherever you are, I'd advise you marry a girl who has the same kind of background and vision as you. If the girl does not operate on your wavelength, you'll run into problems eventually. There are also some things which crop up later in life and if you are yoked together with someone of a different background, irreconciliable differences will set in to destroy the relationship that you built.

While a lot of people think[i] love[/i] is all that matters, love does not, and can not, sustain marriages.

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Its a good Idea to come to Nigeria. Infact my younger brother is here on his own accord for this purpose (been away for 12yrs).But you must realize that even this has its own challenges. Right now he is like a starved rottweiler suddenly  finding itself in a poultry.Chances are that he wont be able to make up his mind on this visit and would need to come back.This is still much better than the mail order arrangement.

Looking for a spouse over there in europe and America is a no no b/c chances of getting it right is much less on account of fewer choices to make. Same advice goes to our babes wanting to settle down. Come to Nigeria twice a year esp during festivities and mingle.

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I don't get why people consult geography when "looking" for wives. Whats wrong with the women where you are? Are ALL of them sour? What is wrong with YOU?

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Great:-) lol, i'll say 95% of Nigerian girls are risk. So if you're down for that,then try them. Only what i noticed about this silly folks was that, they only are after your wealth and all you have been upto. They're the kind of girls that turn a millionaire to a kobonaire lol. Let me say they are a victim, And they'll take advantage of you till you're finished, let me just say they're being atavistic about that. I'm a 9ja boy ooo but talking from what i have seen. So guy just follow your heart bit and hardly take unreasonable advise. Peace out

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All Nigerian girls in Nigeria are bitches, I went to Nigeria in August and slammed lots of girls who claim to be in serious relationships. They were calling later when I've arrived Canada and I wasn't giving them a show.

Dude, just be where you are and enjoy your life. Go to Nigeria not because of a girl. Damn, even because of girl you want enter naija. Men, people dey ooooooo.

Probably, your arms aint strong enough. I don't blame you because you don't have what it takes to handle girls abroad who want trips abroad.Big loser. You go enter naija now go dey form and lie to those village girls. If I catch you heh, I go smack and hustle your black d**k to the wall. Next time you go think straight!!!!!!!!!

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mehn anywhere you find love ojare

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Go back to Nigeria and get a girl

There are lots of decent girls in Nigeria , Just shine your EYES and SCAN WELL!

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my brother, come home

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My broda, decent gals in naija? It's very rare these days.All of them are same, i will advise that you marry someone there at least she won't be marrying you for money and relocation sake since she is already there.Just my piece! Cheers!

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lol so the ones in nigerian are even worst if those nollywood movies are true though

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my point is that majority of girls in Europe are lion-hearted or arrogant, some have followed the company of white people while others are on the road. now i only have the option of marrying older girl (the available) or going to Nigeria to take risk

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Are people still spreading that thing about 'nice decent gyals' in Nigeria?

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There are decent gyals everywhere. Dont kid yourself. The 'nice decent gyals' in naija are the ones from the village who are extremely submissive but will 'shine eye' once they cross the border.

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it depends on were u found love

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It doesn't matter where you choose to marry, what matters is what kind of girl you marry. You're just as likely to find a self-obsessed diva in Nigeria as much as you're likely to find them in any parts of the world. Love literarily slaps you in the face, you never see it coming. If you want to marry someone you love, have an open heart and wait till it comes for you. Goodluck man.

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oboi, use ur common sense, u dnt need to follow peoples opinion on every issue, there are both good and bad girls on every continent!!

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i dont think dats true. iguess u've only been wit the worng ones, trust me gidi girls think gidi boys abroad are rubbish as well

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pls follow ur heart there is nothing wrong in marring where u are located.

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