Hallo fellow africans
i am from kenya and i need to hear some answer from somewhere else (so pliz dont use words that are only known to nigerians coz i wont understand)
My prob is as follows. I met a girl whom i asked to be my gf, and she agreed. During our first two dates, we discussed our pasts and she told me that she previously had a bf, who left her after he got rich. However she derives alot of pleasure because he keeps calling her and asking her to be his galfriend again. He is the one who initiated the breakup. She told me that during their breakup moment, she told him that he would never find a woman like her. And he told her likewise (she would never find a man like him), anyway, so he keeps bugging her to be his galfriend again, and she keeps reminding him of his statement, bla bla bla, (she has never agreed to be his galfriend), but she agreed to be mine.
After listening to that, i told myself that this is a woman who daznt make clean breaks with the past, she hangs alot to the past. I am not that kind of guy, if i break up with a woman, i forget her and move with my life, that way i have less baggage to carry.
So we started the relationship, then i discovered this woman is a work-a-holic, she has big dreams and so on. Nothing wrong. Only that during our moments together, she talks alot about her work, what her boss told her, what her workmates tell her. bla bla bla, 90% of the time, its about her work, her work, if not, its about her future, what she wants to do, bla bla bla. She daznt talk about US. ie me and her.
So i pointed this out to her, i told her that a relationship is not built on her dreams of work, and work, but on cultivating a relationship. I asked her, honey if we get maried, surely, will we build our marriage on your conversation about work and your dreams? She told me that is who she is, and that conversations about us need to come from me.
After two weeks, i thought this was too much and i told her to cut down the talk about work and talk more about her feelings and topics that are mutual, where i can contribute. I usually try to do that, but she inevitably turns them to her work, boss, family, bla bla.
So last week i told her i feel that this relationship is very shaky, bcoz it has no substance. I told her that her contiual focus on her work is making the relationship shaky. She said nothing. When i called her, she refused to pick the fone, when i texted, she refused to text back, for 4days. So i thought, this is is silly, you want me to cuddle you back. So i told her that if she didnt talk to me, i would end the relationship. She hasnt talked in 5 days now.
Take note though, she has her positive points: She does not gossip, and is very respectful, she is organized and has told me that she would readily be submissive to me.
But now that she isnt talking about anything. Should i end this?