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Should I Marry An Illiterate? Kindly Advise

I am a boy of 21, dating a girl of 26. She loves me so much to the extent that she is ready to do anything for me. When we started, she hid her age from me, even when I told her mine.

We do plan to marry, but I am too young for her. She has tried to persuade me to get her pregnant to make our union acceptable to all.

Along the line I also discovered another major draw back. She can’t read or write. From that point I knew she has been lying to me all along, and instantly knew why she was so desperate to have me in her life.

Sincerely, her being illiterate doesn’t bother me as much as her age, a whopping five-year gap. To me, this is unacceptable.

In the last six months, I have been trying to avoid her, but she doesn’t want to leave me alone. Our relationship is running to a year and two months now. Please, I your advice on what to do.

Should I continue with her or terminate the relationship? Her family is very much aware of our relationship. I don’t know what to do.

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Do u mean that she has never seen the four walls of a learning institution, if she is a drop out that one is accepted but if shes not. i dont know wat 2 say cos i am also an illiterate

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Always be sincere in your dealings with people and pray to God for guidance

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my brother pray to God to direct and counsel u

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u are on ur own, its 2010, incase ur calender still reads 1824

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^^ not everything is as it seems!

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Anyway I got my personal reasons (, medical reasons)

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personally i cld never marry an illiterate, besides wat u doin getting married at 21,,,boy u need a good spank, and am talking the naughty kind, to wake ur senses up

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12 years?!?! please tell me you don't have a gf yet, that'd be serious child abuse!

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5 yrs?To me, age is a big deal, me cant marry a lady unless she's 12 yrs younger.i know what i want , u know urs?

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@Poster

Be like say you chop winsh? marriage @ your age? what class are you? You no know say the girl fit get package for you?

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WOYE,tell Ur guy to run for his dear life cos that girl have hidden agender about the young boy

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21yrs thinking of marriage that is very sad of him, Quit the relationship fast before is too late.

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Abekeade u are too much wit the way u attack that so called boy but am advice to him be say make he follow wetin he mind tell am because if he marry that girl without loving her, he go just malteat her after the marriage. age is not a barrier and not going to school too no be big deal.

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21 years old boy thinking of marriage, you 4 marry inside your mama belle

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Inthe north, it's possible to get married with nothing (believe me very very honestly when i say nothing- ) The girls family, if well to do or not, usually gives her an accompanying dowry - Furnihings for ur living room, kitchen utensils, bed and mattress, electronics and food to cover the two of you for one year, trust me!

Consider marrying from the north!

But if u want to marry an illeterate u might have to contend with issues like hosting of friends and colleagues, travelling out, reading the internet for child care and grooming matters, etc, etc But if she is ready to learn and u don't mind sending her to school why not, !

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The fact that she was not sincere about her age and her despreation to get hooked, is really not to be overlooked.

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all is ur choice.age is just a number but the issue of illiteracy is wot bothers me,it depend on u if u can motivate her to b literate.

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Boy! reading ur story is like watchin a nollywood movie, i hope say part 2 & 3 no dey comot?

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Only on nairaland.com. . . . . .lol

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Well there is nothing wrong in that relationship, cos am also in your shoe, am married already with three children , and where i works there was a woman whom i knew she older than me she want me to date , though, she divorce with 4 children even one of her children she is in university, if i compare her age with mine she will be 3-5 years older than me, and she an illiterate, to my investigations and what she told me, she doped school in primary 3, but am a graduate in public admin. , but what i notice in she was so caring, loving, accommodating, i have to be frank with you i cant leave any more, so if you love her forget about her age and her level of education, cos love nothing to do with age and education, BUT WITH THAT YOUR AGE YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO MARY NOW , I ADVISE YOU PLAN FOR YOUR FUTURE FIRST BEFORE THINKING OF MARRIED , E NO DEY ESSYYYYY OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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Woye is in a bus, and that bus is called 'ONE CHANCE'. Guy come down b4 e go dey late.

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So You want to run or wetin?, My dear, As long as you love her, teach her no matter the level of illiteracy she is. If you are saying age in love, Rule off that as what you need is love and someone who can love and cares for you. I have spend much to see a kind person that will love and care about me. still find it difficult!

Age is never a factor as she is just 5yrs older as am about to marry who i use 8yrs, then what are you saying? Concentrate on her weak side which is her education. Teach her and let her know that you will leave her if she didnt do something base on her illiteracy.

Thanks and all the best of union.

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the age gap is the issue.

Why an older lady?

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marry her if you know she 's the special one, illiterate or not it doesn't matter just as long as you both love each other that's what matters.

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If you love her and she love you, Ba wahala. forget about age and been illiterate.

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When you were cleaning the "PLAY HEAD", you did not know she is an illiterate. How many educated people today are financial stable and comfortable, how many? Now you are looking for an excuse to run away and move to the next on line. Remember, what goes around comes around cos age ain't nothing but numbers,

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My opinion is that this guy isn't matured enough to know wat he wants yet. Go home dear and sit under the moonlight while daddy tells u stories and mummy prepares dinner. You are too young for this level of decision making considering whats involved. Sorry.

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The diff. in age is just a number. You can educate her if she is ready to back to school. But will she give hapiness if marry her? consider that, the ball is in your court .

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@ woye

way to young for this, quote me. Go and face your book or whatever it is you are doing. wen u done see life, then trust me u wouldnt be asking this very silly question/s!

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You just spoke my mind, it seems the rest of you are idle thats why you are replying him. He/she/it is a good story teller, AMAKA has given you people enough evidence so quit the advice. Woye go to HINTS Magazine with your story they would pay you for it.

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@poster. What do you gain by posting these bland Nollywood scripts on NL? Take this to Tchidi Chikere and see what he thinks. Haven't you a better thing to do online?

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There are many egs of wives who are older than their husbands unfortunately i cant tell u their names but be rest assured that marriage is more than all these, am pretty sure u luk older than her. The only thing i frown at is d fact that she is lying and not being totally honest.

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Look before you leap.

My opinion: Ask yourself, in 10 years time, would you still find her attractive? I guess you know the answer. Age difference coupled with being an illiterate, i guess people will say you were charmed. If i were you, i will end the relationship and move on with my life.

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Woye77,

You are just 21. Who said you are ready for marriage?

Do not venture into a territory you know nothing about.

The lady is 26 and obviously older than you. What makes you think you can control a woman older than your big sister?

Before you think of marriage:

1. Go finish your school first and then start working.

2. Seek a woman your own age or younger.

There is no buts, just do it!

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I think you have a dream of experiencing early death.It is not a big deal to get married today and divorce morrow.150million Nigerians are searching for their daily bread and you want to increase the number with your thoughtless plans. Pls rethink.

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@ topic, there's nothing wrong with her being an illeterate, if you really love her you can educate her.

I'm a good example, my girlfriend only went to a primary school but I love her and I'm ready to do anything for her. My friends criticise me and say she wont be able to go to outings with me but I dont care what others feel, it is what I feel that matters.

Follow your heart

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Bobo or playboy, you no get inner eye or make enquiry before you fall yakata, abi love dont blind you. Look even if she becomes crippled God forbid tommorrow, u have to marry her. It is your destiny. You can send her to school at least she will be exempted from kindergarten and nursery. So bro take her as i wish u a successful conjugal bliss.

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dnt marry her, ur marriage will be based on phonies.

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illitracy cannot be a barrier to marriage. most of our parents are illitrate yet they live  happily and were able to give most of us a quality education. so if you really love one another. GO AHEAD TO MARRY.

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My advice:- NO.

I don't have a problem with the age or her been and illiterate but d fact that she suggested getting her pregnant to make things work. PLS STAY OFF HER.

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You shouldn't marry an illiterate for any reason.

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You should ask yourself not us 'what you really want' because we don't know it.

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if you have to come here to ask if you should marry your girl, you probably should not marry her. but if she is fine with a big round juicy but and sexy abs, give her my email address moyinoloo@yahoo.com and scram because you sound like a loser

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wait, isn't this the same woye77?

first you are a male and here you are a female.

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-387185.0.html

so what are you, really?? another attention seeker, sigh. . .

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