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Should I Marry Her Now?

Please Ladies and Men i seek your advises. I have been in a relationship with a Girl since when i was in part one (undergradute) now i am a Bsc holder, started working last year in a financial sector, She just finished her Sec. Sch. last year but she insisted that we should get married but i tried to explain to her there are so many things that i wanted to posses like a Car and a House which are very vital since she just finished her sec. sch. she can go forward before i prepare. Please i need your honest advices.

Thank You.

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Introduction is not a bad idea except you dont want to make her feel secured.

She wants security.

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I am not going to tell you when to marry, I don't want anybody to suggest to me when to marry too. The fact that you are asking people shows you are not yet ready for the challenge. Relax, build yourself up and let her go to school.

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@Posters thanks all for your response. Actually she will be 20yrs on 12 of this month and i celebrated my 24yrs last december. I finished my Sec Sch 2003 and i get UME direct in 2004 in one of the Nigerian Uni i graduated at exactly 4yrs (2008) I was retained from where i served in August 2009. I wonder why posters always think otherwise.

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You have been going out with this girl since school and you just got a job.

She has been in a relationship with you and she has finished school[secondary].

Now she wants marriage and you want to buy a car first.

Let us review the scenario, 

You could not afford to go out with a big girl and you looked for a cheaper alternative.

She stuck by you.

She now wants you to show some level of commitment and you come to NL?

The people closest to us feel our hearts pulse,  she knows you will fly away without commitment.

Better go and do introduction at least ,  or else

you will be surprised that what goes around,  comes around.

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They got to be kidding, I guess.

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pls how old are you and your girlfriend for starters.

i bet she is prolly bout 16-17 now or something and you guys are talking about marriage

wow

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@Benny gee,r u thinking wat am thinking?

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i know people say,age has nothing 2 do with maturity,but honestly i do not think i believe that crap.age goes with maturity.u did nt tel us how old ur girlfriend is but considering u mentioned she just graduated from secondary school means she is a teenager n it wil b really unethical to marry someone that young.she hasnot lived life to know what marriage is all about, it is not jst about sex or even love itself, u may even be surprised that she may even be promiscous durin d marriage becos she hasnt meant other men to be certain of how she feels about u, let her grow and live her life.true love is wen u luv someone and dat per fils d same abt u.may b sure of ur filins 4 her becos u re more matured to distinguish and seen other women to be sure of wat u fil but she on the otherhand has no xperience, mariage is a lifetime tin,think properly but tyin that nut.

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Thank you my brother.i was about saying the same thing.

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U started dating the girl wen u were in part one and she has just finished secondary school that means she was prolly 12 or 13years old wen u started touchin her.doesnt that make u a paedophile ?or is she attendin adult education classes?

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@ima 1 and maury 1, Thank you and God bless you for the nice advice.

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i think you shld wait a while and let her get into the university, and when you are financially stable, get married. cuz if you do it now and start having kids, she'll end up with just a sec school education, and you might find it resentful in the future when you can't have an educated conversation with her, i say give her time to grow up. how old is she anyway?

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i really think you should go ahead and marry her now the material things like a car and a house the two of you can get together the great part of new marriages is building a foundation TOGETHER. she sounds like a good catch and so do you. whats the point in waiting. marry her and enjoy building your lives together. you will not regret it. and i wish you both well.

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