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Should I Marry Her Without Courting Her?

I am a relationship with a girl in naija while I am in UK. I knew her casually back then when I was in najia, I ran into her the last time I traveled to naija and collected her number. I spend a average of 30min on phone with her for the last 8 months. She has agreed to go out with me. I guess I like her enough to marry her.

Pls I need your advice from anyone with experience. Should I go ahead to marry her without courting her? What of if I discover some character traits that I don’t like? Or the time spend on phone is it enough to really know her?

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from xp dont fall for it. PLS be real, you nee to know who she really is. you cant know her over the phone even for the next 12 years. we all can act, so weak up. dont just think of marriage now ok. try to come around more spend some time with her. take it from me your idea about somethings will change

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sorry girl, i wasnt saying u looked white.

Gaylord, made a thread about ''how to toast a white girl in london''

so i thought he was looking for some1 white not black.

I dont even know how u look like

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I visited my friend in the village few years ago. while peeling Oranges  and enjoying ourselves beside the bush, i saw a young girl coming back  from the church with her mother, she was goodlooking and possessed most of the physical qualities that i wanted in a wife, few days later i went back to enquire about her and before you cld say jack,, we got married without any form of courtship except for the few times i spent with her before introduction,

   She s remained a wonderful wife since then, sooo, follow your heart

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@ blue sky

Why you feel say i dey look for Oyinbo? me am not picky o anywhere wey love and happiness dey there i pitch ma tent.

@gay lord

dat ya name dey freak me i dont want to share my man with other men o if not i for consider you.

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i wont honestly i mean i wont marry her as u said in ur post that u just knew/met ger casually while u were in/went to nigeria nigeria. trying to know her on phone man to mi it doesnt feel good enough. people will always say wat they r not on phone if u get wat am trying 2 say. its just my own opinion thou i wont dare try to do it.people might say i no chop liver oo but every 1 as there own opinions so do wat u think its right 4 u. peace

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no need to court, just go for it.

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a friend of mine did the same thing and it worked out for her,u cld try ur luck too and if it doesnt work out u can always opt out.but most importantly anyway pray over it.

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Wow--Cut-Bottom, Ur Replies r alwayz Long Abeg WHY?

Yes MARRY her!

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Dude you just answer your own question what if you find out something about her that you can't stand?

besides are you that Hot that you wan marry stranger? na watin your mama and papa go say??

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@topic, cute Bottom has said it all.Goodluck

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u dont have to be with someone all d time to court , if u want to no other tin about her u could tell ur friends or ur peaple to check her out 4 u

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@topic i kind of agree with @ ibdat

court her first not that phone thingy y'all doing !

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and dt same as courtin.

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@ Anabell

so what have been doin to her 4 d past 8months

I have been trying to get to know her better by spending time with her on phone.

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Court first. And please try to be in the same place with your girl. Some girl who have boyfriends abroad mess around here in Naija. Want stories? ive got a number of them.

Phone calls alone is not enough to know someone. Its possible to fake almost anything on phone.

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I will like to court her, but i wouldn't have time to spend with her in naija and she couldn't get an entry clearance since were not married.

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i guess so, since u have been talkin to her 4 d past 8months u should no  d type of person she is. some people court for just 2months and get married and are happy.

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