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Should I Relate My Health Problems To Her Beffore The Wedding?

We all ve our individual health challenges, both internal and external problems, majority of these problems we are completely aware of, but we never get to muster the courage to tell our partners even when we know we are so close to getting married.

I was speaking to a very lovely lady in church yesterday, whom i admire so much but completely hid my feelings from her and she revail her health problems to me. this she would never do if she knew my feelings for her, although she did it b/c i am a medical personnel and i ve already started proffering a Persia to her condition.

I work in an operating theatre where we see serious fertility cases rising from SALPINGECTOMY (removal of the fallopian tubes which may be single or bilateral in rare cases), ovarian cystectomy, etc being carried out on single ladies in their early 20s. 90% of this cases are purely hormonal disorder related as there are not caused by this innocent girls. But they are capable of causing delay but not total denial in conception which the average black man and his family will fail to understand.

The male folk is not left out of this problems as we vie seen young men with low sperm count, watery sperm, testicular absence, hormonal in-balance etc.

This problems are not reproductive related alone but general deceases affecting our bodies.

My question is do we go into serious relationships like marriage or even dating without telling our spouse our challenging health problems.? If you get married to some body before realising one of this problems what will your reaction be.

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yes i think you should tell ur partner about ur health status or condition,so he knows what he is getting into before marriage.women with only one tube can still get pregnant normally like someone with 2 tubes, even when the both tubes are removed she can still get pregnant via IVF.

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I personally, would feel very very bad. reasons later brb

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I think it's hard to talk about sensitive personal health problems with a partner because of the fear of rejection but it's necessary, because better they reject you before marriage, than afterwards, if rejection is going to occur. Honesty is the best policy and it will come out one day anyway so it's better to just get it over with.

Promoting stigma, eh? I think of course it's no one's dream to be HIV+ or to marry someone who is, but there are amazing people who do because of love and history and other reasons that are not easily understandable, and there is life with HIV; it doesn't have to be a death sentence. No but it's true, there needs to be full disclosure. You can't take the decision out of your partner's hands.

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I think people should learn how to tell the trust cuz I sincerely believe that "nothing is hidden under is sun", the earlier (b4 marriage) it surfaced, the better for both parties. If the health problem is nature and not nurture or even if its both, da other person should decide wat 2 do b4 "I DO", as for me, I tell oooooooooooo though I have no help problems sha

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If I love the guy soooooo much and he tells me he has HIV, i'll be mad as heck. I would go crazy but if I love him enough, we would never get married cos I wanna have biological kids so yeah, I would totally understand but I will be by his side anytime he needs me, that's for sure.

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Yes it's easy for me to say it. I think of the consequences of my actions before going ahead to them. I'd rather be single than lived a married life of lies.

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Chamo, if your fiancee doesn't tell you that she has such a disease,what do you want her to do, pass it to you?

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So easy to for u to say this. . . . . .

I say it depends on the kind of ailment. . . .Women are more likey to hide this kinda information. . . .

They are the ones who pressure men into marriage the most.

A wombless woman would zip up her mouth and say nowt.

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Of course. As soon as whoever asks the other out, you tell the person of your predicament. If he/she can take it good for him/her. If they can't, bye bye.

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as long as its not HIV

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I agree with ika6. If the love is there, no health problem can stand in its way. It's best to tell someone you are about to get married to about health problems, contagious or not.

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Yeah. It would be silly not to.

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