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Should I Tell Her?

I met my girlfriend thru her brothers friend sumtime last year, Before I met her I was approach by her brothers friend who told me abt his friends sister who needed a boyfriend and he said I should call her, I told him I was not interested but he said he wanted her to know that at least he has tried for her and all that, So I call her abt a week leta, My main objective was just to call her and say hi, When I called her she just started asking difference kinds of questions as if I was writing an exam, So I lied to her abt my level in skool and my age cos I was just playing along with her, Whats really hurting is that we got along very well and we have been dating now for more than a year, Each time I look at her smiles my heart aches, I am really scared if I tell her that I lied abt my level and that I will be graduating in the next 3years plus she is a few months older than I am, its possible we break up cos we will soon be graduating next year, I am willing to take whatever comes out of it like a man but I just want to know your opinion abt the matter,

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Thank you everyone for your replies and advises, I have already told her and she felt very bitter abt it, Every thing is getting better now and she is hoping to forget and carry on. We said she still loves me and will not break up because of that. Guess I have learnt from my mistake, We have new plans now and a brighter future, no more lies and deceit.I know she is the right girl for me,

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what u got through ;ies, wont stay.

i suggest u tell her the whole truth and let it go.

she might hate u for it, or might stick around and see u through it.

onething i know about ladies is that you cant lie to them for long.

they will surely findout.

possible she knows, just decided to ignore the topic until u are sensible enough to bring it up.

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What is not yours is not yours.

If you didn't want here initially, and you knew your academic status and age will not go well with her intentions, you shoulda simply told her all

But as e be say you don lie; it won't be wrong to say you had an intention.

However things are, tell her the truth and nothing but the truth. . . . .thats if you have good intentions for her!!

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thats a good question! i guess the poster must be waist deep into his own fantasy world (lies)

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for one year? wow, u've really been hard on urself.

so tell me, how many lies have u lied to cover up the lies u have been lying?

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You didn't want to have anything to do with her and you lied to her barefaced? That's not fair and tell you what, you're dumber than she is because you just made a fool of yourself. Why did you lie to her about your educational status as being higher when you're actually lower? Age doesn't really mean anything but if you weren't out to get her, why did you lie to boost your status? The thing is you made up all your lies to impress her and make you supposedly look like a "big boy". As much as you're concerned about how much she'd ache, I think you'd worry more about your image with her because as far as I'm concerned, it's deteriorated already. Tell her like it is and suffer the shame. . . . . . who knows, she just might accept and let is slide. And what kind of lady is she that her brother's friend had to place an ad on her behalf to hunt for boyfriends?

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so let me understand what you are saying.

you are older/younger than she thinks you are, you are dumber than she thinks you are and you have been together for a year and she hasnt seen "the light" yet?

man you are either a pretty good liar or she just dont really care about the subject.

the problem is that the longer you wait , the harder it will be to tell her about it.

let me ask you this, if a girl told you that she was a virgin when she wasnt and that you waited some few yrs to shag her only to discover that she wasnt, wouldnt you be pissed?

do not do to others what you would not like to be done to you.

come clean asap.

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