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Should I Wait For Her?

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I am a youg man in late twnenties working in one of the oil servicing company, though i ve neva been into a relationship ,i thought of settling down. I met a very good girl but she was an ssce holder, 24 years, so i decided to finance her to the university. all preparation were made, ssce, neco, jamb and she was admitted to a five years course, UMUDIKE. I dont think i cant wait for five years. I want to marry in less than a year from now and i dont want to fornicate because i have kept myself for long, please kindly advice me, what should i do

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Mr. John

marry her now before you expire for her mind. , . Even when you get married to her there's no garantee she's goin' to remain faithful (she might feel itched and wonna scratch).

I knw a guy who is hittin' it off with a girl that is engaged to a fella that is paying her school fees.

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Moneyrule, so na u dey always give my daughta belle dey comot am abi? Y me, no wori, u go pack comot 4 my house. Two married women no go fit stay unda 1 roof.

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moneyrule thank you well well

my mama no know say him husband dey carry her sales girl dey go one corner

abeg no let am know say na me tell you o

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yes o

of course i trust you now

infact you nor know say i don dey like you

but my mama no go gree make i come dey greet you

she say me i too spoil

abeg moneyrule, na true she dey talk

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@ y me

u mean say no be only mama bomboy self? Him dey carry mary dat una sales girl too? Na wa 4 am sef.

no worry,i no go tell ur mama say na u tell me, u know say me,i no go fit do u dat kin thing.

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@ patwhizkid

e fit be say him steal dat one come join am 2 d 2kobo wey u give am so e go enuf for two rounds. I know my y me, she no dey do dat kin thing.

@ y me

u know say i go always dey dere for u. No mind ur mama.

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If you can't wait, then marry her. And you both can decide not to have children until she's through with her education.

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Moneyrule, i give my oga 2kobo 4 sachet wata & biscuit b4 im comot 4 house, na my daughta steal d money. y me, ur bobo don give u d money? I wan cook portte 4 ya papa o.

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Guy, I think if you both are ready, then go for it.

As for the issue of her getting pregnant in school, there are ways to get around that so just be careful. And if indeed she does fall pregnant, nothing spoil. In my uni days, a coursemate got pregnant, she kept attending school till she was heavy and only took some months off. She lost a year no doubt, but I still dont think she did badly. And na Enginerring we do.

So my broda, have no fear. I wish you well.

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rozeey, whatz ur stress, why are u hmmming?

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Datz my girl, i will buy u biscuit and pampers, ok? Stop crying.

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marry am now ooooooooooo b4 water go change level

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aus, y me is my daughter, and i want d best 4 her. I am thru with my lectures 4 2day. Y me, oya run 2 education now!

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Oya, make u zip ur skirt/trouza well o, so dat im no go phock u o.

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mummy john na that broda wey dey stay nxt door

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I must flog u, because now there is not even 1 strip of apacha left in d house 2 eat let alone gari 2 soak. We have 2 go and boro gari and buy ewa on credit 4 ur papa 2 eat wen he comes back 4rm job interview. Oya, go meet ur bobo make im give u money. Besides, wu is john?

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abeg now

i promise i didnt steal the money o

it was broda john that gave it to me

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y me, i will flog u when i get home, so u stole d money 4 soup dat i kept under d bed to go to d cafè eh? U are fired! No food 4 u 2nite. Oya, run to education now b4 i chop off ur head!

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@yme

Tnx sis,,,,

@Pat

Who re u referring to,

Are thru 4 today,

I still have one lecture,

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aus123 i feel you bro

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Some pple are becoming 2 proud of themselves in dis forum o. I will deal with him.

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@Johnson

Don't fear broda,

You gat our back,

Do d needful!!!

Thanks for your honest responses,

NL. I think we all doing great in this forum,

Is all abt making positive impact in one's life,

Kudos to all!!!!!

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thank you vey much, godmother, aus123, tytylayo, omolola and others for you advice, I did loved her and she has been so faitrhful though she is in schooling in diffrent state. My problem is i wanted the marriage and she seconded, but i just thoght about her ordeal if she gets pregnant immediately after the marriage. however i really appreciate you all for this candid advice. i hope to plan on that. thank you candidly

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thank you vey much, godmother, aus123, tytylayo, omolola and others for you advice, I did loved her and she has been so faitrhful though she is in schooling in diffrent state. My problem is i wanted the marriage and she seconded, but i just thoght about her ordeal if she gets pregnant immediately after the marriage. however i really appreciate you all for this candid advice. i hope to plan on that. thank you candidly

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@ Godmother

You re just so adorable,

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Johnson if you really love this girl, then marry her in a year's time as u want. While I was in school, a lot of my friends got married in school. Where the difficulty comes in is if she gets pregnant.

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you two need to talk about it

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i second u on ur post, but on d issue of married ladies on campus, it depends on d way u present urself,  av seen a couple, which d lady was in school and d hubby is in lagos here, they got no problem, its only d lady dat's even suspectin d husband,

wat am tryin to say is dat she maintain her intergrity while in school, it was in her final year they now decided to av a baby

so @poster, if u trust ur wife-to-be u can go on marry her, let her continue wit her schooling

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@Johnson

Do u really lv her or u just want to get married,

Well, it depends on what u want,

These are some of the pertinents questions:

Are u living in the same city with her campus,

Have u c a married lady on campus: what was ur experience abt them, (this can b ur fears),

Have u made ur intentions knows to her and what are her response,

What abt arranging a Partime studies 4 her,

Build ur trust,

Think of the future and do it now both of u re still young,

Pray also,

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mmmmmmmmmmmmm sleeping open eye. will she still want to marry you after she finishes her school? will you continue to be an attractive option then or you are just good for paying school fees?

think this trough cos someone else is hurting on NL over something similiar.

wish you luck.

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i am thinking of the strees that might cause, combining education with marriage and sometimes childs bearing, do you think i am beign fare

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If you really want her, then marry her in a year's time as you plan. Abi dem say girls no de marry for school?

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@Pat

You have started again,

@Yme

Don't mind her jare,

She is just joking,

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