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Should Looks Affect The Way We Trust A Babe/Guy?

I really appreciate the fact that I don't look anything close to "OBJ". Having said that, I'm begining to see one little problem with being either a cool guy or a cute babe. Like I said, it's almost an insignificant issue, but I think one needs to consider it anyways.

Why do people always assume that once a guy is cool and trendy, he's a player? Or, if a girl is cute and got class then she's a LovePeddler? I've had bad starts with girls sometimes cus they don't believe me when I tell them they are the only one in my life.

Why should we think a girl with Beyunce's body and J-lo's face can't be with just one guy? A friend said he can't marry a pretty girl cus she's going to be too much problem, I strongly disagree with that. What about you ladies and gents, what do you think?

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I suppose insecurity rears its ugly head in the cases.

In ma last relationship, we did have that issue - he really didnt trust that i have noone else just him, and i thought the same.

And it didnt work - so i suppose if i wanna be with someone and the person is interested then i need to get it in ma head that he truly wanna be with me.

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I'm kinda cool with extremely pretty ladies, i've quite huge confidence which i think has helped a lot. But the only problem is the arrogance and artificial lifestyle attached to them. A man wants to wake up next to a lady without make ups, to "feel" her, appreciate her, but most pretty girls rush out of bed to give their face a "touch up". They always aways want to look perfect all the time, "even in bed".

Also there is this arrogance i've noticed with the few i've been with, it just pisses me off. They find it hard to submit.

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big Bottom vcky or what ever you call your self what is the meaning of that

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people these days are very shallow, but then again i don't blame them because it seems that the good-looking ones use this windfall of theirs to play around. but then, noot all eggs are bad.

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You can have it both ways: Date a very cute gal or guy and expect others not to eye him or her.

No be only you like better thing.

the simple truth, beleieve it or not, is that most baeutiful/sexy guys and chicks flirt a lot more often, for the simple reason that;

1. Their beauty may enter their head

2. It doesn't cost them anything to date with whoever they want to.

3. they are more often subjected to temptation

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I feelm like having Bleep right now,you guy in this forum are too tempting, especially the girls

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look you guys and ladies are just concentrating on looks of a guy,I personally think that every relationship involves a three lettered word, PUT PATIENCE UNDERSTANDING AND TOLERANCE . Also whenever you wanna date a guy you shold be able totrust that person, even ugly guys do flirt around, so its just based on the person's personality or character, not based on his or her looks, i have even seen cute guys and girls hu still stick to their spouse despite the fact that they always encounter other admirers.

anyway me i am still onthe look out for a lady sha, cos i just suffered a terrible heartbreak from my ex. mike 08055618228

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@white nkem; love ur words. . simply da truth!!

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Wait till you are ready to fall in love so that I see if you decide who you fall in love

with

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Cute Guyz Ke not in my Dictionary

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Thanx. You are a darling

I really appreciate

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I don't do pretty boys usually. . .has nothing to do with them cheating or not. . .its the overwhelming arrogance that puts me off (becoz they know they fine and think they are the greatest thing since slice bread) however there are exceptions because looks don't always coincide with behavior, so exceptions always make my day.

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I think every body has made a reasonable contribution. However, I'm just wondering where the world got this idea that it's only the pretty ones that cheats in a relationship.

  In this life I've come to notice that it's actually the not too pretty that does the sleeping around. How? Well, inferiority complex. Because they are never too sure of their looks, they're ready to compensate the first guy that tells them they are cute with their engine room. The same thing for the guys, once they have a little extra bucks in their pocket they tend to get arrogant and all that. They'll believe the more babes you bed, the more the world can notice their arrival into the money world.

   So people, looks doesn't make you promiscous, no. It's the mind set of the individual that does that. As for me, I've made up my mind that am going to marry a very cute chic.

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I think every body has made a reasonable contribution. However, I'm just wondering where the world got this idea that it's only the pretty ones that cheats in a relationship.

In this life I've come to notice that it's actually the not too pretty that does the sleeping around. How? Well, inferiority complex. Because they are never too sure of their looks, they're ready to compensate the first guy that tells them they are cute with their engine room. The same thing for the guys, once they have a little extra bucks in their pocket they tend to get arrogant and all that. They'll believe the more babes you bed, the more the world can notice their arrival into the money world.

So people, looks doesn't make you promiscous, no. It's the mind set of the individual that does that. As for me, I've made up my mind that am going to marry a very cute chic.

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Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personality

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And loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Hot. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.

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The likes of omo eko and others don't really have the charistma couples with all it takes to date an handsome man let alone a very handsome one, simply because they are not ready to compete as result of a psychological defect of given up cheaply, knowing that spirit of strong will is not in them to go for an handsome guy and as such settle for what they feels is okay by them due to what they all described as insecurity

People of their nature failed to understand what makes a man handsome is not really his charming appearance but his behavoiral ways and attitudes. A very handsome man that is responsible enough can easily be tamed by the lady of substance who is sure of what she wants from such a man not minding the stress and pains they go through, before their dreams come through.

The most important thing is that they believed in getting results as good things does not come cheaply the way people think. It is high time for you to go back and re-examine yourself, cos you desrved the good things of life and you must go for it. Stopped motegaging and underestimating your life and future. There is a need for you to aim high if you really want to be there.

Finally learn how to excercise patience, endurance persevearance and in all be ready to be submisive, otherwise even when you settle for an average guy and get carried away by the euphoria of not being much attractive to the ladies around, bet it with me you might still end up to fall a victim of circumstances. what i've posted might sound silly or foolish, but you no what?. Try to have a resolute mind relax and go over it again, i believe it will really change your life positively.

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the bottom line for me is that i'm not gonna date a guy who is cuter than me, i wouldn't want women with their wandering eyes all over my guy, but i want other guys to say 'how this guy land this babe'.

but anyway that is my own o, i am the woman i should be hotter than my husband, thats my rule, but that doesn't mean i want to marry an ugly man.

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If a guy is VERY hansome, down to earth and really sincere I will date him but he should not feel too hansome

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sad story uspry1, one day love will find you. dont bother looking for it anymore. and did you say u know how to do sign language? thats brilliant. can u also try to edit ur post so that we can understand it pls pls pls. Finally to those of you who cant date extremely fine guys i dont mind, redirect them my way abeg.

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@curved

I am talking about a girl who trusts you 100% confidence in a relationship---NO DOUBTS!!!

For example, Black American basketball player Kobe, Magic Jordan or black comedian Eddie Murphy!

I had dated few guys who are one-girl guy until the inconsistency communications in a lengthy relationship occurred, all of sudden guy got cold feet when it comes to marriage. I do not understand, guy are the ones to break me up---RUN AWAY!!! I am tired of too many heartbrokens, now not anymore, I accept who I am being independent woman, letting go my feeling hope one day i will fall in love again with someone new and get married. Love does not exist for me!!!

I also sing to my favorite song, "HIS EYES IS ON THE SPARROW" with my own voice solo in sign language for the purpose to praise the LORD for thanking HIM to give me STRONGER and TURN ME AROUND to move on my life. I know myself that I AM NOT ALONE, because HE always there for me, NEVER FORSAKE me!!!!

That's why I joined this Nairaland as my another fellowship enjoying typing/reading everyday to FORGET THE PAINS!!!

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handsome, modest and down to earth = yes

handsome, cocky and "the next available girl is just around the corner" attitude = NO

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u can marry a really handsome and sexy guy, if u trust and give him his space with out gettin into his face all d time and u will have a lovely relationship

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ronni slimz has said it all

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Denzel Washington is a sex symbol,

(Very handsome and Famous)

He's been married to same wife since 1983

Renewed marriage vows in 1995.

In a place like America!

Looks are really important thr you know.

He has made a difference

what could be his secret.

I can guess,

he trusted his wife and ,

His wife trusted him!

Thats all, No insecurity

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My heart bleeds for the above scene! In my case, i'm a one-girl guy (which most girls do not believe anyway!). When she gets too naggy and unnecessary suspicious, it's time to move on. This hurts, as it compels u to break up. That's my point! I don't do more than one girl at a time, even then, there's no loving without condoms dear!

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@RuuDie

DO U WANT THE TRUTH OR THE LIE. don't worry will keep my comment to myself

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looks shouldn't influence anybody's judgement of another individual but sometimes it just can't be helped 'cos what is d 1st thing u see of anybody b4 u get 2 know 'em?

here's an example , 4rm her looks what d'u think 'bout her?

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@Curved

I dare you to answer my question:

If you are extremely sexy handsome hunky with full of affectionate, caring, respect your own girl who is totally trust you 100% fully without having unnecessary suspicions, all of sudden, you got tempted to betray your own girl receiving HIV positive test from someone else?

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[li]What you do with that girl you love very much but cheated on her?[/li]

[li]why screw up the relationship your girl is totally innocent you caused her? [/li]

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That part I do not understand at all!!! To me, cheater is cheater, period!!!

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Segedoo, i'm interested, how do u find out? When she tells u she wants to see u everyday? Nah, my man! She's doesn't trust u enough to let u outta her sight!

Ronnie-slimz, why u dey pitch me against Omo Eko? Abeg o! i no wan somebody to drive me from Eko o! But i dey feel u sha!

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There are many guys who are not one fourth of being fine and are big time flirts. I believe that personality and the individual's principles matter a lot and do last longer than the beauty/handsomeness which will fade away one day. If the feelings are mutual with a lot of love and respect for each other, they will surely go the distance.

But, looks are usually the first basic appearance-attraction. It all depends on your taste.

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The only thing that could be responsible for all such things is inferiority complex. There is no guy too handsome nor any girl too pretty to be dated, Simple.

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@ curved

i had a similar experience too.

there are ways to findout if the person u love is for real or not.

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It's funny how some females in here are saying how they will date a guy who is drop generous only if he loves herhummmm so u think becos he loves u, he wont cheat on u, plz na there u sit. ***rolling eyes***

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Seems like everyone's pretty much saying the same thing here. Bottomline is, we would date you, love you and stay with you alone if you'd stop the unnecessary suspicions and distrusts. Some guys get pushed beyond limits by their women. Trust me, i've got a personal experience!

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i will love to date and marry a very handsome, and really sexy guy, all them girls cand look at him, but i wont care one bit,cos i no at d end of d day he is going home with me and he is mine

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hmm if everyone don't want to go out with the really sexy, cute, handsome people i wonder who will? I WILL because not all sexy guys are cocky, some are down to earth. i really believe a relationship should be based on personality not on looks

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There really is no big deal in dating a cute guy.I would most certainly date a cute guy if i love him.My guy is really cute,and i love him.

As long as u both av God as the foundation of ur marriage or relationship,u av nothg to worry abt cos the Holy spirit will always prompt u when u want to go astray.

If nobody wants to date cute guys,then what happens to them.

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@VCKY99

No, I am not searching for guy. It ain't like "White Knight armour on a white horse". I also do not believe in vain imaginations---God forbids!! I used to be daydreamer!!! Now dreamer is for FOOLS!!!

In the past in my secondary school years, i was unattractive, flat-chested, flat-Bottom, and skinny everyone MAKE FUN OF ME so cruel. 10 years and 20 years later at my secondary school class reunion i visited, almost all guys' mouth opening so wide seeing how I turn out---NO LONGER SKINNY, NO LONGER FLAT-CHEST/Bottom! Just like a children's book that i always remember the story, "The Uglying Duck". That is exact who I am, does not matter what!!!

Few guys remembered me how much I changed differently. Lot of girls including my family and  relatives---all females keep asking me what is my secret of my youth appearance.

@prog-whiz

No, I don't keep track of writing diary. I have experienced through.

I disagreed with your statement about not dating guy who is extremely handsome that means I am not extremely beautiful. I personally do not feel that way, i am happy with my physical look that GOD CREATES me uniquely. For myself, i have difficult receiving nice compliments that I never have before, such as "you are beautiful", it make me blush or giggling, but inside my feeling, i don't feel myself beautiful. I consider myself pretty that is good enough for me.

I don't care if this guy is Mr. Universe, movie star, singer, or celebrity, there is still slight problem of insecurity when it comes to flocks of girls surrounding him, hard to build trust and worthy in relationship. I am not that type of person to grab around my man's arm rolling my eyes on girls saying,"he is mine, don't touch him". That is immature absurd behavior!

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I tend to keep away from "pretty" boys. Especially when they are well aware that they are good-looking.

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i judge people by their behavior, and I'm almost always right!!!!!!!!!!!!!

once a slut always a slut

if they betrayed someone else, they would betray you

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omo eko let's c d pix , na we guyz go fit talk if u fine

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like most people i appreciate the fine and wonderful things of life and that includes cute guys

I like them pretty boys nothing too 'rugged' but its going to be hard dating someone who is so fine dat all the girls got their eyes on him cos no matter how much i feel i trust him and am worth it , am still going to be a lil bit insecure

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uspry1: u must ve been keeping dt diary for sometime now

if u girls say u can't date someone who is extremely handsome , does dt mean u re nt extremely beautiful ?? and should guys run away frm u for being extremely beautiful ?

well most people see d physical looks bt the main beauty is inside & it is discovered,u can only gt attracted to d physical beauty bt u get involved with d inward beauty

outward beauty is for the crowd

inner beauty is for few if nt one

so if any guy is after my chic because she is miss universe its normal & i should be sensible enough to know dt

bt if dy get involved dn d prior involvment has probably faded away

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Like they say Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, everyone's saying i don't want to date ugly guys, u may think he is foine but to others he is not.

I too agree that i will not marry someomne every one would want to have as their boyfriend, but an average looking guy will be good, also i don't judge by being handsome but how they look to you, do u fit each other and be proud of who your going out with

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well dearstan, i knw hw experiences cud b bitter but we all knw of d sayin dat "we all fall 2 rise again", no offence, but dont u think dat givin up on 9ja babes cos of experiences make u look more cowardly, i min efri1 av had deir share of experiences n dats lyf, poo hapns, its hw we move on dat differs, pze

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No offence, but Nigeria girls are so blinded by their quest for money irrespective what the guy looks like. I wouldn't know if its my fault that i was born handsome. Most girls in Nigeria, girls i genuinely liked never trusted me and ended up  discouraging me. I have concluded in my life that marraige would never be with someone of nigeria blood. My xperience have given me this opinion so dont blame me.

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And i don't want my husband average but i want him to look attractive, at least when i look at him i want to see handsome not Cute or one of those pretty boys type.

No guy will ever tell a female that she's too Beautiful and pretty to be his wife because every guy want a stunning, beautiful lady by their side and to be the mother of his children

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