My sister met her husband 10 years ago, he was her first boyfriend and they were 2 lovebirds, a year after they met he proposed to her and she accepted, everyone was happy for her because she was the quiet, morally upright and, gentle and serious type. There was an engagement ceremony with family members of the two of them in attendance. The engagement was to be preceded by church/registry wedding but then the guy had other plan. He wanted to travel out and he didn't want them to waste money for this, he talked her into consenting with promises that he will send for her as soon as he was settled. she consented after talking upon talking and she got pregnant, he left the country shortly.
He was really great, helpful, lovely and generous the first few years and attempted once to get her in but it didn't work out. After a while things changed; no more phone calls, no more money transfer etc, i remember her crying like a baby always saying this wasn't their agreement. All efforts to get him failed, even his mum who was once loving started avoiding her. She was able to get his new no from his cousin who was not happy with the wayshe was treated and she called only to hear what no one ever wished for 'i have no wife'. We called and called and called all to no avail, years after years and at a time i gave up and advised her to forget him, that sounded like too cruel to her. She claimed it's practically impossible for her to, the child she gave birth to is now 9 and she is still waiting for a miracle that will bring him back to her.
Do you think this is wise? A whole 9 years and this guy still insist he has no wife at least not in Nigeria, she could not just imagine having any relationship she kept praying, fasting, hoping and trusting God that he will call back for her. I have tried my best to make her forget him but the last time i was home she is still waiting.