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Should She Go And Meet Him?

my gurl friend was asking me if she should go and see a boy she is newly developing a relationship with. he came visit her,now its her turn. I personally feel that men should do the travelling till they are engaged . what are ur views on this.

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she should never go and meet him at his house alone untuil she know him better but they should meet in a public place ET VOILA!!!!!

wanting that guy to travel to her, pay for the bill all the time might be equally viewed as taking advantage of others. 50/50 is the only to solve that problem

if they are both struggling financially then 50/50 IS the only way to go and i dont see why that guy should pay the whole bill

and if she is silly enough she will fall for it and help him out.

well is that not what you want HIM to do?

thats not being nice, thats being gullible and silly(excuse my french)

what else has your aunt told you? i guess if you do think like that then your girlfriend should bring a chaperon like yourself to all her dates and the problem will be solved.

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Deres no big deal if she goes but she shld be creful he dosnt misinterpret her visit

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as a girl (i speak for myself oh!) i feel safer in my territory. whatever happens to me in my home, i can control to an extent. let him do the travelling. at least at first. as a woman i get nervous travelling in naija. all those buses that break down anyhow in the middle of nowhere and stuff . it scares me.

all that risk for a man you just met?

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bring it on nairalanders u gat some good thoughts.

Ugo Daniel u hit the nail in the toe. u gat some good points dere. thank u all nairalanders, plz keep the suggestions coming.

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She needs to shine her eyes well well, so that she no play mugu

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the problem I have here is people taking advantage of others. many people just like to take advantage of a nice woman. for instance, if a guys complains of a bill, "oh I cannot pay this". the woman who is equally struggling financially helps out. he may keep requesting for more financial favors. or if she pays for his food once, he may ask her to keep paying. and then if this guy dumps the girl later, then he meets someone he truly treasures, he may borrow money from his friend just to make a good impression to this new girl. I know this is somewhat off topic, but that's just my opinion.I've a lot of things happen to my nice female friends. so I kind of "look out for them".I understand the 50:50 thing, but I was talking to my aunt oneday, she said that it is better to start visiting after engagement. let the man be the man. I dunno . I guess different strokes for different folks. and I worry that 50:50 may turn out to nice:419

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if he came to visit her then she should travel to see him, 50:50, don't let everything be 1 way

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We don't live in the stone age anymore, offcourse she should go and see him , why not?

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