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Sos: Should I Give Up?

brothers u need to help me out here.therez this pretty girl in my neigbhorhood i am crazy about who talks to no one and i was even getting scared of her.recently i found a way to get to her and we became close friends.But the day i made my intentions known to her she became mad saying i did all i did to "buy" her.i apologised for that and we are still friends but she has sworn she cnt date,with no reason at all.she always vists me at my place of work.i find i am glued to her because i call her say 4 times everyday.wot should i do,do i give up or just let things the way they are or give her some space to sort herself out.please help me am going nuts,

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you don't have to lock your line,just make sure you are not the one to call her,pick her calls and act nice,if you have to call her,don't go into long conversations as before,read through the lines and observe her reactions.

Then you can then go back to the old story.I thik she has been hearthbroken before and its just difficult for her to see that you are real.

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nope, you mean you want to block your line just becos of that babe? is not worth it my dear, just dnt call her, and stop seein her, let her do the callin and the seein. keep yourself busy so u dont think about her too much

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thank you all for these heartbuilding comments.really i am so in love with her that she sure is capitalising on that to hurt me.i will try to withdraw a little. and see how things go.just this morning she called me asking for my camcorder to use on her birthday.i will keep away a while,block my line so she doesnt call me and se if she will bother to look for me if she tries my line to no avail.just give me any further advice.stay blessed you all

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@poster,

i dont understand why she should be angry that you tried winning her heart by buying her trousers, and what did you say when she got angry about it?

she does not look like a sensible girl to me and i dont see why winning her heart should be a problem for you.

you are afraid of her and she is capitalizing on it. yu need to take total control of the whole thing, and stop treating her like the only thing that matters, always remember that she is just a woman and not a goddess

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The point is that the "girl psychology" is not the "realistic" type.I mean getting a girl to like you is not something you achieve by being reasonable by trying to display those kind gestures of yours.So next time, don't offer to do any such thing for her. Why, 'cos now you didn't keep her on her toes by showing a kind of "i don't care attitude" which will keep her guessing.

What am saying is that she's got the impression that you "over-like" her and it scares every sane girl away cos it will appear as if u re needy, clingy and desterate to get into her pants.

What i think u do now is, initiate contact again, tease her VERY well and don't act like her friends,if she doesn't give you attention, man, you 've got to go on and don't make that mistake of being nice again.

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My guy burst am o. This your story remind me of what happened to me. Was in a relationship for 4 years plus with fine babe that treated me like rubbish. All because I loved her, without being loved in return. Omo, bail o. Before you waste your time on this useless tart.

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well, you hav indicated your interest in her and she simply told you that she doesnt want to date you yet she still calls,visist and send you text messeges, is possible that she had a heart braek and is using you to cure it. try and call her less and see her less.

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like that rapper DMX talk

if you like something too much, make you let am go, if e come back to you then its all good,

if e no come, then the thing was never ya own.

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thanx once again y'all.whenever we meet we do have good conversations.she texts me almost everyday.she doesnt look to me like the "i am not interested type".maybe shez just playing hard to get but i dont want to lay my hope on that coz she did tell me in her words: "not that i dont want but i just cant".what is this supposed to mean?

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Oboy just chill and let things play out.

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Is she really worth all that wahala?

u sef, try and make small iyanga now.

give her space . . see if she comes around or not.

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Maybe you rushed things.

Next time you see her, greet and try starting a conversation with her; get to know her and know what she like and dislikes before thinking of buying her something.

Finally; there’s a difference between hard-to-get and I’m-not-interested; so make sure she’s not playing the I’m-not-interested part; if she is, then forget about her and look for someone else.

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thanks stereo2.the reason she said i wanted to buy her was because i saw her bargain to buy a trouser and she dint have the money to buy.when she left i i met the sales girl and paid for the trouser.so the next time she passed by she was given the trousers but she dint get angry ,she appreciated it until the day i made my intentions known.she was angry that i approached her wrongly.but God knows it was just a noble gesture.i just needed a point of contact.pls help me ladies

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I think U have to find out why she accused you of buying her "cos it might be that she's got the wrong impression from boys who buy her heart and pretend to love her whereas they 've got some plans. From what you are saying now, i think you 've hit yourself in the foot by acting so nice as if you are begging to kiss her Bottom.

As for me i would say you should give her sometimes, some space and after a while, make attemt again and let's see what will happen.

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