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Submissive Or Independent - Which Quality Do You Prefer In Your Partner And Why?

And women, do you feel like your man is weak if he allows you to be too independent in the relationship?

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i prefer both coz 1 cnt make a gud home.

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i prefer someone who is independent and dependent

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Neither. I prefer cooperative

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I think in any relationship there is always a leader and a follower, in nigeria and most of africa it is the men. I think for most women we arent dominant in nature so we cant stand weak men. We need to be dominated but with a touch of care as well and we love the men that can dominate us with our crazy behaviours. When i mean dominate i mean of the mind not strength mind strength

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I think when you care more about yourself or your dwindling ego than you do about the success of your relationship, it is doomed to fail from the start.

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LOLOL, when I said a team leader, I don't mean one who bosses the other around. That's childish.

As ceremonial as the position of the leader is, you have to realize that once things get out of control, a leader sees to it that everything goes back in accordance.

Take marriage for an example: a husband or a wife (depends on which one is the leader in that area) will make sure that the family atleast have a family meeting to talk things through. What is needed in the house, what problem surrounds each person and how they can all work it out. The captain makes sure the family prays together. A family that prays together stays together AND fights together.

The woman, as a captain, makes sure that her family is fed when she's home and when she's not home. The woman, as a captain, makes sure her children are doing the right thing at home, outside the house, and in school.

The woman, as a captain, makes sure her house is well kept and clean.

And as the overhead captain of the house, the man makes sure that his wife and children are on the safe side and that everything is well to keep his family together.

Women who wants to depend on their partner financially WILL need to give him the wheels in the relationship.

If your man is responsible and you trust him, when things goes in awry, you'll need to submit to him to do the right thing.

It does not mean you, as his partner, are just going to sit there. You'll do anything you can to help, but at the same time, you gotta listen to him to get things back in the right order.

I've come to realize that submission is actually not quite as cruel as it sounds, when respect and good communication is applied.

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Some people prefer the role of submissive or they end up living in that role.

Yes, its true one gets bored with weak minded men.  .  .but i don't think all bossy women become so because they had no choice.  Naturally if you pick a weak minded individual, your bossy attitude will overpower him/her.

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i dont like the sound of submissive

it leaves a bad taste in my mouth

i like a man that understands

a man that wouldnt let me have my way everytime simply because my way isnt always the right way

and a man that would let me have my way when its the best possible option

though the sound of my again doesnt ring right

it should be an 'our way' not anybody's individual way

okay too much english

basically a nice balance between the two

tho illd rather not have submissive

it should be more of cooperative

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Submissive. . . .jk

both

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if most women know the power of a meek and quiet woman they would thank God daily for being a woman. i like a strong quiet woman. it is very beautiful.

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i'd say both of them

but there has to be a nice balance between the two

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A guest called into the Michael Baisden show this week and said that the reason she has to be so bossy and independent in her relationship is because her man does not step up to the plate and take the lead. She said that she feels like she has to wear both the pants and the skirt in the relationship.

Someone else called in and said that his sister usually picks weak men to date also, but that her relationships never lasts because she gets bored with those weak minded men as well.

The host of the show was actually trying to convince women that they would get more out of their relationships if they were submissive instead of being bossy and too independent. ALL of the bossy women said that they had no choice but to be bossy because the men were so weak.

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What is allow abeg. Why does he have to "allow" me before I do anything. The weak ones are the ones that place restrictions. They are simply afraid that the woman will do better. Those kind of men I don't even regard as human beings. A smart man does not care about irrelevant things. He is thinking about how to better provide his family and love them not wondering if his wife is too independent. Is she in jail?

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Define for me please?

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